I have realized that I am a bad person. What can I do about it?
You, too, huh? I'm not being flippant. I'm telling you every "good" person comes to a point in their life where they feel exactly like you do now. I once told a friend I could never apologize enough to everyone I had ever interacted with in my life. That was exactly what I was feeling right then.But please understand, the fact that you are able to regret some of your past choices means you are not a bad person. A bad person wouldn't care. But you do care, deeply. So, you're off to a good start.The thing to do now is go deep into yourself and find what it was that made you behave that way in the past. Until you do that, you may do the same things again. A lot of the time, the problem is solved by you simply growing up a little more. That never ends, by the way.Now, here's something you should not do: Assume responsibility for how your actions affected the other person. You should absolutely take responsibility for your actions, but you are not responsible for how the other person interprets them or how they feel about them.I've heard people bemoan that they ruined someone's life. If only they hadn't done this or that, that person would be so much better off now! What I say to those people is: Get over yourself! Who made you sooo powerful that with one careless or mean action you could completely ruin that person's life? Huh? 'Cause I thought only God could do that.And what are you saying about that other person? Oh, no, poor person! They have no will of their own! If they get hit, all they can do is stay down and cry. Oh, so sad!Gives it a different spin, doesn't it?Everyone has done mean things. Sometimes because we don't understand that that's what we're doing. Sometimes because we're experimenting. And sometimes, just to be mean. Kids do that a lot because they don't realize yet that other people matter as much as they do. And sometimes people do it to see where the line is. Because sometimes, you don't know until you’ve crossed it. But unless you are a serial killer, there is nothing you have done that is so bad that, in a room with 100 other random people, ten of them haven't done the same thing.Yes, you've made some bad choices. And thank God for that! It is the ability to do the wrong thing and to choose to do the right instead that gives us our nobility.So, stop worrying. Just make better choices from now on.
So you think your life is bad?
Hey everybody, im a 20 years old male and my life has been terrible so far. I feel like im cursed. as a young kid i was the happiest child ever always playing soccer and making friends. In middle school my best friend back then who became jelous of me was talking bad behind my back. I lost all my "friends" and ended up changing schools. Well in my new school it was worse. The only 2 guys in my class wouldnt talk to me. And nobody really gave me a chance from the beginning. I was so lonely at this point it was years ago i had some fun and everyweekend im sitting at home. Just being lonely. i wanted to kill myself. I had enough of it and eventually they pulled me out of school. I am the most lonely guy on earth. Started developing sleep problems. I still got them till this day.No friends, never had a girlfriend, never even kissed. i had some girls who liked me in the past. But i never really did something with it. Or i had no confidence. Fast forward things went better im less paranoid, gained some confidence, im going to school for adults. I had some really good contacts. But as soon people know i dont have anybody, they back off. At this point i want some affection, being loved. I started to feel empty again and i didnt want to go trough this **** anymore. And ended up doing something really really stupid.i went to some hooker. She scammed me.She gave me some really bad head.And took my money.i feel dirty.When will this be over?its emberassing to even type this. Please help!
Why is my life so shitty?
i don't understand why i have to have a shitty life... manic depressed for 3 years... i got bullied at school from 1st to 7th grade all cause i said no to break in to a car... didnt help alot that when i told the teachers i got told i was imagining it... after 2 weeks at 8th grade i got a mental break down and i quit going to school... im now in the end of 10th grade and i still havn't had my graduation... the city hall have worked against me... i applied for a new school but they said no.. i applied for a possibility to take 8th-10th grade over again in 1 year but they said no to that too... i had to ask the County head doctor to get psychiatrist.. and after 2 meetings she decided they had to give up... and my friends have not done anything to help me... they just left me, i havn't talked to them in 3 years now.. why me?
I feel empty now. sucicial.. don't know?
hey.. I'm 15 and well.. my life is really not worth living because: 1. I live everyday wiht the guilt of something I did that was really bad when I was 10 to my family.. 2. I have extrememly strict parents who are extremely protective 3. I have had intense Scrupolsity to the point wehre I scared to go to the toielt just in case i give my soul to the devil without knowing. 4. I have HOCD, wiht hte fear od losing my attraction to guys. 5. this creep that lives near me wanted to engage me from now to get married when I finish school. 6. I thought I had cancer twice due to the symptoms 7. I have intense bad luck 8. I'm hated by everyone 9. I'm not exactly lookable either 10. A year ago, my life was okay, but now, I have an anxiety disorder for every day of my life 11. I always fight with my parents and fear that they might die.. 12. I feel like I'm not alive or real.. or that maybe I'm death or that i'm living in some else's body.. I feel out of my body.. 13. I'm afraid I've commiteed the unforgivable sin which leads to the fear of going to hell and dying. 14. My grades have dropped increasingly 15. I get bullied often 16. My brain finds excuses to cause me depression.. i think I ENJOY being depressed. because I find myself trying to depress myself. 17. I've developed a really crappy snapy attitude towards everyone.. I sued to be so happy all the time. Overall, I feel empty.. I feel depressed to the point where I feel no emotion. To the point where I don't even know how to be worried, because I'm used to living with panic attacks and a tight chest. I feel like the sun will never shine for me. I never blame God for my life like this, but I blame myself for not changing this in the beginning. I wish wasn't alive. What's wrong with me.. ? I feel tired. It'ds been nearly 1 and a half years since this all started being triggered.. my life was amazing beforehand.