How can I convince my daughter to let me keep my grandson overnight? He’s 6 months old and I’ve never kept him.
I doubt you can ever convince the mother of a six month old to have her baby away from her for the night, even if you are her mother and were a good mother to her. For many parents leaving the child alone for even a few hours is a big deal, how would you have felt leaving your baby in another person’s house? In my experience most parents prefer their children to be in their homes when they have a babysitter not at someone else’s. And that is just for a couple hours out.Even if you are just trying to offer a break from the grind of parenthood, you need to remember time away from the baby can stressful. If mom is working this is probably time that she covets, because it is time for her to be with her baby.Parents are protective of their children and they should be. They develop routines that are healthy for both parent and child. Those routines are comforting.If you want to be part of the routine you have to help out in other ways. If she is a stay home mom be there during the day. Give mom a break by doing the dishes, preparing food, showing that you can take care of the baby in a way that she is comfortable with.What kind of comforts do you have for a baby at your house? If you don’t have a crib, a comfortable place to chance his diapers and an overall atmosphere that feels safe for a baby you are going to have to wait a couple years.Also, what does dad think about this? Assuming the father is still around, remember that decisions about an infant are not made unilaterally. Even if your daughter is open to the idea of you having the baby overnight, Dad might not be.You are going to have to be okay with that. You can still be a significant part of baby’s life, but you need to be realistic.
Do you think it is OK for children to sleep with grandparents when spending the night with them?
Well if it were just their grandparents, then yeah i think its fine for them to sleep in their bed. Another persons house may be scary to sleep in and it would be a safer feeling to sleep with the grandparents. I can understand where you may be uncomfortble with the step grandpa. I mean after a year, I'm sure the kid doesn't see him other than as his grandpa so its not that weird for the kid. For you, I can see the concern but unless he's shown some reason for concern then i don't think its a big deal
Why do parents leave their children with grandparents so often?
I am definitely not this type. I enjoy the time I have with my children whether I am a stay at home mother or work full-time...I've been in both instances. Anyway, my Husband's sister always pawn's her two young boys off on my Mother-in-Law and my MIL is always the one buying them their necessities or keeping them overnight, or buying school supplies and toys, ect. This is something that has been going on in the 3 years I have known my Husband. It kills me that there isn't more parent-child bonding time. Both of the parents work full-time and they don't do extra-curricular activities...so there really is no excuse not to watch their own children. I think she has taken advantage of letting the kids spend time with the grandparents in view. However, this is a mutual thing where my MIL doesn't mind it obviously and it's just their way of doing things; as is for a lot of families. I have lost triplets and cannot imagine taking every precious moment for granted. I would love for my children in the future to hang out at grandma's for a bit but not every waking minute. I want the opportunity to raise my child; and cannot wait for that opportunity to come again. How do you handle things like this?
Dangerous grandparents (according to my wife)?
My wife and I have a 2 year old son. My wife is not comfortable with our son staying alone at my parents house for several reasons (layout of the house, dogs sometimes with fleas, lots of clutter, etc.). My mom's health is also one of my wife's concerns -- she's not using a walker but she's late 50s with some extra weight and doesn't move like she used to. My parents and my wife's parents live in the same town and have the same friends. My son has stayed with her parents on numerous occasions but not my parents -- this hurts my parents' feelings. I've tried to work a compromise with my wife... staying at my parent's house every 4th or 5th time, or dropping my son off during the day -- basically anything. But she's not budging for the moment (although I have been able to talk her into letting my mom keep our son at our house alone... so a little progress there). It's putting a strain on our relationship... anyone else have a similar issue and how do you deal?
How old were you when your parents let you stay home alone overnight?
I am 17 years old. I have a job, I recently graduated beauty school and recieved my cosmetology license, I am currently a sophmore in college and my parents still wont let me stay home alone for one night. In less 8 months I will be an adult, I'm transferring to a university that is three hours away and apparently that is the first time I'll be able to be alone. Despite all of the absolute responsibility and control I have shown, I am still treated like a punk kid. My curfew is usually right around 11:30 and I usually show up around 15 minutes early. What can I do to convince my parents that I'm not a little kid anymore and I can be trusted
Do you let your daughter's boyfriend stay over?
Have I? Yes. Should you? Probably.A parent's job is to guide their children to responsible adulthood. That includes making sure they can handle adult activities like drinking, driving, filing income tax returns, and sex. Pretending these things don't exist is shirking your duties as a parent.If you know your daughter well, and are honest with yourself, you probably have already figured out whether she's having sex or not. Let's assume she is. Now you have three choices:Try to get her to stop. Assuming she's a minor, you could punish her, lock her up, or put a GPS tracker on her. This teaches her nothing about sex, other than that it's bad. When she comes of age she will move out and have to figure everything out through bad sexual experiences and relationships. You just made her life worse, both now and in the future. Minus one for effective parenting.Pretend it isn't happening. This teaches her that her parent is a hypocrite. It also says that sex is some horrible thing that must be kept hidden. She can't come to you for help or advice. If her boyfriend is abusive, or forces sex on her, she may just keep quiet. You've abandoned her to figure this out on her own. Minus two for effective parenting.Tell her that you suspect she is having sex. Remind her of all of the precautions. Tell her that you will help her with any advice she needs. Ask whether she's comfortable in the relationship, whether she's being treated well, whether she feels pressure to do things. You will have improved your relationship and you will launch a more secure adult. Plus ten.If you choose #3, then there is no sane reason to forbid sex in your house. Better there than in the park at night.There are some sane reasons to forbid sleepovers:Your daughter is not emotionally mature enough to have sex at all. If she's way too young, or has become the town floozie, strong measures may be required. But then sleepovers are not really the problem, are they?You have strict personal or religious beliefs such that allowing premarital sex would be a betrayal of your principles. But that's not you, OP, because that person wouldn't be asking questions on Quora.The boyfriend is a jerk and bad for her. Saying you don't want him in your house is perfectly reasonable.The fact that you asked this question shows that you care about your daughter. Use this opportunity to strengthen your relationship, and to help her move one step further into adulthood.
18 years old parents wont let me stay home alone!!!!!!!!!!!?
okay im 18 years old and my parents are going away saturday to see my sister and go to her recital and they have to spend the night away and they do not trust me to stay home by myself so they have called my 80-somthing year old grandparents to sleep over my house WHAT THAT F***** CAN I AGRUE MY POINT IM PISSED _ I have NEVER once even gave them a reason not to trust me - i never drank - never smoke - done anything bad - i dont live in a bad neighborhood at all - and i have a dog they argue its because they say ' what if someone breaks in'? - there are NEVER breakins in my neighborhood and what are my 80somthing year old grandparents supposed to defend my with F****** cains???? how the F****** do they expect me to make it in the real life if they wont let me do the simple task of spening the night alone.??? ( and for those who mention "move out" ... im applying to colleges at least 6 hours away from where i live but until then how do i deal with this?)
Do your kids sleep over at grandparent's house often?
Well they don't anymore!!!! They are 17 and 19 sooo........! Anyhow, they would go a couple of times a year when they were small, from about the time they were around 4 to around about 14 they would go over every New Years Eve night---she had a party for all the grand kids (there are a total of 3), started about 7pm and we picked them up around 5pm the next evening, then of course they would spend time over there in the summer and stuff--------Note: they are spending New Years with her this year because they have to open their time capsule they made when it turned 2000!!! Should be funny to see what they wrote and put in when they were 7 and 9 yrs. old!!!