My parents make big deals out of everything?
I don't know why, but small little minute things cause huge family discussions and fights in my house. For example, I put a spoon in the fridge. I was cooling it down to put it on my eyes, because they were puffy from allergies. They asked me why it was there. I told them. They asked me why I didn't ask permission. Then I proceeded to get lectured because of a spoon. Another example. I got up to pee in the middle of the night. Our puppy had pooped in the kitchen (my dad's dog, who I don't take care of) so I just ignored it and went back to bed. When they got up, they realized that I had been awake, and scolded me for not picking up th dog poop (which I have never done, and I'm not expected too) Another example. Someone says good morning. I'm so tired that I don't hear them. Grounded because of disrespect. Get the picture? Help?
Why do my parents make such a big deal when I ask for things? I literally have less than ten shirts in my closet (five for winter, five for summer), and they think that's way too many. They never even care if my clothes are ripped or look old.
Ask your parents. They are literally the best people to answer your question.You may need to be careful about how you ask so that it sounds like you are genuinely curious rather than complaining.Try something like…“Would you please explain to me why you do not want me to have more clothes ? I feel uncomfortable that some of my shirts are torn, for example.”Good luck and best wishes…
Why do parents make such a big deal out of really small things?
parents do tend to over react, but thats because they care for you alot and know you could have done better. 16/20 is really good (: but it might have bothered your mom because she knows you were capable of getting that 20. thats what i find with my parents. i really doesnt encourage me when they make big deals, it actually makes me feel crappy, but i know to try harder on the next test so i dont need to go through the same situation again. parents are tough, but after you somewhat figure them out, what they do can help (: but all parents are like that. my mom and dad are totally anal about my grades lmfaooo good luck :D
Why are my parents always making a big deal out of a small one?
parents like to think that they know everything, and don't get me wrong they have a lot of good advice and experiences, but they're still human like you and me. They were teenagers once before and have taken everything that has ever occurred in their lives (good and bad) and have tried to take the parts they feel are the most important, and enstill them into you.now these may or may not be what you feel is right, and that's ok.most parental issues deal with having control over their children. I have come to this understanding way too late, and if I had realized this, it would have explained a lot.Try to include your parents in more decisions, and just let them know what you're doing. Make it seem like they're in control, and that you see them as a friend…the yelling should simmer down… at least it did for me!
My parents get mad over the smallest things!?
so my parents have been so upset with me lately. and i don't know why. every little thing i do seems to tick them off. im only 14. but im really mature for my age. i've never done anything to make them so.. mad all the time. (ex. I've never smoke, drank, ect) but they never seem to be proud/happy for me. long story short, their mad at me as of right now. my sister was in her schools spelling bee yesterday. (she's in elementary, I'm in high) it was during school, so of course i couldnt go. we originally planned to go out to eat, until my parents made the decision of not going. 30 minutes later, they changed their mind, again. I had already ate, so I wasnt hungry at all. so of course i said I didn't want to go. they started saying how bad of a sister I was for not going, because I was not "supporting" her. And now I'm grounded, for something as little as that! And 1 more example. I'm Mormon. so is my dad, of course. he's a strong believer in the church. So he makes me and my twin brother get up for seminary everysingle morning. i have to get up at 4:30 am, every morning. so as a teenager its not easy. but every time I tell my dad how much I hate seminary, he goes crazy on me. and to be honest, I don't even want to be Mormon. but it's like he do sent realize it. can you please tell me how I can get along with my parents? and not deal with all the fighting? all of this is just overwhelming and i've even noticed my grades dropping. :/
Why is it that so many American parents make such a big deal about their teenagers having their boy/girl friends sleep over, as opposed to many European parents?
We as parents remember the shenanigans WE got into when we were teens... and of course then we get paranoid about our kids going down the same road as we did.The problem isn't really that we get upset about boy/girlfriends sleeping over. The problem is that we are likely less communicative to our kids about things like sex, reproduction, and family planning past "Don't do it" or "just say no." So our kids are pretty much left to fend for themselves and figure things out as they go along, and of course biology will win over dogma when the kids don't KNOW what they're getting into or what the consequences will be.Parents in European countries tend to be less uptight about talking to their kids, and as a result their kids are probably more aware of how things work by the time their bodies are clamoring for company.
Why do parents make such a big deal about grades?
No, parents do understand that you're under stress. The stress you're experiencing now, I am sorry to say isn't much compared to stresses later on in life. Colleges do look at extracurricular, but it's more if you're tied with someone in marks, they'll choose you over the other person if you have extracurricular. Extracurricular won't help you if you marks are a few percentages off. You can chill out once you're in college. Seriously, college is alot of fun if you live on campus, just grind through highschool.
Okay parents! I don't understand... What is the big deal about hickeys?
Nah, there's no big deal. Why would the people who brought you into the world care if you're making out with and having sex with people? Why should they notice when you make it so obvious? Silly parents. It's not like it will mentally screw you up and make the rest of your life miserable! Parents who care are parents who ignore.
How do I deal with someone who makes a big argument out of every single flaw I have?
Some people just have to be right. To be honest , take a good look at him. see how unhappy he is?. Sounds to me like he has control issues. I would tell him a few things. 1. When his life is perfect and he makes no mistakes then maybe just maybe he can bring up yours.2. Why does he let your life and how you decide to do things effect him so much? Why does it matter to him? Is he the one that has to pick up your slack? If so then I can see his argument .3. If he doesn't like how you do things then he can do 1or 2 things. Don't watch or do it himself and not complain.4. If he has so much time to analyze everything you do and why you do it he needs to get a freaking hobby. 5. There is more than one way to get from point A to point B. Just because you don't do things the way he does them does not mean they are wrong.6. Everyone learns by trial and error . He did. So let you make your mistakes and learn from them. 7. You already have a mother and a father. It is not his job to tell what to do and how to do it. You would be much more receptive if he waited till you came to him for advise. 8. There must be something going on in your life that is so out of control that he feels the need to control somebody else's. 9 except people like they are. He doesn't want anyone to expect him to change the way he is so don't be a hypocrite and except the differences in people. 10. He needs to get a handle on his anger. Seems to me that trivial things set him off. Counseling may be a good idea. Ask him " do you see everyone else getting upset over such trivial things? He will have a hard time in a relationship if he doesn't get it under control.11. Every time he does something the wrong way or forgets to do something, or does something wrong point it out to him. Finish off his story about you with " did he tell about the time he did......" Even the tables. As for you, do the best you can, don't put things off so that someone else has to take on your responsibilities. Pull your own weight and contribute . Then everything else he complains about it just hot air .