My friend's parents are fighting at home!?
I had the same problem with one of my friends , her parents were always fighting so she used to call me to talk about it. I told her maybe should take some time off of home. So I told her she should come to my house whenever she needed to ( I made sure to get permission first ) , and don't let her get too depressed because it can lead to more problems for her. Anyways , try to help her remember that this is just a bump in the road and if her parents do get a divorce , well some things just happen for the better.
How should I talk to my parents without fighting them?
It would be helpful if I knew if you are a young adult still living at home or an adult living on your own, but since I don’t have that information I will speak generally as to what is successful when speaking to most people.Show them respectAsk them if you can speak with them openly and honestly about some concernsAsk them to please hear you out before replyingAnd show this same courtesy to them when they respond.Do not interrupt them listen to them and show that you are listening respectfullyWhen you and your parent disagree on a matter attack the problem not each otherAnd if either side becomes upset just say perhaps we need to shelf this matter and discuss it another time.If you speak to your parents in a respectful, mature way showing yourself willing to listen as well as speak you will come closer to having them hear you.And always let them know at the end of the conversation how much you appreciate their willingness to listen to your concerns.Being a parent is not an easy journey at times so showing respect and love for them will go a long way toward building a relationship that you can be heardMy thoughts and prayers are with you as you makes efforts to build a quality relationship with your parent through effectively respectful communication
Why is it that every time I talk with my parents we fight?
Often when people stop fighting it’s because they have considered HOW other parties feel and made changes to their Own behavior, attitude, understanding and ultimately grow as people. It takes two parties to fight.How we treat each other’s feelings determines the success of the group, team, company, country, planet and most importantly the family.Sometimes it’s after a long time apart, Most times it’s after a major crisis or life changing event because at that time opinions, ideas, beliefs are more malable.Occasionally growth occurs because both parties consciously chose to further educate and improve themselves and consider others feelings.Which ever road taken the destination is “psychological safety” when you “know” I got you back and you got mine.How we say something is often more important that what we are saying.The real question for you is are you willing to make the first compromise.
How do I deal with my parents fighting every night about money??? PLEASE HELP :((((?
Sorry to hear about your bad situation. It is unfortunate for you and your brother to have to deal with it. I might suggest talking to your parents about it. Have them sit down and let them know that the fact they keep fighting over the same things all the time is really hurtful to you. Understand that their fighting is about them and not about you and your brother, but it still effects you. Don't just say we wish you would stop fighting, but ask, what can be done to put a plan together that will give everyone a goal and direction so the fighting can stop. If they say you don't understand, say that might be right, but I do understand the fighting and arguing isn't healthy for any of us. This may make them realize what is going on around them, because sometimes people get so focused on their problems they don't see the big picture. Maybe they will explain it to you. I encourage that. While you are young and may not understand all the things they talk about, this a chance for you to learn how things got bad and how not to repeat them. Also remember outside appearances can be deceiving. That is probably a big part of the money troubles. They most likely have over spent to keep up the appearances. $500,000 is a lot of money to owe. That in itself can create a lot of stress. But the damage is done, it can't be changed. What matters most is how your family moves forward from here. Don't take sides, just let them both know you love them and you will all get through this. As you start to move forward, worry a little less about the clothes and car to put focus on the real important expense of college. With open hearts, minds and love you will all do well. Best wishes.
Ramadan: How do you deal with fighting parents?
Hi: As much as I like YLHG, I respectfully disagree. Unless one of your parents is being abused, you should not get in the middle. They are adults and their relationship is separate from the one they share with you. How old you are matters in this case, but I'm going to guess around 14ish. If that is the case, I would still say you shouldn't get in the middle, even if it does get physical. Do you have a good relationship with your folks when their not fighting? Since you say you've already tried to talk to them, that's about the maximum you can do. You could advise them that if it does get physical you will call the police next time, and even for something small. Do you have any other family you could stay with, even short term? If so, you could talk to them, and see if they could keep you for a week or two. Then you tell your parents you're going to be there for such and such time, because you really can't take the yelling, it's affecting your health, your studies, your happiness and you hope they can resolve things. My parents used to fight so much, it was awful, but trying to talk to them did nothing. Finally, I spent a summer at my friend's place. My parents divorced soon after (not because of me). Although divorce isn't normally what we want for our parents, they were both happier afterwards and better parents. If you can't talk to them and you can't get away for a bit, then all you can do is try to get involved in things outside of the home, and pray. You can e-mail me anytime (if you like) if you need someone to talk to. I know this is painful, but you do have to keep in mind that while our parents are major players in our lives, their relationship to each other is very different from the one they have with us.
Parents fighting, just got physical. What should I do?
I'm 15 and came back home from school. My older brother brought back his report card, and it wasn't looking too good. My mother is all for grades, and when she sees him, she flips. I go to my room and lock myself up until I had enough and wanted to say what was on my mind. I ended up screaming "I've been in my room the past hour, and only had one question done because of your screeching". Of course, my mother never listens to anything I, or anyone else, says, she retorts screaming as well "well then get out of the house." So after bundling myself up and grabing my homework, I spent an hour at the park trying to do homework until it finally started to get dark. I tried to call my dad using my cell, but ended up crying instead. I then came home and went into my room. Later on, my dad comes home and I tell him the whole unsugar-coated story. About an hour or so later, by chance my mother and father were in the kitchen, and it all started. The whole argument was based on how my mother doesn't listen, finally my father snapped. He smashed her into the the fridge screaming "who do you think you are", there were more physical attacks, my mother didn't hold back either, it finally came to where she pulled out a kitchen knife. I took the dog with me [since she would obviously be kicked at one point or another] and headed into my room. I sank into the corner and cried for a while, my mother came into my room and yelled "are you happy now" and "if I were you I'd be laughing". She thinks that I want all this to happen, the physical fighting and all, but all I want is for our family to get back together again. The fighting is bound to happen again, what should I do? Thank you for the people who read all this, means a lot to me.