What makes people shout when they are angry?
The explanation for shouting might be diverse. In the context of heated argument. I guess that shouting helps us to cope with our frustration for not getting our point admitted, for exemple when we are facing an unreceptive person and fail to converse with an intelligent and poised attitude, on the reverse when we fall short of argument and refuse to change our point of view we are also raising our tone.I feel like shouting acts like the tube vent works for the pressure cooker... Agreed shouting does not make us any more righteous, it is part of verbal communication tactics though. Try your luck you might end winning the argument at last.Afterall we are vocal since birth... as soon as we come as new borns we scream .... on and on untill we get enough vocabulary to speak our minds out... and bring the volume down why not...Agreed ideally grown-ups should not need to resort to shouting ... however culture and education are just superficial coatings over what our instincts are dictating us... How far are we able to keep command on our emotions? How do you deal with distaste, indignation, shame, prejudice, beign hurt, your own shortcomings? I guess you have to put up with your miserable self ... Personally I do shout on a timely basis, it does feel good in the nick of time, however chances are you feel not so great ... after. It happened that I broke down into tears after shouting unable to cope with the peak of emotions that overwhlemed me ... Anyway besides temper I am also blessed with a forgetful mind... cannot hold grudge for long unless the pain inflicted to me is too significant to be brushed away that lightly. Cannot agree with the ahimsa monks around ... too human to pretend to be anything else ...
My ex-husband keeps calling me names?
I shouldn't let this upset me but I find I feel just horrible after talking to him. I've decided not to pursue him for child support, I can't stand the stress. I'm trying to manage without him, wishing the marriage would just go away and I could start afresh. He left me and the children and went abroad. But he phones and shouts at me and swears - he wanted me to follow him abroad and I said no - I'd already moved country once for him and he hates me and I wasn't going to go on following someone who hates me and wishes me dead... How can I clear this from my mind, start afresh, feel better?
Why does the sound of someone constantly coughing irritate the crap out of me?
I have a guy upstairs from me (I live in an apartment building) who has a condition of sorts (I don’t know what his problem is, but it sounds bad) and he could get into a coughing fit that comes at times that are not conducive to a good work environment. (I have a home based business.)As annoying as it is, I remember that this guy is suffering and so do not complain. However I think my annoyance comes from the fact that, as I am working, my train of thought is often derailed by his hacking cough and it can get frustrating having to rethink a problem. I accept it as just a fact of life and another challenge in my bid to build a business.I have decided to be happy to accept such challenges, as I am sure his challenges are greater.I hope this helps.-Adrian Lee Magill.
What is it called when someone cough on purpose each time you do something to psychologically harass you?
What is it called when someone cough on purpose each time you do something to psychologically harass you? And how do you defend yourself against that? Especially if the person denies doing it each time?If it is done deliberately, I would call this being a bully.Sometimes people will have daily coughs due to medications or other conditions so don't make accusations unless you know for certain that these factors are not present. Chronic coughing can become an unconscious activity; the person may not be aware that they do it.If you know for certain that the coughing is deliberate and intended to harrass you, you have three choices. You can ignore it, or you can talk to the person about it, or you can disarm them by befriending them. People who bully others by doing passive-aggressive crap like this often need attention and want to be in control of others. Because you stated that the person denies doing it, it seems you've already tried talking to them about it. Ignoring them is one way to deal with them; it's effective because it breaks the link between their behaviour and the reward (they distracted you and you react). Befriending them works because it recognizes their neediness and responds with compassion.If you are in a situation where you will frequently encounter the person, try befriending them first. It could make both of your lives more pleasant.
My dad keeps hurting my feelings, what do i do?
every time i do something wrong, no matter how small it is, he gets angry then calls me names. he always jumps to conclusions about what happens and because of his yelling, he never allows me to speak. it's always entirely my fault. then he calls me things like stupid, retarded, fatso, dog, lazy and the two things he said that hurt me the most was when he told me he hoped i die, and that i'll grow up to be a nobody. *(i left my brother's cellphone right next to him at my dad's job but since i was the last one to have it, everyone jumps on me and then my dad said i won't become anything)* Everything i do for this guy, all of the work i do, picking up after him folding his clothes, running his cafeteria, bringing home awesome grades and test scores (still calls me stupid) working my *** of for him on saturdays lifting boxes of food and spending hours loading the boxes for his stupid cafeteria (still calls me lazy and good for nothing) no matter how far i isolate myself from my friends outside of school so he wont say i'm a bad kid, get into drugs or be stuck on the streets because of them (my friends aren't even bad people) he still says it. hell my entire summer has always been, don't talk to my friends for three months, work hard for my dad, and don't get payed, then go home. i can go on and on about how many times he's called me these things and hurt me or even the work he puts me through every day, the isolation that he's made me feel (i'm not allowed to hang out with friends, if i do and he finds out, he'll kick me out) but this would turn out to be an essay.
Why do some people not only refuse to cover their mouth, but also enjoy coughing and sneezing openly if they have a cold when close to other people?
Gosh….a person can endanger someone that way. Not all colds hit everyone mildly. And then there’s the matter of job performance, school performance etc while mr mucous spreads his phlegm spit.Why? Bad manners….raised poorly without hygiene training etc. That behavior is a warning flag to watch for other ignorant behavior. Bad germ cleanliness equates to the same thing as offensive body odor. One guy who all of the girls in my Sorority house avoided only seemed to use good hygiene when he was trying to get laid. Needless to say, women laughed him off the second they realized he was a self absorbed filth factory.FYI It’s perfectly fine to tell a person, (loudly and in public if necessary) to cough or sneeze into their arm instead of on you. (Coughing in the hand spreads germs to everything they touch afterwards.). The only thing that works with some ignorant people is if you can actually embarrass them publicly. Hopefully it won’t cone to that but be prepared to push.
Why are people at the Social Security office so rude and hang up the phone on you?
Call the main 800 number in Falls church. They are much better than the local employees. America doomed? Because the employees are foreign workers? No bureaucracy has time for civility. They don't make money from good public relations or good manners.
Baby Nephew not welcome at wedding?
A.) You and your fiance are paying for your own wedding. It sounds like you don't have financial support from either sets of parents. Therefore, it's your wedding, you invite who you want, you set the tone for the wedding. B.) You have made an exception so the child feels welcome at some parts of the wedding. This is more than most people who have said "no kids" would have done. This is both admirable and respectable, and in my opinion, a reasonable compromise. Those things being said, just by making that compromise with his sister, you will have to compromise for other couples who have children. If word gets out that you made this solution for your future sister in law, you will have trouble convincing other new mothers that they can't bring their children. When you say, "no kids", it should be exactly that - no children during the entire duration. I babysat when I was a teenager. I don't see the huff about letting someone else watch your children for an evening. If you can't afford $30.00 for an evening of hiring a babysitter, perhaps you should not have RSVP'd "yes" to the wedding. I don't see any reason why parents wouldn't want a night out to themselves, especially if they're new parents. My wedding is a no children wedding. My fiance and I are saving for a large down payment on a home, as well as contributing to a travel fund for ourselves. We are paying for this wedding out of pocket and refuse to assume any debt whatsoever for it. Adding children to the reception adds chaos and extra costs that we just aren't willing to pay. I do not want children running around at a formal event. I'm sure many others agree with me. It doesn't mean that I don't love my cousins or my friend's children - I do. Some parents just don't understand that even though they love their children and others do too, your decision does not reflect on them personally. I think you've made a good choice and you sound very reasonable and understanding. Good luck in what ever you decide to do, but do not let her whining bring you down. You are planning a wedding. You have enough to worry about.
Name some of your likes/dislikes?
Likes- *Forensic Science *Acting *Nice people *Clean stuff *Diet Mountain Dew *Talking *Laughing *Sleeping *Funny people *people who don’t give a sh!t what you look like *Privacy *Freedom *Swimming *playing Hockey *Four wheeling *Snowmobiling *Jet Skiing *Computer Stuff *Fishing *Hunting *walking around town *Dogs *paddle boating *Listening to music *watching old wrestling videos *going to the famous supper club *bon fires *Camping *Tanning *cooking/baking *capital letters *hot tubing *Tubing *listening to music *making youtube videos (too bad I have no patience to upload them onto youtube) *dancing ha ha *dance dance revolution *Dreams *Mythology *Ghosts *bizarre murders *unsolved mysteries *social science Dislikes- *Rude/Cocky people *cleaning *people who cry all the time *showoffs *people who won’t leave you alone *being told who I should talk or not talk to--like leave me the hell alone I can talk to whoever I feel like it *people with no sense of humor *people who don’t give any effort into their answers (on here) *people who copy my Q’s *being copied all together *people who think they’re better then others *boring people *doctors *text slang *people who think being shy means you are stupid *alcohol *alcoholics *Rodents *Time of the month *Yellow teeth, bad breath