Im not sure i want to go to college anymore?
I'm getting depressed about going to college, i cant focus, some of the stuff i'm being taught i don't find interest in when once i did, my grades aren't as good as they used to be and i lack the effort to go anymore, but even though im still going i dont retain much that is taught. i come home, and do whatever i want instead of study or review. i dont know what i want to do. i know that if i don't go I'll have a crappy future, but if i keep going i fear that failing grades lay ahead. im on my 4th semester Getting and A.A.S in Network and System Administration. i just don't have anymore will to go. but my grandparents have helped me out financially until i find a job or graduate and i dont want to let them down. im scared and depressed. some suggestions on what i should do?
When normal(not sure what normal is) life is not fun anymore?
everything is happen since 3 years ago, it seems everything is so boring/not fun anymore. because everyday i always do same things everyday(actually it's my duty to study/school...but everyday i always doing the same exact same thing like wake up=> breakfast=>go to school=>study=>go home=> eat=>watch tv=>work homework but my grades are still bad which makes my life messed up=> sleep=>infinity loop of same stuff until i am 19 years old), i was used to be a nice person(but those ***** killed that person 5 years ago, and i dont even remember how nice i was before everything happen). and i used to hang out with my friends but now not anymore(because they always talk about same stuff which makes me bored), i feel people are just so stupid because they always have nothing relevant or significant to say, they just always talking about same stuff every day(and i cant tell), and i wonder why? or is it just normal for a teenager??? i always feel so frustated(about everything) i always feeling under pressure(even actually i am not under any pressure, but my head always feel heavy like it will be fun if can crush my had on wall and make it stress all out), i always feel isolated and feel that i am different than all people in my school(because most people i know are so smart to talking/outsmart other people??) and people are always ignore me and never want to hear my opinion(actually now i dont care about that anymore because now i am a melancholy person and always keep my mouth shut so i will not cut others talking)..(when i am study at school, i cant concentrate at all, which makes me stupid and bad grades keep me awake)(i was used to be a smart ***) is it a punishment from GOD or something?? i hardly laugh at school(but when i do, my freak inner goes out) i cant multi task im not even happy anymore when i get home with my family ! i used to talk so much and want to learn new things and try new things, but now i just dont care anymore!! i cant even focus in class, and i dont even talk to anybody. i just sit there and the info goes into my head but it isnt processed, it just sits there all hazy and eventually it gets cleaned out. its like i have no motivation or will to do anything anymore. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!
No zest for life anymore?
How to get motivated to fix your life when nobody loves you? I'm 24 years old My family doesn't give a crap about me I live with my grandparents and I hate it I work full time, but not enough money to move out I work to attend college for nursing, but don't have the money to do it Every year comes and goes and I say I am going to fix my life, like go back to school and lose the 120lbs that I need to, yet I never do. I noticed a pattern though: Whenever I have a great girlfriend that makes me feel great, then I start to get motivated and passionate about life, yet when I don't then I fall back into old ways. What's wrong with me? Is it because I don't love myself? If so, how do I love myself? I come from an abused childhood. Like I said, I noticed I only take action when I have a girlfriend or there is a stressful situation pushing me to change. My father was an abusive alcoholic and my mother never did crap to protect me nor my siblings. All my life, I've been searching for love to fell alive again in my life. When I don't feel loved, I stop taking action to fix my life. What's wrong with me? I used to be so motivated, but something happened to me along the way. What can I do to love myself enough to change? I want out of this situation. Why can't I love myself to fix my life? NOTE: I lost my financial aid due to being really sick last fall for 3 weeks and not being able to attend class, then in Feb of this year, I was in a car wreck that left me on crutches and with no car for a month so my college took away my financial aid and put me on academic probation. I have bad credit too, so I can't get a personal loan nor will anyone co-sign for me. I screwed up my whole life!!!
I don't know what to do with my life anymore. Help?
I feel like I lost myself. When I say that I mean, I don't even know who I am as a person anymore. I'm not sure what I want to do with my life anymore. Every time I plan for my future, something goes wrong. I'm just to the point where I feel like I want to bury myself alive because I don't understand life. I wanted to move out and go to a 4 year university, however I failed biology II (yes I'm a senior in high school and I graduate this Saturday) and since I failed the class I can't go to a 4 year university in the state I live in (Louisiana) I wanted to move out of momma's house, but since I failed I have no choice but to stay home because they don't have dorms to the community college here. Then on top of that I don't want to go to a community college and I know if I don't like where I'm going to "school" at I won't try, so why go. I don't know what to do with my life anymore. I thought about going the air guard, but im "overweight" in their eyes, so i would have to lose 40 pounds to join. Im just going so they can pay for college, but their contract is 6 years. 6 years? i don't even know what im doing tomorrow, let alone dedicate 6 years to the air guard. Is it normal to feel like this? What should I do? I'm so lost I don't know which way is up or down. So any suggestion or tips would be appreciated. Thanks
I dont see the point of life anymore?
Im 16 and depress heres my background My mother left me when i was little and i lived with my grandparent till my dad remarry and i moved to US when i was 6 to live with my dad and stepmom. My dad lost his job 2 years ago. Last year my dad found a job oversea and have live there since. My mom still talk to my dad and he came back a few times to visit. My mom and I are left here. Shes nice but she seem depressed she has no friends here and work a job. Shes always stress out from work. Right now im 11th grade and my mom tell me to do stuff but never help me cause shes lazy. She avoid giving me a ride to anywhere including school. Shes doesnt like to have kid and she told me recently how she never wanted to have kids because of responsibility and start saying that all her friends and family are in her home country. I start thinking why the fk did she marry and come to US if she didnt want kids and all her relative are in her home country. I appreciate her taking care of me for 10 years but i think she is better off if she never marry my dad and stayed in her home country since she lived there all her life before marriage. I didnt tell her about my depression since I know she wont help. She said i must move out after high school but she just want me gone. I start to not see the point of life. I feel like im going to fail life, sometimes i think of killing myself. Im too shy and have no friends. I dont see the point of life anymore.
At 20 I am still not sure what I want to do in my life, still trying to figure it out. Is this case only with me or are there more people like me?
Welcome to the tribe of wanderers ! .We were all supposed to be wanderers and after thousands of years of evolution still are . I am the same age as your's and faced a similar question in my life and I think after reading so much content here on Quora I partially found the answer .I'll share what I think .We tend to associate fear with our lack of knowledge . A sense of control in our lives instills confidence in us , makes us feel safe . What we fail to notice is this shell of safety is what prevents us from opening our eyes.Never fear the unknown rather despise getting stuck in the known .There's always a new scenery behind the next mountain or across that meadow sometimes good , some bad but always different from the previous . Each will paint a new picture . We learn from new experiences .Chaos can be a man's best friend or worst of the enemies .Befriend it . Thinking and moving ahead in every possible direction , one way at a time is my idea of chaos and has helped me a lot so far . Most of us , do not know what things we are good at and still have much talent undiscovered . Only when we try we either discover our preferences or end up with a new skill .Today's world does not require people who have mastered a particular trait , we have plenty of these . A person who can balance a diverse skill set , probably making the best out of them is much more valued .Whom will you prefer :Engineer 1 : Can build a piece of software .Engineer 2 : Can build a software, lead the team well and deliver it on time .Second guy is always chosen as the better . He just went further to develop some additional qualities other than what every other person of his discipline can learn . Try new combo's ! .There is no age to learn but still this time will never come back . Rather than trying to "figure things out" get out , do , explore yourself and let your life figure you out .And as for the question yes there are others including me and not just you .It's OK to not know but not OK to be indifferent .Keep Looking !Peace .
I'm lost in life and I don't know what to do with my life anymore. Has anyone felt this way? How do I overcome this?
At different times different moves helped me. One stands out. I go for a long - better several days - track - hiking, riding a bike, a boat - should be something physical, exhausting and better not in the best weather - just go despite all odds. Then the return home is blessing. You survive and feel great. It also clears your thinking about what is important and brings back energy and sense of daring necessary to overcome any obstacle and reach for the dream.If physical activity is not appealing, then I sleep, then eat, then brush up my best outfit and go in an art museum, any museum, or library, or any other place where the best of human achievements can be experienced. I even flew for a day or two in some bigger city to get what I don't have in mine. If travel in Europe an option, that is awesome - whatever route, whatever condition. Travel in other places probably great too, but I did not do that. Oh, I live in the US and not on one occasion just loaded my car and took off accross the country, playing by ear. You see places, you meet people, you come back a different person you never thought you were able to be.Lost in life, ah? That is great! That means you are not caught in the rat race of consumption and look for something important. Go for it! It will be awesome!
Why do I not get excited about ANYTHING in my life anymore?
ANYTHING...I'm a 21 year old girl. I'm not in college this semester, I took a break. So all I do is work, now. Work is great and all, but there's no enthusiasm in showing up somewhere I'm so used to and it's predictable what will happen. I love my coworkers but none of them care to chill outside of work, which I understand. I go to the gym, but not lately. It's good for me, but it gets SO.....just......boring to the point where I don't care. I am naturally in good shape so I don't need it. I need a hobby, but nothing just thinking of it gets me interested. I used to love reading, now my desire to pick up a book has faded. HELP!!! People my age our out living their life, I'm just over here whining how I have no passion to do anything to live my life. Should I change my routine, or what? being bored makes me a boring person.
I feel like giving up on life and just not bother anymore... HELP I need Motivation!?!?
Well you are not the only one who goes through these kinds of emotions. We all go through them at several points in our lifetime. Well I think you should just continue to study and give it your best shot. Not turning up for the exam would just undermine all the efforts and pains you have gone through to give this exam. Channelise all your energies on the effort but dont think about the result or consequence. Irrespective of the results when you look back at this moment you should get the feeling of content that you gave it your best shot. Nothing of value comes back luck. Its one by pain and sacrifice. I would say prepare as much as possible and make sure you sleep well. Dont strain yourself on the Sunday nite. Sleep early wake up fresh on Monday morning. Worst case you wont do well. Hell.. give it your best shot. you worry about the result when the result comes through. Not giving the exam is not the same as failing in the exam. I would always prefer failing in an exam instead of not giving an exam. Atleast I will know where i went wrong to give it next time. Thats how I have gone ahead with my education. Believe me, success or failure we always learn something out of it (infact even the more with failure). Anyways all the best. And keep a cool mind