Why does my enemy suddenly want to be my friend?
We haven't talked or saw each other in about a year, but she is my friend's girlfriend. She forbade him to even talk to me so I suppose that means my friend really isn't my friend anymore, but she is still my enemy. Well recently my friend called and wanted to come over and hang out with my group of friends and bring his gf. She told him that she would not start any fights with me and I promised the same. When they came over, she laughed at every joke I made, hung on to every word I said, joined in all of my conversations, and then at the end of the night we ended up talking and laughing with each other, then she added me on facebook. The initial reason that we ever didn't get along was because she viewed me as a threat to her relationship with my friend and was jealous of me for several reasons. So now that she wants to be my friend, does that mean she no longer views me as a threat and is no longer jealous of me?
Should I stop hanging out with my old friends?
Do they bother you deep down? Do you have fun with them? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself.The same thing happened to me a while ago with my friends, and there was this one girl that I had known since kindergarten. I’d been bullied in elementary school and she never had, but she was the only person who talked to me so I stayed friends with her until we got to high school.Once we got there, she gained a lot more friends and started treating me like her little slave, making me do everything for her and running errands and everything. I liked some of the people in out friend group, but I couldn’t tolerate her treating me like that.I left the friend group and tried to join other groups, but it was just awkward and I didn’t really fit. So I started to become a loner. But then about a month after I left, one of the girls from my old friend group started to sit with me again. Turns out the girl who had bothered me so much had started to use this other girl when I left.To this day I am friends with this girl, and have never spoken to my friend from kindergarten again. For me, it was the right decision, but for you, I don’t know.Try to figure out where you would go if you left first, and if you don’t have anywhere to go, then decide if it is really worth leaving your friends. If they are cracking just good humoured jokes then you probably shouldn’t stress about it too much. However if it is a certain person who keeps teasing you, they may not mean to hurt you, so you should try to talk to them privately and tell them how you feel.Hope this helps.
Pisces old friend wants to friends with me again after we stopped talking to each other.?
I don't know what to say to her. She thinks we are friends again but I don't want to talk to her anymore. What happened is that I was going through depression and she would always try to change to subject and only talk about herself or her boyfriend. I have dealt with a boy at our school physically hitting me and harrasing me, an abusive ex boyfriend, another ex boyfriend. So I couldn't be there every day to talk about her problems only all the time for 2 hours or more. I tried being nice to her but one day I was telling her that I'm depressed and she was saying that "Oh I don't really care I'm busy hanging out with my boyfriend and my friends and that I'm going to the movies with them." I try being nice to her but she doesn't even consider me as a friend. She always tells me and her other friends that her only best friend is some girl name destiny. So then new year's came around and I was still depressed and I couldn't deal with anything and I had no one to talk to except my mom and I hung out with my pets. So she had called me and I had said new year to her. Then because of all the stress and depression I had I ended up trying to commit suicide and was sent to the hospital by my mom. So my mom and my aunt came to visit me and that's it because we didn't want anyone to know that I was there. So later on in January the girl...she just ignored my calls. So I was fine then the next week I had texted her saying how is she? and she just said "is this your number? is that your new number? that she doesn't know who's number this is even though she had always called me from this number and she had the same number for 6 months since we were friends. So we stopped being friends because she stopped talking to me since january. Then I met her in school while I was talking to my guy friend and she came up to me saying hi and that she's sorry that she didn't talk to me for months and that she got a new phone and saved me number on it. So I decided to be nice to her and kind of forgive her but today she called me twice to talk about her boyfriend problems since she has a new boyfriend. She only talks about herself. I have a counselor that I talk to at school and even my counselor and also my mother thinks that I shouldn't be friends with that girl. My counselor thinks she is not a good friend and my mom said that I should just talk to her a little and not really be close friends with this girl.
Why is my guy friend suddenly into me?
This guy (I'll call Bob) and I've been friends with for about 2.5 years. We briefly dated casually a little under 2 years ago, and fell in love. Later we had a few fights and finally he told me he didn't want to date me. We parted but remained friends. One every few months we'd hang out and fall again into a pattern of being intimate and expressing feelings. About a year ago we both found ourselves at a point where we, although wanting to date each other, were way to busy to date. Now we're just friends. A month ago I began dating another friend of mine and we became official. Many people found out about us but Bob seemed to ignore that. Since just being friends we talked on a very rare occasion, and suddenly he was messaging me randomly. I'm going to visit my home country in Europe in June and he's going there to study abroad. He kept asking me when I'd be there and asking me to help him plan the trip. I was very in love with Bob, and hesitated to get together with my current bf because of this and being busy with school... now I'm closer to my bf, and I really want to keep being with him. My main question is, is Bob still in love with me with all his actions?
Why is my best guy friend suddenly acting aloof and distant? He doesn't want to hang out with me alone like we used to. What am I supposed to do?
Probably this …Probably that…One answer is, start cooking up stories in your mindWhat if, he’s got a girlfriend and that girlfriend wants him to sever all relations that he had with other girls?What if, he started to find you boring?What if, he developed feelings for you and not interested to go to the next level or confess or commit?What if, he started to find you high maintenance?What if, he saw your broken tooth?What if, he saw a mole on your skin?What if, he saw your hairy under arms ? LOLKeep thinking and cook up a huge mess…Second answer isGo and ask.Simple. Clear up. Ask him. Be smart enough to judge if it’s the truth or not.I really believe in communication. It settles unnecessary storms.Best of luck, communicating. God Bless.
My friend suddenly stopped talking to me. I've tried talking to her, but she ignores me and talks with my other friends instead. What should I do?
Give the friendship a break for a while. People who value your friendship will take the time to make contact with you - you have shown you value her friendship because you have tried to make contact with her. Now it's time to step back and see if she can show the same appreciation. Use this opportunity to explore new friendships and activities, so you are enjoying yourself rather than sitting around feeling ignored. Avoid giving her opportunities to ignore you, and try to avoid talking about the situation with your mutual friends, in case things get repeated and misinterpreted. If you don't hear from your best friend after a month or so, and you still feel upset and puzzled by this, maybe send her a friendly email saying that you miss chatting to her and you hope that everything is okay. Don't worry too much about why she isn't talking to you. Again if she valued the friendship, she would tell you if you had done something to upset her, so that the two of you could resolve the issue. Maybe she needs some time before she can tell you what's wrong. Maybe she's getting a kick out of ignoring you and playing favorites with your other friends. You don't need to put up with being treated like the runner up in a popularity competition.
What do you do if your best friend doesn't want to be with you anymore?
I have been in your situation.Not once, but twice.When the same person who you trusted a lot, the one who used to share everything with you, the one who literally has other friends because of you, for the one you did all that you could ever do turns out to be the one who stops talking to you, not just this, the person refuses to give you a reason and ignores you constantly. It sucks, it really does.But that's how most of the people are.In my case I tried everything, called them pinged them, confronted them, only to face ignorance.Not every one is as sensitive as you. I felt so bad initially, I didn't give up. I wanted my friend back at any cost. No matter what. But there is a slight boundary between ego and dignity called self respect and you must respect your self respect.Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that people don't need you anymore in their life.Their work is done, maybe they are just bored of you. Accept their decision and move on.Also remember one thing, too much of attachment can be really really harmful.Sometimes, it's better to embrace solitude rather than cribbing over the fact that people don't need you. You need yourself. It hurts but You are stronger than that.
I Don't want to Hang Out With My Best Friend Anymore?
Well, ex-best friend. I'm not sure why, but she became so annoying to me all of a sudden that I find myself getting pissed at her for no reason. She's just gotten really weird and I think I'm being really mean to her, and I try to apologize but I feel pissed when I talk to her. How do I convey to her that I don't want to hang out anymore?
My old guy best friend texts me 6 months later after not talking?
Maybe he's bored? I have a guy friend similar to yours (although we never dated). He'll drop off the face of the planet for a few months at a time, then suddenly be talking to me on the daily, then vanish out of my life again. I assume this behavior is based on what feels convenient for him at the time. I don't take the friendship very seriously and just have fun with it, that way there's no hurt feelings when he decides to "disappear" again. However, in your case it might be a little different because you two do have a volatile past. Either way, it's not necessary for you to keep up a friendship if you don't want to. You don't need someone around who's so wish-washy about your friendship status. I would see how it goes, if it starts causing you stress, break it off. Best of luck!
Ask her out again? Does she want me to?
I think you need to quit asking this here and go ask the girl. Yes, I think she is interested. I think she has had some issues and they may or may not be resolved. She may or may not want to talk about why she was not dating in the past. I think she had been hurt. I think you helped her but maybe scared her a bit when she started having feelings for you and thought maybe your feelings for her were different. Possibly, when she said "things weren't going anywhere" she was saying that she wanted them to. But hindsight doesn't help much. I also think that your age is important here. At 30, most people start looking around and asking themselves if perhaps this is the time to settle down or decide never to settle down. Was that wedding in your mind a bit maybe? Hitting on women and finding out they were married? Twice? Think you are missing something maybe? Well perhaps you are. Perhaps you want to miss it! Only you know that. Get together. Talk nicely in a nice place. Maybe you place with a nice meal and music? Of course, a resort weekend would be either wonderful or too much, You decide. Be flexible. See where it goes. Tell her that you value her friendship and enjoy her company and want to keep that but that if she wants to, you would be very, very happy to try taking things to a new level. Enjoy! Cherish each other whether as old friends or as something more. As an old romantic (with the love of my life for 52 years now), I wish you love and happiness! Being married to my best friend who also is the love of my life is wonderful!