Why do rich fathers have to pay a ridiculous amount for child support?
I’d like to share my story and opinion on this. Sorry about any typos (bit of a busy day at work).I point out that everyone sees child support as fair: if they’re your children, Take care of them properly for god’s sake. However, For parents of young children especially, this becomes another form of spousal support as one spouse is cutting a check to his ex (the gender specific pronouns work in most but not all cases).In my case, I tried to reconcile with my estranged wife as soon as i suspected the infidelity. I wanted to keep the family together. Anyway, she thought about it for a couple months. We went to counselling. She kicked me out a few times during the summer of 2016 then, on vacation with our daughters and her parents in Florida last August, she finally decided to leave me. Not by coincidence she left just after a large dividend payment was received and i told her that i expected to earn less in the coming years.Anyway, she lives in about the top 1%, doesn’t have to work and by law i am not allowed to quit—though we always agreed on early retirement for me. Under Canadian marital law and many of the US states, it doesn’t matter who cheated or how the marriage broke down.One somewhat painful part is that I now have to buy life insurance in the unfortunate case that i die and i am unable to make my future payments which include not only rather generous child support but also exceptional expenses like private school, lessons, orthodontics and summer camp. After tax, we are essentially living the same economic lives. I am sleeping less to commute daily to work with bad cholesterol numbers. I am working weekends. She is living a nice suburban life, has taken up yoga and is about to return for her next vacation to her family home in Florida.Forgive me for going on. My point that my child support includes mostly spousal support for the next 15 to 20 years. My wife has done the old “go away but keep the money coming” trick. I’ve had a tough time accepting all this.
Why do my parents put so many restrictions on me?
I am currently going through puberty, and naturally, I'm curious about some things that I feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about. I looked around a bit, but instead of confronting me about it, my parents put a restricted browser on my iPod touch and put ridiculous amounts of parental controls on my laptop. Why do they feel obligated to keep an iron-tight grip on everything I do? I understand they want to control some of the things I do, but mobicip (the restricted browser my mom put on my iPod) runs ridiculously slow and restricts some videos because of nonexistent "Violence" (slapstick comedy). What can I do to convince them I need a little freedom? (if you're going to tell me the same old "parents know best" crap, you can just leave now)
Are my parents being chronically unreasonable or is it me?
Your parents are being chronically unreasonable. If the situation is as you state it here, then your father is a loser, and no person in their right mind would get into a business deal with this guy, right?Which now raises the question, what is wrong with you? You sound like an intelligent person. Can't you read what you have written objectively, and see how wrong you are to continue to support this insanity? Stop it! Protect your finances from these people, and don't throw any more good money after bad. Stop it! It's business, and you need to take the emotional influences out of your decision making. If you want to be a good son and contribute to their health and welfare, then that's fine. But you need to be the one who decides how much support (in terms of money) you can reasonably provide them. I would suggest anything above a subsistence amount becomes enabling of their incredibly bad business and life decisions. Also, I would only give them monthly payments, and absolutely would not give them a large lump sum. Since you have been estranged from them before, perhaps that's not a bad place to return at this point. You're not helping them but are allowing them to continue the insanity. It's probably time for them to fail completely, and you need to stand by and watch it happen. Don't get involved. Find another way to deal with your unwarranted guilt.
My parents have been fighting a lot lately, what do I do about it?
Hi :o) It is hard for kids when their parents fight, and I am so concerned for you. Parents are only human though and do go through rough patches in their relationship sometimes. It doesn't mean that they will get a divorce. They have been married a long time and only lately started fighting a lot - so that's a good sign. Take your mom a coffee and a cookie if she's upset and ask if there's anything you can do. She might reassure you. Money worries cause a lot of arguments. It's not easy to pay all the bills of running a household and two cars, as well as seeing to the needs of five people! When your parents make up again, perhaps you should tell them how glad you are that they're ok now. Tell them how it upsets you and your sisters when they fight and you worry that they'll get divorced. Your parents disagreements are not your business, but their screaming over them certainly is. It is causing you worry and upsetting you and your sisters. Once again ask how you can help, like babysit once in a while so they can go out.They might appreciate your concern and try to get on better, or they might be so embarrassed that they tell you to stay out of it, but I doubt that. Give them a chance to fix it before involving anyone else. If nothing improves or if it gets worse, or physical, then you should ask a trusted adult for help straight away. Hopefully, it will all blow over and you will all weather the storm and be a stronger family for it. Your parents are lucky to have you! I'm sending you a hug and kindest regards.
Is The California High School Fitness Test Unreasonable?
I do agree with you that the test is unreasonable (though I passed all sections myself). I understand making it a required class but tests are unreasonable. Everyone is different physically in their youth and thus can be at a disadvantage. In math, history, or whatever class you just need to use your brain. Playing sports in PE ok, tests unfair.
How do you avoid conflict when two parents have different parenting styles?
The two Cs. Communication & Compromise. No one is the same, so while there are certainly couples who parent alike they will not always agree on everything. My husband and I have different parenting styles and we have been together for 16 years. We try to meet in the middle and if one of us being unreasonable the other is quick to tell them to relax. Although when we feel the need to tell one another they are being ridiculous we do not do it in front of the kids. There we must stand united or risk being eaten alive. I have never had to worry about abuse or anything of that nature so if I feel he needs to relax about a situation I just tell him so and visa versa. Now, if we are talking about someone going overboard with their temper and/or discipline then you do what you must to protect your child. Like I said it all starts with communication.
I have a real big volleyball problem. Please reasonable answers. no stupid answers. Thanks.?
I am not sure any of these answers will help in time for your game. The first thing I would suggest is talking with your coach. See what the coach thinks should be done first. If you do things without talking with the coach first, they will think you are trying to run the team. And you may find yourself on the bench or even off the team. Invite the team to show up early or stay late for practice. Some may be able to show up for one or the other. See if you have dedicated players or just recreational players. If no one wants to make an extra effort, you may be in for some trouble. If the two above do not work, just work on encouraging your team mates. If they do something well, high five them. If they mess up, encourage them to do better the next time. Do not say anything negative to any of your team or it will be worse. Be positive. Winning is great, but it is not the most important thing in the world. Your volleyball teammates can become your friends. Over the next several months, you will spend more time with them than you will spend with your family or friends. Do not push them so hard that they will hate you. Good luck. This will not be a easy problem to solve. Your teammates have to WANT to get better. If they are just there because their parents want them to be there, you will be in trouble.
I wish my parents would die. Why is that?
My parents constantly pressure me to get in shape, improve my health, and get married. I have absolutely no interest in any of these and they don't listen to me when I demand my right to live the way I please. I have a good job, a master's degree, and live far away from my parents but that doesn't keep them from making my life miserable. Apparently the only way for them to stop bothering me is if they die. I have argued with them 2-3 hours on the phone every night that I have no desire to listen to anything they tell me and that I have a right to live as I please and they refuse to acknowledge it. Don't adults have rights in this country!!!!???? I feel extremely depressed that I can't have a happy relationship with my parents because I don't agree with them. I want to be single the rest of my life but they don't let me. Besides, don't all girls take money away from boys? Don't all relationships have constant disagreements that cannot be resolved? So why must I get married? And I have no interest in fitness, so why must I be healthy and get in shape? If I die, I want to die happy and not with the burden of doing what my parents tell me to do.