Do you hate your parents for being strict and controlling?
Well, it's obvious isn't it? We hate our parents. Most do. This is the age.. teenage! Our parents are strict.. they are controlling. Hence, we hate them. I would be lying, if I said I don't.But there's a twist in the story ..I accept thatI hate their ways,I hate that they think I still need to be controlled,I hate it that they don't let me do most things my friends are allowed to do,I hate that they don't even keep the modem switched on through the night when I need it,I hate that they still monitor where I go and what I do,I hate it that they even try to control my social life,I hate it that they object to most of the things I do,I hate it when they judge my friends,I hate it that they don't even let me have enough pocket moneyI hate that they think at this age they need to tell me that doing drugs is bad, thanks to Crime Patrol episodes!I hate it that they think if I get a costlier mobile, then I will be spoiledI hate it that they think my sister and I are worst kids on Earth, even though we don't drink, smoke, do drugs, or even stay out late.Well, likewise I could go on and on.. about the stuff that they do that I hate.But, the thing, the twist, is now I am 21 and am suddenly realising that what I am today, the kind of people my sister and I didn't turn out to be, is kinda so much better than the people I meet on a daily basis. And I m really grateful for that. To my parents.Yeah I used to hate them till atleast beginning of college. Now even though that hatred is on low, still there are times when I feel broken especially when they accuse me of doing stuff that I have a never ever done or abusing me with harsh words, but I am at that phase of life, where I analyse what's going on, hence, I don't hate on them now.I know there are many people out there, dealing with this kind of parents. I have just one thing to say. They think that this type of parenting works! Most times, these parents had this kind of parents themselves. They think that being harsh with the kids or not letting them do most stuff or doubting on them, will keep them in check. Well, you can't change this thinking. And nor should you hate your parents for the same. Talk to them. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes..well, it doesn't. But no harm in trying. :)I know this answer seems pretty hodge podge, I really didn't know how to deal with this. Hope some find this relateable.Peace out!
My parents are too controlling?
If you don't like the living conditions, move out. They won't change, so you'll have to.
My parents are so strict and controlling, why?
I went through a very similar situation. It is hell for you now, but at some point you will be free. Keep this in mind from someone that went before you. It will get better. I wanted to leave at 18 and go to university but due to student loan rules in my area, my parents would have had to cover 20% of the loan due to their income bracket. That was not an option. I worked full time and then after 4 years I was able to apply as a "Mature Student" on my own. At this point I am completely shunned even though I have never been disfellowshipped or disassociated. That is not love. That was the biggest hurdle to get over. To come to terms that my parents that I loved really didn't love me. I was their son so long as I was part of their religion, when I was no longer part, I was no longer their son. Endure. It will get better and if you decide to become a father at some point. Be a good parent and love your child unconditionally. Don't dwell on others or the past because you can't change either. Incidentally the "no talking to family" rule only applies to those not living with their parents.
Why are Indian parents so strict and controlling?
I am Indian girl and I have many Indian friends who agree that their parents are strict. 1) Why are they so against boyfriends and going out alone a little late? Why are they so afraid of adapting to the modern society? 2) Why do they want us to go into the best jobs and the best University courses and not follow our dreams (or even allow us to realise it)- Just because I haven't found my goal, they are pushing me to achieve the highest possible... shouldn't they let me find what it is I want? 3) I realise that they want us to live a safe and happy life because they love us, but don't all parents? What exactly Indian parents thinking about? 4) I understand that there is a culture difference, but what exactly (PRECISELY) is it? 5) Do they think a life caged and seemingly perfect will protect us from what is really out there? I feel that they are putting a blindfold on us, but don't they think this? How will we manage on our own? 6) What exactly is going through their narrow minds? If possible, I would like to hear from a Indian parent who doesn't defend him/herself but actually admits to reality and gives an OBJECTIVE point of view. Because, frankly, they are strict.
My mom is way too strict and controlling?
Seriously? No privacy? I'm 14, going into high school and I think I should have just a BIT of privacy. I know that she was a wild teenager (she admitted to sneaking out and trying stuff) and I just did this and they give me no privacy or anything. I don't have a lock on my door, so they will barge in when I'm changing and will stay in the room (both of my parents) while talking to me. They make me put my phone up at 10:30 during the summertime and it stinks. They demand me to give them my passwords to everything (I have nothing to hide, I just don't like them going through my stuff), my mom grabs my phone and for about 1 hour she will go through every app on my phone. Including photos. She makes me turn my phone off at 11:00 PM in the summertime and I can't be outside after 9:30. She always bugs me about what I'm doing on my phone. I'm going to be an adult soon honestly. 4 years is not that long. Why can't she just accept the fact that I need more freedom and more personal space? I'm not a baby anymore. If I have one cuss word on anything she will ground me. I don't understand! Help!
Why are African Parents so controlling?
This question has a lot of intresting answers.It's just that were most likley to end up dead or in jail or prison.It's not like there controlling it's just that were trying to keep OUR kids from making stupid azz mistakes.that can vanish their lives.And trust me , I've seen some other parents act the same way.