Rape in Islam what is the punishment?
Western studies have shown that most rapists are already criminals who commit their crimes under the influence of alcohol and drugs, and they take advantage of the fact that their victims are walking alone in isolated places, or staying in the house alone. These studies also show that what the criminals watch on the media and the semi-naked styles of dress in which women go out, also lead to the commission of this reprehensible crime. The laws of Islam came to protect women's honour and modesty. Islam forbids women to wear clothes that are not modest and to travel without a mahram; it forbids a woman to shake hands with a non-mahram man. Islam encourages young men and women to marry early, and many other rulings which close the door to rape. Hence it comes as no surprise when we hear or read that most of these crimes occur in permissive societies ►In America – for example – International Amnesty stated in a 2004 report entitled “Stop Violence Against Women” that every 90 seconds a woman was raped during that year. The rapist is subject to the hadd punishment for zina, even if the rape was not carried out at knife-point or gun-point. If the use of a weapon was threatened, then he is a muhaarib, and is to be subjected to the hadd punishment described in the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The recompense of those who wage war against Allaah and His Messenger and do mischief in the land is only that they shall be killed or crucified or their hands and their feet be cut off from opposite sides, or be exiled from the land. That is their disgrace in this world, and a great torment is theirs in the Hereafter” [al-Maaidah 5:33] So the judge has the choice of the four punishments mentioned in this verse, and may choose whichever he thinks is most suitable to attain the objective, which is to spread peace and security in society, and ward off evildoers and aggressors. http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/72338
I need help with my autistic brother?
I want to help him do more things, he's very much into computers and the internet, but spends all day on it, the only break he gets is when big brother comes on. When i suggest doing other things he gets angry beause that's all he wants to do. I also want to try and get him learning more about computers in the hope that he can get a job from home in the future. (He has very poor social skills) He's 18 years old and currently goes to a day centre during the day but all they're teaching him is life skills. I don't think he's being challenged enough and this is making him quite angry and withdrawn.
Is it wrong to hit a parent, when they hit you?
My mother would occasionally hit me.I was really a relatively good kid and never got into any serious trouble. I wasn’t someone who would ever ‘talk back’ or argue with my parents — I knew better.I had a good mother. Mostly, she was loving and understanding. However, every now and then, she’d lose her temper and she’d ‘lash out’. When she did, it really, really hurt. She tended to punch and it didn’t matter where her punches landed. I always ended up badly bruised. This didn’t happen often; usually around once a year or so and it was always because she was unduly stressed. It was rarely about me.When I was around 15, an elderly aunt came to stay. She was very demanding and I could see my mother’s stress levels rising. One evening, after dinner, I had said I was going out to meet one of my friends. She was in a foul mood and said that I wasn’t allowed to go. I politely reminded her that I’d made this arrangement the week before and that she’d said it would be fine.I saw her fists clench and ‘that look’ on her face and she started to lunge towards me. I said very loudly, “if you hit me again, this time I’m going to hit you back”.She stopped in her tracks. Her face was red with anger. I said, “I mean it mum — I will hit you back”. She stormed out of the room.After that, she never hit me again.Is it right to hit a parent back if they hit you? I really don’t know. What I do know is that I wasn’t going to allow my mother to hit me again.
How do you deal with a totally disrespectful younger brother?
Disengage and do not speak to them until you believe you get the respect you deserve. Respect goes both ways Something to think about in your family dynamics in regards to your other siblings, parents, spouse. It took me years to realize the reason why I did not receive the respect I was seeking from my own children was that I was getting beaten down with disrespect from both my parents and my spouse for decades. When I realized my children’s reactions were just learned behaviors from how I allowed my parents and spouse to treat me. That was an aha moment and turning point in my life. Self reflection sometimes is critical in evaluating questions that you have the answers for without feeling victimized, as I was so often reminded….
Caught my 11 year old sister having sex!?
First let me say you are a great big sister! You reacted in the right way. Your sister should be grounded to the house and from the phone and internet. You should tell your dad as soon as you can. Dad may well need some time to calm down before he deals with the situation! Talk to your sister about all of the things that can happen from having sex and ask her if this was her first time and why did she do it. Explain to her that having a baby is not all fun and games since you have first hand experience with this very thing. I would talk to your dad about getting your sister to a doctor and a counselor because even with younger and younger kids being knowledgeable about sex, 11 is entirely too young to even think about sex. Talk to your sister about whether anyone has touched her in sexual ways because children who have been molested are aware of their sexuality at young ages simply because of the molestation. I hope this isn't the case with your sister but you never know. Good luck and keep a good eye on your sister. Once again I must say you are a great sister!
Can babysitters spank children?
i asked i 21 year old brother to babysit my 7 year old twins 2 hours later they were saying that my brother spank them and i told him not to do that before i left and when i got home it was true and he said that they need more discipline and they do get discipline but it had being a single dad at age 25