I am 28 years old and lost in my life? I do not have a career that I love and feel like I'm failing. What can I do to figure out what exactly I want to do with my life?
Come closer young padawan, let me share with you a secret. Shh. Don’t tell ANYONE. Do you see all these people giving advice, they have no idea what the hell they are doing either!I know, crazy, right? To read all their answers, you’d think they had it all figured out, but just like you, they have no idea, even the ones who have an idea, have no idea.Life is a lot about luck and momentum.If you ask 100 people if any of their plans worked out exactly like they expected, you’ll find that 100 of them say…wait for it…no!10 of them will say they are happy about how said plan worked out. 10 will say it was a disaster. 80 of them will say yes and no, but they made the best of it. 1 of them will say they were never good at counting and 1 of them will say it was very close and almost what they expected.This is just for various little plans. If you ask those same 100 if they are where they planned to be when they were 28 (or 48), unless they are still 28 (or 48), they’ll just laugh.We can’t predict the future, we can’t predict how others will act, we can’t even consistently predict how we’ll act.Life is about living, if it was about being happy we’d use a word more like happying. Focus on living, warts and all.Look, you can say you want to marry a person who is x, y, and z, but the reality is that you’ll run across maybe 100–200 people in your entire life who you even would have the opportunity to explore a relationship with. Of them you might date 10 of them. Likely all 10 will result in a break up.You can say I want to do this with my life, but then the actual opportunities that you have will be that.This is why the wise focus on attitude and emotions. Success in life is a lot about just dealing with all the shit life has in store for you, good and bad.Two things you can do now: 1/ Try a lot of different things (especially giving yourself permission to fail). 2/ Focus on momentum.Life is best lived with a three year perspective. A year is too short for anything meaningful and five years is enough to see if the momentum you are building is working out.To read you’d think everyone knew what they wanted to do since birth, but they didn’t and they don’t.Wait until they lose their jobs, their health, their relationships and suddenly they’ll admit things weren’t as clear as they advised and they’ll be over to Quora asking similar questions.:)
Will my DUI's ruin my life?
I'm at my whits end which has brought me here. I graduated *** laude from The Ohio State University with a double major in sociology and criminology. I also minored in forensic science. I thought my life would get better after college but it has only gotten worse. I haven't been able to get a job that pays more than minimum wage and I truly believe that my 2 DUI's (which I received before I graduated) are the sole reason for my hardship. I have tried so hard to change my life for the better and yet I'm still treated like a criminal. Granted, I made mistakes when I was young but I am no longer the person my background makes me appear to be. And for anyone wondering why I choose criminology as my field of study, I thought I could become a juvenile probation officer and possibly help young kids who are going through the same situations I did when I was their age.
World of Warcraft ruined my life !!! What should I do???
Because of that damned game I lost my job, my car, my girlfriend, my cat and my goldfish. Damned! And I still cannot stop to play it. What can I do now?
My boyfriend has ruined my life?
I've been in a similar relationship, although I was a lot younger. Anyways, it seems he only wants you to get a job and be able to hold your own weight. Find a career you are passionate about. He is the type of guy who wants to date someone who has a job/career and striving to be the best person they can be. I know its hard. I've been there. This is a key reason to why he and I split, but I can say this for sure..it never gets better. When you complete one expectation, they raise the bar and keep doing it making you go crazy. Either you have to meet his demands and continue to do so, or cut ties with him and move on. Its painful, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I was with my ex for five years and he demanded that I hold my own weight, but I was 16 and he was 26, so its a little different -began dating when I was 16 and split when I was 21-. He couldn't stand that I didn't have a job and appeared to lack ambition. To top it, he wanted me to be something like a housewife. Just outright demanding. I was unhappy with it. We split and now, after the period of healing, I am happy. He wanted me to keep fit, eat certain foods, act a certain way, dress a certain way and much more. Don't do this for him, but yourself. Having a job/career gives you so much freedom and luxuries. You can get your own place and get nice furniture and paintings, etc. to decorate the place. Living on your own is scary at first, but oh man it is so nice after awhile. Live by your own rules. I love cooking and cleaning much more now. I hope you can find your answers and that it'll get better. I know how hard it is, even the pain and wanting to end your life to stop the pain. Hang in there, once you figure out what you are going to do and do it, it'll get better.
Do cops not realize that they ruin more lives than anyone else does?
If you get busted for a little weed or drinking underage it can cause a lot of problems in your life like for your career or school Those are MINOR things that should not be a big deal cops are stupid
I am 27 and I am drowning in daydreaming and that is ruining my life, what should I do?
Daydreaming is an activity of the mind - playing and developing episodes upon episodes of life within the brain. To some, it is called planning but then, as there is no action to test out the plan or dream, it is just a unproductive time wasting acrobat.It is good that you recognise you are drowning in daydreaming. This means you realise you need to change. You now need to identify the obstacles of acting out your dreams. Is it:fear of failure?lack of energy or passion to start (procrastination)?don’t know how start?Once you identify the source of your problem to act, you can then make the change.Suggestion (let's start small and slow)write down one of your passionate daydream.write down what success means when you achieve your dream.write down the steps to realise your dream.write down the milestones. Be clear about your first milestone.Write down the success factors to achieve your first milestone.Write down how you will celebrate when you reach your first milestone.Then, now, breathe deep and wake up from your dreaming (planning) and …action based Step 3 above.Learn and adjust your plan.Proceed to the next milestone.Good luck.