I want to become a childrens doctor, but-?
First of all, it did not seem like you know much about the process. Actually do some research on it. If you're passionate about something, you don't take the easy root. Life is not handed to you on a platter. However to get into Med School i can understand the difficulties (it is the path i am currently headed in myself) its usually 4 years undergrad, 4 years med school, then 2 years internship, or 5-6 years internship if you want to specialize. Depending on your age (i'm guessing around high school) you have plenty of time to figure out what you want to do with your life. I would suggest nursing. If you really want to be around kids in a medical setting, nurse at a hospital specialized for kids. (eg. Sick Kids in Toronto). Don't be in a rush to finish school. These are the best times of your life. And once you get out, you'll want to be back in. The workload is tough, but i don't mind doing it for 10-14 years. If you really want it, time is not a factor. I recently joined the pre-med society in my school, and i think they say it best, "doctors do it with patience"
My boyfriend is a surgeon in training. He's always at the hospital and I don't feel he pays enough attention to my needs. He seems distant. Should I break up with him?
Your significant other is training to be a medical doctor. I can understand how you feel, my wife is doing the same thing. I've been through the highs and lows. I know what it's like to feel neglected, ignored, and alone. It sucks.But here's the situation, Your boyfriend is going through rigorous training. Not just any training, really hard training. Like incredibly fucking hard. How hard?It's extremely selectiveMedical school has one of the lowest acceptance rate of any "professional" school. Only 19,000 people graduate from medical school each year. Over 500,000 applications are sent out in the same time. On top of that, surgical residencies have one of the lowest acceptance rates of medical residencies. Less than 10% of med students get the chance to go into surgery and fewer still get in. Surgery is one of the toughest jobs to get in to.It's a very, very long roadFour years of undergrad. Potentially two years of postbac. Four years of medical school. Five years of residency. That's up to 15 years of school before you get to really be a doctor.The hours are crazyHere's a real schedule from a real surgical resident:Mon-Tues: 30 hours (call) Wed: 13 hoursTh: 13 hoursFri: 13 hoursSat-Sun: 30 hours (call)That's 100 hours of work a week. There are only 168 hours in a week! That barely leaves enough room to sleep, let alone maintain a budding relationship.The training is toughYou are learning to use your hands and some tools to cut people open, fix their insides, and put them back together. Think about that for a moment. Really ponder it. Surgeons are learning to heal by slicing open living human bodies and putting the pieces back together. It's truly incredible if you think about it. It's also extremely difficult. Surgeons are expected to learn 9,000 years of history, knowledge, technique, and tactics in a 5 year crunch. Here's the bottom line:Your boyfriend isn't ignoring you because he wants to. He literally doesn't have time for you. There's nothing you can do about that. You have to accept that he's the busiest person you know. Either you care enough about this person to stick it through the next five years, or you don't. Figure that out and make your decision. If you don't have strong feelings and have a need for a lot of personal attention, then it's time to break up.