All my friends lost their virginity?
Your virginity is very precious. I know in today's world, where it's the reason for every other media scandal and you're not "cool" or "sexy" if you haven't done it, it doesn't seem that way. I gave my virginity to my boyfriend when I was 17. The night I graduated high school. He was 19 and he was a virgin as well. Now I'm 19 and he's 21. We plan on getting married soon. Needless to say, I was a "late bloomer", but I wouldn't have had it any other way. And ironically, I somehow had a reputation in high school for being, well, the opposite of a virgin. And I was considered "cool" for it, even though I was the only one who knew the truth. You need to give something that valuable to someone who is equally important to you, whether it's in a dating relationship or even if you want to wait till marriage. It doesn't matter what everyone else is doing, because if they even have done it or just want people to think they have (like I did at that age), when they meet the person they want to spend the rest of their life with, they're going to wish they had everything to give them. Don't be one of the people who regret their decisions. Patience is a virtue. In the meantime, try and focus on school and less on being popular. 10 years from now, is it going to matter?
Why do people listen to crappy music?
Why are you such a music snob that thinks your taste in music is superior? I got news for you kid, youre a dime a dozen. Tons of pricks out there exactly like you constantly whining like little children about what other people do that has no effect on you. You like them have a disorted sense of music. For one thing mainstream music has always for the most part not always been the best. You have a lot of crap and some good stuff here and there that gets remember, the bad stuff gets forgotten so every generation thinks the past stuff was better just because its all they remember. EDIT : I was just taking a break before i finish my answer lol Okay the reason why it seems worse today is because of advertising. Music of the past used to be known by word of mouth and posters then it was the radio but nowadays there is a heavy marketing strategy thats been developed and made more efficent to create maximum proffit. A lot of the mainstream artists or at least more so the pop artists dont get a lot of control over what they do with their music because they have their record labels bossing them around. Thats why it changed. Also i think people are really stressed out nowadays so they are focusing on just fun music rather than more deep meaningful and creative music.
I have autism, and I can't make friends?
I go to a school with 5 other problem students, in alternative school. they all suck. also, I try to make friends outside of school, and I try to get a girlfriend so bad, but no luck there, either. I have even tried contacting childhood friends, but no luck. I have tried talking to the girls my age at my Turkish cultural center, but no luck. I try befriending children, no luck. I try using social media, I get blocked. im 16 and a guy, and I just want to ask you, is there something wrong with me? does everyone hate me, and what is the point of living?
Why do so many people think all metalheads are grumpy mean people?
Because so much of metal seems to be Dour, Serious music...and so many bands front the image of being angry and taciturn (especially death and black metal bands.) And in all fairness... many of the Metal crowd are amongst the angry and disenchanted. When I was younger, I was one of those angry types. You wouldn't be able to tell that now...but when I was younger...oh yeah. But...it is funny...since a lot of Metal bands and band members are pretty happy go lucky people by nature, as are many of us Metal Heads. And..even if we are happy people..think about the message conveyed in our music... bands like Metallica and Megadeth and Black Sabbath were some of the first to confront the social ills our society would rather pretend don't exist. We are happy because we aren't ignorant... the lemmings are happy because they ARE ignorant. They just cant comprehend that some of us choose to walk this world with our eyes open... and that we can still function after we face reality (something most people seem to flee from) The media gave us a bad rap long ago..and then their insitence on tying things like Columbine and the Vampire killings to us, foments the stereotype. Sadly..as with any group of people..there are those amongst us that are simply not good people. Whether they are ill..or just enjoy the sufferings of others, I don't pretend to know. But somehow...because of the dark, and mystical trappings associated with the more extreme forms of our music...we get a lasting indictment, as though we are deliberately choosing to be evil... When, if a tragedy happens to someone or because of someone in the Rap/HipHop world..they were a victim of their circumstances. There is certainly a double standard, and we are looked down upon. But we should expect that... as society has always tried to stamp out those who refused to follow the false status quo. Think back on the Inquisition...the Puritans with their witch burnings... McCarthyism...all paranoid propaganda started by the Powers that be and their mainstream Media pawns..... because the last thing they want are the lemmings actually to think for themselves and start asking questions. If people did...this ridiculous house of cards of Religion. Politics and Commercial greed would collapse like a pup tent in a hurricane.
Do people with BPD express themselves through sharing music on social media? My friend who has BPD and depression does this and I am curious.
Artists delve deep into the realms of human emotion for creativity purposes, and present abstractions of the human condition for entertainment/profit/expression etc.Folks with BPD live in those deep places of human emotion, and oft-times in lieu of direct validation and empathy from other humans we can come to identify with songs, poetry, movies etc.When I used to share music on social media it was because I’d found something that spoke to me on some level, and I wanted to share it with others to see if they could empathize with whatever I was sharing.Kind of like the music were an intermediary or an interpreter between myself and the rest of everyone else, and if anyone responded to my post that meant a part of me was understandable on some level.Those were desperate times, before I learned that I was different and that it was OK to validate myself, albeit on the basis of a neurodiversity.At the time, I had no idea that this is what I was doing, I just knew that I really liked things that validated various parts of my ever-elusive sense of self.Nor did I necessarily expect anyone to actually listen, really. I know how often I could be bothered to listen to things others shared, and it was not all that often.Aaaaaand by the time I figured I was done with facebook, my profile was kind of a bit of weird abstract art that nobody but the most skilled digital-age forensic psychologist could have deciphered anyhow.Whilst sharing music on social media is not a nailed-on diagnostic trait, it could be said that given the media at our disposal some folks with BPD might engage in this type of abstract (if largely unconscious and instinctual) ‘vaguebooking’ in an attempt to gain validation from their peers.But so do teenagers, depressed people, people going though a break-up or any kind of breakdown, and also people who haven’t worked out that facebook exists to reduce the human soul unto data points that can be bought and sold to target adverts for sh*t nobody needs.Speaking of sh*t nobody needs, here’s a link to my blog about BPD and music:The semi-ironic BPD playlist.Hope this helps! :)