Why do so many people criticize those who recieve government benefits?
You don’t have money to feed the kids you have now, so you get pregnant again? See the problem here? Good luck. I hope you guys get back on your feet and things get better; just stop getting pregnant with children when you are struggling as it is. I hope the food stamps help you and your husband feed your kids. I and others just hate seeing thousands scam this system. I was behind a woman at wal-mart who had fake nails and her husband had a 400 dollar phone and they were paying with foodstamps. After seeing too many of these people on benefits, it is really hard to spot those who really need it.
Why do I always criticize people in my head? I don't want to do it anymore. What are these thoughts causes of and how do I overcome it?
I’ve found that people who tend to find themselves being critical and judgmental of others are usually very self conscious and not pleased with themselves. It’s easier to focus on other people’s perceived problems then deal with our own sometimes. Clearly you are not happy with this method or you wouldn’t be seeking advice. I think it’s time you own up to your own negative feelings about yourself and do something about it.If seeing a therapist isn’t an option, try reading. Yes I am talking about self help books. There is NOTHING shameful in reading self help books. In fact I think the whole world could benefit from some psychology and getting to know themselves.You could watch Tony Robins documentary on Netflix. It’s actually very interesting and insightful.One of the books that enabled me to change my unhappy life was Touching Peace by Thich Naht Hanh. A very easy read that is easy to grasp and apply.Try a daily meditation app on your phone.Basically, stop focusing on the negative and look for the positive instead. Sometimes it’s harder to find, especially since you aren’t used to it, but I swear it’s there. Actively practice appreciation. Happiness is chosen, not found. Choose to be happy and work hard at finding the beauty in life. After a while, this will come as naturally as complaining and judging once did.https://www.amazon.com/Touching-...
Why do people criticize?
There are two sides to this story.Side #1: As, humans we like to feel good about ourselves. Criticizing someone elses work is one way to get this “good feeling”. For a second, we can feel superior because “we would have done x better” etc. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of when we are criticizing (or even gossiping). We just love to offer our ‘opinions’.Side #2: As humans, we like to feel good about ourselves. And receiving criticism usually does NOT feel good. Because it stings so bad, we may feel like “EVERYONE is criticizing me!”, even when others are trying to offer constructive criticism.The key is knowing which side you’re falling into at the moment.It takes courage to give honest constructive criticism. And it takes humility to receive it.
Why do some people criticize everything?
You know for me there are two types of criticising people-those who genuinely criticise you- these are the people who point out your mistakes and want you to correct them. But just because they feel irritated or bad about your mistake they criticise you rather than pointing out your mistake in a calm and friendly manner. But their intention to genuinely correct you.Those who have a habit of criticising almost everyone and anyone they come across- such people love to taunt you and they also try to motivate other people around you to mock you. Whenever I come across such people I do give reasoning if they ask for it (but not in details) and if they are not convinced I generally give them a smile, thank them and leave the place instantly (to avoid their negative vibes). In case they try to mock me again and again I request them that talking in such a manner will not prove them correct. So it is better not to try to dominate me. Well I guess I am lucky enough that I have not yet faced a situation in which I ended up fighting or arguing with someone as above mentioned points generally work for me.So I would suggest you to first figure out under what category does those criticising people belong and then act accordingly. I hope it helps.
Why do people think criticism is more important than compliments?
You see, people learn from mistakes. When I out right slaughter something, I'd like to hear it. I honestly don't think I'm worthy of compliments. I'm only 17, writing since I was in the 2nd grade. So I know that I've not read enough books or watched enough movies or even been writing long enough to seek praise or have anything worth praise. I'll take the compliments and the bashing and everything in between. But you'll always be good at your strengths, need to learn about the weaknesses too because some people become big headed and need to be put in their place.
Is it okay to criticize other's essay?
Every piece of writing is like a work of art and different artists express themselves differently. A lot of people would rather not have their work criticized. It is hard to say if its okay to criticize someones essay as some people are open to criticism while others are not.In my opinion, if you want to criticize, do it in such a way that it helps the creator of the essay become or seek to become better. If you are unable to do this then it will be in the best interest of the writer of the essay and your own personal benefit to keep the lesson learned to yourself and use it for personal skill development.
What should one do if people around you start criticizing and correcting you all the time?
Ask questions back calmly to better understand the common factors of the criticism/feedback.Request examples and illustrations evidencing that feedback (if not immediately apparent) - do not assume what's leading to the criticism till you haven't heard it specifically from them. Eg. If you keep hearing you are sloppy or lazy or dishonest - these are just labels. You need to get a deeper understanding of the specific behaviors they are labeling. Eg. Your room was untidy the entire week. Not generalizations like. You are always untidy (unless of course you accept that generalization to be the truth)Once you fully understand the feedback, decide if you accept it as true; if it's even possible to act on it; whether you want to act on it or not!If you decide to act on it to make changes, in most cases you would be better off letting people who care about if you make changes - know about your intent.If you decide not to, it's advisable to evaluate if it's better to let the critics know that as well. If you do, it's best to demonstrate that you do understand their feedback and give your reasons to not accept or act on themHope this helps. Good luck!
Why do people allow other people's criticism or opinions to hurt them?
I’m sure you know, not everyone is like that. But most of us are like that. Since we were kids, we were taught to seek approval for our behavior. When someone disapproved our behavior we were taught that we did something wrong and had to change ourselves to win their approval.This thinking sticks on to some extent even when we grow up. We are looking for people’s approval to know that we are in the right. When we face criticism, we immediately get on the defense because we take it personal. Of course, as we grow older, we change our preferences and choose which criticisms to respond to and which ones to not. For example, if it’s an opinion you have on a change to be effected at your workplace and you have criticism for that it may not affect you as much as a criticism received on your personal demeanor or the way you perform your activities. (these are just examples, to help explain and may bear no resemblance to the truth.)When you grow bigger and deal with a lot more of the public, you have to come to realize that you can appease only a part of the population that you’re dealing with. The one’s who do not agree with you are a lot (even if they are less than half), and you can never appease everyone. No one has ever done that to date. Even Jesus had his enemies and critics.When you are confident and rely more on your principles and values and have something that you believe in (religion in many cases, but not necessarily religion, it can be any list of principles of good), and your activities are beneficial to most to the best of your knowledge and beliefs, then you would tend to rely less on critics. Criticism will not affect you as much. Of course it’s easier said than done.But today you can see public figures who don’t take it to heart. Our Presidents for example are criticized constantly. Almost every President I can remember was criticized heavily while in power. If they took every criticism to heart, they would all be grief stricken and traumatized.It is best to see if the criticism has a genuine value or if it’s just an emotion. If it’s a criticism that will effect better change, I would give consideration to it. If it’s just plain hatred or emotion lashing out, I would ignore it.Good luck!
Why can so few people handle criticism? How can anyone possibly improve without getting feedback?
The reason so many people can’t handle criticism, especially a scathing criticism, because it brings on their acute stress response system into immediate play.The mind conceives a criticism as a threat to your self-esteem and self-worth. It happens more sharply when you’re handed that criticism in presence of an in-group of people, that is people among whom you’re someone important. And immediately your sympathetic nervous system snaps into action.From here on, it’s the act of a chain of events that include release of the hormones adrenaline and noradrenalin, and cortisol, which causes your face to flush, your blood pressure to raise, your heart to race, your mouths to dry, your hands to shake.At the same time, this also causes your logical (‘thinking’) brain to shut down and the control is taken over by the primitive ‘reptilian’ brain. When the logic processing part of brain shuts down, we’re unable to show a reasonable amount of rational behavior thereafter. As a result, you react in ways that you may come to regret later - as shouting back at the person, swearing, becoming aggressive, or going stone-deaf.When rats are threatened in laboratory conditions, they do one of these two things:Run to escape when there’s a way, orRise to fight when there’re cornered.Humans do the same, but there is some sex-related specificity. Men tend to become aggressive (‘rise to fight’), while women tend to flee or look for help (‘run to escape’).If you want to know how can we better handle the criticism that is thrown at us (remember, we all get pointed at for things we did or didn’t do, at one time or other), you could take a look at this: 7 Ways To Handle Criticism Like An Expert.
Why criticize the younger generation?
You know, I just went to a spouse's class today for the US Military. There was a Colonel [very high ranking and older generation] there who said something about the younger generation. He said he heard people complain on a daily basis but said that it wasn't true. Some of the hardest working people he knows are the very low ranking [younger generation] enlisted personnel. Sure, people make mistakes. People made mistakes in the 1970s but there are just as many, if not more, people who are good. Sad thing is, people only want to hear and see bad news or bad behavior. I wish the people who say most kids behave poorly would go to Wal-Mart and instead of shaking their heads at the kids behaving badly, look for the kids who are well behaved. I guarantee they will see so many more kids who are well behaved. Bad kids draw in attention. That's the way it's ALWAYS going to be. Good question! EDIT--For those who would like to say teenage pregnancy is on the rise. It is not. It actually is on a GIANT downhill slope. EDIT--Oh yes, I agree that it's our job as parents to create well-rounded and well-behaved kids. In no way am I using that as a cop-out for people who have bad kids. I know I sure as heck will admit AND seek help if my kids are acting up. But, unfortunatly, there are parents who just don't care. For some reason their kids are the ones who get all the attention and our kids get stereotyped with theirs. Geesh, when's it going to end. LOL!