How can I develop a leadership personality?
I am not a leader as yet, but here are few traits I have observed in great leaders. And, first let me tell you that almost everyone can become leaders, you don’t need high IQ, good grades, and degrees from expensive colleges.LEADERS ARE MADE, NOT BORN.The characteristics of leaders are to be learned, leadership isn’t hereditary, and its desire, maybe, instilled by your role model, but the attributes of leaders can’t be acquired in a single night it’s a learning process.Some leaders emerge later in life so don’t rush and try too hard just let it be if it is meant to be, it will happen. Some people find their passion when they’re young, but for others it takes much more time, even take half or more lifetime(maybe mid-life crisis is not a crisis at all.)If you’re willing to interact with people on an emotional level, listen their stories and show that you do really care about their problems, and can express empathy, That’s it, You are on the path of leading.Here are some attributes that I have observed of true leaders:Planning- They plan well if you look at Abraham Lincoln or Mahatma Gandhi, great leaders are outstanding at strategy. They have the ability to look ahead, to anticipate with some accuracy where the situation is going.Flawless communication- They engage in dialogues rather than arguments, and besides persuasive speaking they know the difference between Listening and Hearing and they listen well, I mean really well,Calm- They must remain calm in the face of adversity.Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.If you're going through hell, keep going -Winston Churchill.4. Inspiring others- They lead people where they want to go,“Don't ever let someone tell you, you can't do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they want to tell you you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period.”― Pursuit of Happyness.5. Controlling Emotion- They never let their emotion control them, and they know who’s the boss, Anger is good as long as you can control it because sometime you have to be aggressive but if you can’t control it believe me decisions led by anger make you nothing but regret.6. Last but not least place others’ need above your own because the best leaders are humble leaders.You don’t become a leader in order to be acknowledged by people, the one who is acknowledged by people is the one who becomes leader.
I deeply hate myself and others. I won't ask how to change as I don't think it to be a problem. Is deeply hating wrong/bad and if it is, why?
You may be deluded and not understand what hate really is. Maybe youre just suffering from depression, and/or you have naturally low dopamine & serotonin levels which would cause you to feel bad about everything all the time. There are many things you can do to not feel the way you feel. I dont recommend you go down the route of taking drugs like antidepressants as they are basically bad for you. Instead see if you can join clubs, where you will be around people and do things which you eventually may find to be fun. Change your diet - so that you eat more fruits and vegetables, do exercise as this will give you endorphin boosts and will make you temporarily feel better. Genuinely, a lot of things to do with hating yourself and others for no good reason are down to bad brain activity. There are illegal drugs (they are also bad for you (but)) that can acutely make you feel totally in love with yourself and others, and after their effects wear off and you go back to normal - research how they work, and realize that your mood largely depends on the health of your brain and the different ratios of your neurotransmitters, like dopamine and serotonin, so you can work on more natural ways to get them in balance (instead of taking drugs) such as good diet, exercise, being social and doing things that stimulate your brain and get you thinking. Depression, feelings of self hate and hate towards others are indications of low brain activity (so youre basically not using your brain as much as you should, and neurons start to die off when theyre not being used). Also take Omega 3 capsules a couple of times a week and try these vitamins called Neurozan, by Vitabiotics. They contain a lot of the nutrients your brain needs, in the event you are not eating properly (which I would expect from someone who hates themself) and that you are vitamin & micronutrient deficient.