How do atheist parents raise their children?
Oh, we teach our kids that it’s OK to steal, kill, rape, abuse and fornicate in public. We teach them also that no one deserves respect, and human sacrifice is perfectly OK, since they are no consequences. We teach them you should do whatever you want. We also tech them that morals and ethics are not necessary. On the list of things we include attacking anyone that have religious beliefs and, if possible, assault them physically and if they get killed, even better. Plus, we tell them to admire the greatest atheists of the world like Lenin, Mao, and other mass murderers. And we also teach them that communism is the greatest ideology in the world, created by the greatest atheist ever existed, Karl Marx.Of course, none of these things are true. I’m just want to highlight how insanely inappropriate these kind of questions are.How the hell do people think we raise our kids? What do people think we are? Some sort of beast spawned from hell to corrupt society?We raise kids pretty much like anyone else: With LOTS and LOTS of love, teaching them to do good, to be good people, to be an example for others, to be successful, to be good, to help others, to respect others, to do good at school… I don’t know. How do you raise your kids??
Why do the Indian parents always show their children that they are perfect?
Because they want their children to be happy and not worry about their issues. Also, children are not matured enough to take those burdens or understand everything. I'm not saying all parents are perfect but they are matured enough to tackle those situations without letting the kids know. They pretend to be calm and composed sometimes to make you feel comfortable and to create a positive and happy environment.
With regard to child rearing> do you support androgyny or gender roles?
I think they should be raised to get excited about what the future holds. I would be just as encouraging if my child wanted to be a doctor, artist, full-time parent, teacher, or whatever. I do notice that both boys and girls are being pushed into the "status" jobs lately. They are praised if they say they want to be doctors or lawyers, but not if they want to teach horseback riding lessons or be parents. Boys also seem to be pushed into sports, even if they have no interest. This bothers me a lot - I want my kids to discover who they are, with or without gender roles. One problem I see is that little girls are now shamed if they want to grow up and be mothers. They are encouraged to "reach higher". How much higher can you reach than wanting to shape a future generation? Kids growing up now will likely have several careers in their lifetimes, and for some kids, being a full-time mom or dad will be one of them. No matter how gender-free you raise children, some little girls will always want to be moms - and this isn't something we should try to brainwash them out of. All of my kids are going to learn to cook, clean, etc. They have a good role model for that with my husband and I - we both do housework and take care of babies, with no thought to gender. I think that's going to be a major change in upcoming generations. My mother and her friends are often amazed to see Gen X guys like my hubby pitching in with that stuff, but it seems to be pretty common now.
Do you think children of divorced parents are at risk of psychological problems?
Yes & No. I know my answer is a contradiction but it’s true. Some children are affected by the divorce of their parents and it’s very detrimental to them which causes them to be at risk of psychological problems. For some children, it’s the equivalent of experiencing a loss the same way in which they would go through the loss of loved ones death.However, for some children that aren’t affected adversely by the divorce of their parents. I’ll give an example, of someone I know. This person’s parents divorced because there was infidelity on both ends but the father was also not helping financially with taking care of the household or doing his part to take care of the family. The mom was always working and pretty much taking care of the household financially and other ways. My friend noticed that and respected the mom for that even when the parents marriage was over. The divorce seemed to only have psychological effect on drawing my friend more to being affiliated with religion & making it a big part of their life. But otherwise it didn’t affect him/her in a way that they’re going to counseling, turning to self harm, substance abuse, so forth. Ideally, they would want both parents together but he/she knew it was best the decision for them to file divorce and have one parent be the active caregiver (Mom).(I was trying to use third person pronouns which I’m not really sure if I did a good job of or not.)To just add a final word to the answer you’re looking for to your question. No one really knows the mind of a child and each child handles and processes divorce differently. For some, it will pose a huge risk to psychological factors and for others—not so much.
Why do adults act superior to adolescents?
Insecurity.Looking at your question and some of the responses is enlightening. You ask why adults act superior, and most of the responses don’t answer that question. They instead tell you that adults are superior. You didn’t ask if adults were superior.Ask yourself - if someone already is superior, why would they need to act superior? Why would they need to constantly tell you they are superior? It doesn’t make sense, unless they themselves doubt their own superiority.When I go to a restaurant, as a customer I am superior to the waitstaff. But I still treat them with respect, I don’t need to act like I am their superior. I believe that everyone deserves respect until proven otherwise, and I therefore try to treat everyone with respect, regardless of their age, gender, background or social status. I’ve never understood why some people feel the need to make others feel inferior. My conclusion is that they do it out of their own feelings of inadequacy.As a member of the newer generation, you have a unique viewpoint. Your generation will have your own music, your own culture, your own moments you all relate to. In my experience, older people will tell you that your music is inferior, your culture insipid, and your moments shallow. Feel free to ignore them when they do this. After all, you are superior to them in matters of your own generation, and you always will be.It may eventually become tempting to you to treat older people as inferiors. I urge you to consider how you have yourself been treated, and resist this temptation. Treat your elders, as well as those younger than you, with the same respect you would like them to treat you. As you grow in power and in influence, you will find that people remember you treating them with respect and will return the favor.
Do you hate parents who expect respect out of their kids but don't respect their kids back?
Respect is a 2 way street. If you give respect, be prepared to give it. It doesn't matter who the other person is. It doesn't matter if the person is of a different gender, race, or religion, so why should it matter if the other person is of a different age? It makes me very angry when I see parents yell at their kids, but punish their kids when the kids yell back. If you are going to yell at your kids, you'd better be prepared for your kids to yell at you back. If you aren't going to put up with them yelling, be prepared to show them some respect. If I see parents being hypocritical pieces of trash like this, I call them out publicly. I know it is none of my business, but it makes me UNCONTROLLABLY ANGRY when parents do not respect their children. I realize that they are just trying to teach their children right from wrong, but if you are going to yell at them to teach them that, then don't expect to teach them that yelling is wrong.
Do narcissistic people miss their children?
Do Narcissistic people miss their children?One of the confusing things about being the child of a Narcissist is the parent’s “on” and “off” behavior. What do I mean by this?The “On” State: In what I have named the “On State,” Narcissistic parents feel positive feelings toward their children because, for the moment, they do not feel angry, disappointed or hurt by them. Unless the parent is truly a Toxic Narcissist and mainly hates or envies their children, most Narcissistic parents have times when they feel in sync with their children and can access and experience positive feelings toward them.Absence: The “On State” can occur in the presence of the children or in their absence. It is sometimes easier for some Narcissistic parents to feel positive feelings when their children are absent because:The children are not touching off the hypersensitive Narcissistic parent’s negative feelings because they are not present.The Narcissist misses them as a source of Narcissistic supplies.In the absence of feeling angry, frustrated or disappointed by them, the Narcissistic parent can remember their good points.The “Off” State: This occurs when the children are acting in any way different than the Narcissistic parent wants them to. The parent feels angry, disappointed or hurt and reacts by attacking and devaluing them or coldly withdrawing.Lack of Object Constancy: The above situation is complicated by the fact that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorders either do not have or easily lose their “object constancy.” “Object constancy” refers to two things:The ability to maintain their positive emotional tie to someone when they are angry, hurt, or disappointed with them.The ability to continue to feel the positive connection when the person is not present physically. This also includes the ability to visualize their face when they are not present. Without “object constancy: out of sight means out of mind.Punchline: Narcissistic parents can miss their children when two conditions are fulfilled:They are in their “On State” where they are in touch with their positive feelings toward their children.Something has brought their children to mind, such as someone else talking about children or they are feeling lonely.A2AElinor Greenberg, PhD, CGPIn private practice in NYC and the author of the book: Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety.www.elinorgreenberg.com
How does a narcissist manipulate their children to benefit the narcissist?
The parents parentify the child that means they make the child the parent and then the parent becomes the child themselves they expect the child to consistently meet all of their inessential non stopping ego and physical needs as a parent as they want to be constantly edified and encouraged no matter how they treat the child.they will sacrifice the child in some way for their career looks relationships something.They will triangulate the child against people who would support them otherwise. They make for the most dreadful enemies because they will pretend to be the child’s friend.