Why do people only talk to me when they need something, and not talk to me for who I am?
In a very straightforward and elaborate way, you’ve just defined a special type of people in your question - the type we define as “selfish”. The people you’ve mentioned in your question are selfish, probably to their very bones.The world is a very cruel place, and it’s generally advised that you look out for yourself first before you do the same for others. According to that, it’s okay if you think about yourself before others, but this is to be followed in times of adversity, and not in every freaking chance you get.This behaviour, the one involving “you only mean something to me when I can utilize you or your presence in an advantageous way for myself”, is unacceptable. It’s simply unacceptable. And the people sporting such behaviour should be thrown out of your life like trash, because that’s exactly what they are.People on the internet, with a sense of sarcasm, like to say that “help a friend in need, and he/she will remember you when he/she needs help again”. Well guess what? Those people are not ‘friends’ by any means. They’re pretty much parasites. Like this leech right here -Leeches just latch onto their hosts, and drain the bodily fluids (mostly blood) which they take for themselves. Apart from the occasional infection and anaphylactic shocks in a few rare cases, they give absolutely nothing in return. Exactly like those people you mentioned in the question. I don’t think I need to tell you what should be done with leeches.All the best casting them out of your lives.P.S. Thanks for the answer request. Means a lot.
Why do people only talk to me when they want something?
The only thing I have close to friends are the people I work with.They only time they call me is when they want something done.Last night was "Can you by me some alcohol?" from an 18 year old I work with.I said no and he got all pissed. Friday a girl called and asked if I could fix her computer. I said sure and had it fixed in a matter of minutes(second time I have fixed it).Same story with another girl and her computer.Why do all these people call me when they want something but never want to just hang out?
People only talk to me when they need something?
I'm 25 (female) and feel like I've come to kind of a rut in my life. I just finished grad school and am interviewing for some jobs I like in a major US city, so I guess that part is all fine, but in terms of social life I find myself so depressed that sometimes I think about just ending my life (I never would though, because I have 2 very loving parents who would be devastated and I could never do that to them). I know it's hard to move to a new place and meet people, and I do know some people here who I thought were really close friends. lately, though, it seems like they only talk to me if they need something. like the first day i was here i agreed to cat-sit for my friend for a couple days, and I was so excited to be in the same city so he and i could hang out and finally see each other often. but since i did him that favor i've tried contacting him and he ignores me. my other friends have blown me off too. this isn't just about finding new friends because i feel like there is something wrong with my personality and i need to fix it. please help:(
Why some only people speak whenever they want something?
Its not completey wrong to dislike them. Just stay away from those people. Most of them are friends with people just like them and they only need friends like you because when they are down and out those "real" friends of theirs wont help them. I dont think they are sociopaths. It might need to go a little deeper than that but hey you never know
Why does she only talk to me when she needs something?
because she knows that if she doesn’t at least try to ask for whatever it is, then she might not be able to get it for herself. People are pretty selfish and Hedonistic. It doesn’t matter to some people what it takes, as long as they get what they want in the end.Also, the reason she will continue to do this is because you continue to give in. She has no motivation to stop if she continues to get positive results this way. For her positive results would be getting what she wants. Even if it leaves you less than happy this is ok for her. Because she will STILL have whatever it was
What to say to someone who only talks to you when they're bored or in need of something?
Well, most of my classmates are like this to me. They only talk to me when they need something or their friends are gone. There's one boy in particular who does this, a "friend" from last semester. I got switched into the honors program, so Brian* only really talks to me in the mornings before class when all the students congregate in the cafeteria. It really annoys me--what he does! Brian comes over to talk to me only if he needs gum (yes, I give it to him, even though I know it's bad) or if his friends aren't there. If Brian's friends are there, he ignores me. Now I want to confront Brian*. Still, I don't know how to, because I'm socially awkward. I'll either be too aggressive or too quiet. What should I say and how?