What would happen to the Indian society if parents are banned from arranging marriages and only love marriages are the way to get married?
If parents are banned from arranging marriages in India, my prediction is that most of the young men and women would never get married.It is not the parents who are interested in arranging marriages for the children. Most of them would rather be happy if their children can find their partners and get married themselves. If parents have to still arrange marriages, it is because their children are unable to find a spouse for themselves.If we want the love marriages to become popular in India, the entire Indian society has to be transformed and become highly educated and westernized.We have to discard most of Indian values which we are so proud of. It meansThe girls and boys must be given similar level of education and job opportunitiesParents must stop doing sacrifices for their children and stop giving them any inheritance from their propertyThe children must develop independence from early age and start earning their wages since around 14-16 years by doing petty jobsThe children must start living separately from their parents in their teens and should not expect their parents to support them financiallyMen and women must learn to share the household work on equal footingThere must be free interaction of boys and girls since early ageThe Indian society must freely allow dating of young men and womenSociety must accept live-in relationship as the way of lifeIndians must forget about the old values of fidelity and accept pre-marital and post-marital sex as a way of lifeIndians must forget about the concept of life-partnership with their spouse and be ready for divorces and broken familiesChildren must learn to take the responsibility of their love marriages rather than expecting their parents to help them if their love marriages are brokenIt is important to remember that there are no free lunches in the real world.You have to always pay a price for anything you wish to achieve.You can’t only take the good things of any system. You have to accept the bad things of a system as well when you are accepting for its good things.When you hold one end of the rod, you also hold the other end as well.Are you willing to pay the price for this social transformation in the society?
Is it unhealthy for pre-adolescents to see parents kissing/hugging each other too much?
I will answer this because after almost 30 years of wonderful married life and raising two well adjusted and successful sons, I think my humble opinion may help you. In general, affection between parents is important for children to witness because it helps them understand adult relationships and sets expectations for their own later in life. On the other hand, excessive PDA, including groping, French kissing, grinding, or anything beyond a short kiss and hugs, cuddling, or holding hands, is inappropriate. Excessive PDA makes kids uncomfortable.
Can you get fired for missing a day at work because of a death in the family?
I once fired a worker for this reason. It was a beautiful summer's day. The guy called me to say that he wouldn't be able to work the next day as his grandmother had just died and her funeral was the next day. Funerals don't generally happen that fast but I gave him the benefit of doubt. Two days later he came into to work on crutches with his leg in plaster to tell me he'd broken his leg and couldn't work for a few weeks. "What happened?", I asked. "We were at the swimming pool and I slipped and fell"."The funeral was held at the pool?""Funeral? Oh yes. No, this was afterwards. My grandmother loved swimming so the whole family went to the pool after the funeral to celebrate her life"."You all went to the pool after the funeral? Your whole family?","Yes","Andy?","Yes?","There was no funeral, was there?", "No. Should I look for another job?","Yes". Andy's brother was a friend of mine and was very impressed with this incredible show of intelligence.
What makes someone clingy?
The short answer is that people who are considered clingy often have what's called an Anxious Attachment style, one of three main attachment styles along with secure and avoidant (you can see what your is here: Attachment Styles and Close Relationships )People develop their particular style on account of their inborn temperament, and how their parents or caregivers responded to their demands for comfort and closeness when they were infants and small children. As the theory goes, people who are anxiously attached got their need to be soothed, held and otherwise comforted met some of the time and not others. Sometimes yelling "Mommy!!" would bring mom near, at other times it would be ignored or even punished. There was no way of knowing. Intermittent rewards make people and animals act compulsively--always with their finger on the button, so anxiously attached people are constantly seeking proximity and reassurance in their adult relationships as they did when they were children. Believe it or not, this isn't always a problem, and doesn't have to lead to anyone being called "clingy". Occasionally an anxiously attached person will pair up with somebody who is securely attached and find to their surprise and delight that the person is OK with comforting and reassuring them as much as they want to be comforted and reassured. If this goes on long enough, the anxious person finds themselves needing less comfort and reassurance than before. Unfortunately, anxious people usually wind up with avoidants, a group that probably coined the word, "clingy." Maybe there's some deep psychology behind this, but it's just as likely because avoidants have such a high relationship turnover rate that they're overrepresented in the dating pool at any given moment. Avoidants learned early on that the answer to "will you comfort me?" is "no" or silence and they coped by shutting down awareness of the part of them that needs other people. They can disguise this by coming off like Prince Charming or a Manic Pixie Dreamgirl at the start, but soon they revert to protective coldness and judgement. This is hell on anxiously attached people who feel insecure enough already, and their avoidant partners who feel this is going too fast and it's not you, it's me, but it's great for OKcupid's bottom line, as it assures a steady stream of customers.
Attn: Straight People: When you say "I don't care if you're gay just as long as you don't throw it in my face"
What do you mean by this? I mean, I've never had sex with a guy on the sidewalk for a bunch of straight people to gawk at? I don't even really talk about my sex life except with my best friends. I'm really perplexed here.... So what do you mean that you're okay with me being gay just as long as I don't "shove it in your face"? Does that mean that I can't tell you I'm gay? That I can't hold my boyfriend's hand in public? That I can't root for the one or two gay characters that have ever made it onto network television? I'll be happy to respect your wishes, but at the same time, I think it would be only fair for you to stick by the same rules.. Wouldn't you agree? We all wanna have a level playing field, don't we? So shouldn't that mean, that from now on, you can't hold your husband's/wife's hand in public, that you can't talk about how great your spouse and kids are at work? I mean, isn't that basically throwing it in my face? I'll keep my humanity in the bedroom if you will.
My 16 year old daughter is out of control!?
She might be Bisexual and she might just be experimenting or doing it for attention from guys. And even if she is that's alright. (I am) Best thing to do really is put her on Birth control and make sure she's using protection. You don't have to give her the whole "respect your body" lecture because she knows it and she knows about the risk of sex. Just talk to her. Talk to her like a normal person. (Which means don't talk down to her as if she were a small child who didn't understand) Don't make her feel like she's going to be in trouble if she tells the truth and maybe she'll open up more.