Am I the only one who lies about their home life for attention? Who pretends to hate everything for attention?
Many people do that everyday. It is one way people try to feel good. Some do it without being aware they are doing it. At least you admit.
Why do people lie for attention?
I don't get it. Yes, obviously something has happened in my life, which gave me the incentive to ask this, but I'm curious. Are some people deprived of attention as children? What is it that would make someone lie to such extremes, that they tell all their friends that they've had sex, and they had to go to planned parenthood? Do they want sympathy? I know, it's effed up, right? Or how about that another person was sent to boot camp because he was so bad when he was in 6th grade, but he really went to a public school like 2 miles away? Or how about when a girl tells her best friend she'd never take away the person she'd love from her. And 3 hours before that, the girl hooked up with her best friend's crush? Do these people feel that they're not interesting enough, so they have to make up lies to make themselves more interesting and their "stories" more compelling. These are all different stories, by the way. But this is just one of these MANY MANY lies that these people have told.
Why do we lie if we are lonely and want attention?
The truth is disgusting. It’s boring, painful, and incriminating - all at the same time.Why would we ever relay these seditious experiences - especially with such an attractive alternative in which we’re capable of crafting our own lives, taking it by the reins, and making it so much more interesting?We’ve all fell victim to thwarting the truth (to a sometimes unrecognizable extent).Why? Because it adds the flair that we desire. It’s the icing on top of the cake (okay, the flavor of the cake too), and any storyteller will side with the distorted version of the truth to be more exciting than the version which occured in reality. If you’re looking for a thrill, wouldn’t you stop at the fiction section before the biographical one?We lie because it’s a way to escape into an alternate universe and have nobody else know.The flavorful cake you created through your lie fulfills your craving for attention.
When I was younger I used to lie for attention..?
I try really hard not to anymore. I've grown up a lot and moved away from where I went to high school, but sometimes I really feel guilty about the lies I told. I told one really big lie that thankfully didn't get out, because it could have ruined someone's life..and believe me karma did come back to haunt me! I'm really just trying to become a better person and I've truly come a long way. The hardest part though is not exaggerating how my life was. I guess I wanted attention or for people to think I cool.. but, anyway, I guess my question is how do I get over the things I've done in my past? I don't really talk to anyone I lied to in the past.. and I've never told big lies to my family, I've come clean about all the little things.. I just want to move on with my life. It's been about three years since I've told a huge lie, but I don't know how to move on. Help please? (sorry if I was rambling, kind of venting.)
What might be the problem with a person who constantly lies and grossly exaggerates everything in life?
A person that constantly lies and grossly exaggerates everything in life generally have multiple motivations and it all depends on the circumstances. Lying and exaggerating has distinct motivations and purpose. Generally someone may be insecure or they are trying to get ahead in life so they lie to benefit themselves in their own purpose (based on your question, I have very limited knowledge of the person doing the act of lying). People exaggerate at times including myself to get people to understand the magnitude of how they are feeling. For example, person A won't make a big deal of a frivolous arguments but person B will make a big deal of all arguments to get what they want. I will use my own experience as a more specific example. A few months back, I was trying to purchase a Costco membership and the person behind the counter (manager) was trying very hard to sell me executive membership when I only wanted the basic gold star membership. It hurt her feelings when I declined because she was making comments that were not professional. I let it slide and did not want to make a big scene.But I could of easily exaggerated the magnitude of how I felt to the person above her if I wanted to check her attitude and make a big deal about it. But it would cost me time and energy and it served me no purpose to make her look bad to her boss (I was being nice). Personally, I have spoken to two CEOs of big companies before in regards to complaints and I could of done that but it didn't serve a purpose so I let it go. But if she caught me during a bad day when I have low tolerance, I could of done just that. In reality, there are no simple answers to your question, I have to look at multiple factors about the person's life (social status, family dynamics, education, self-esteem, etc) for me to give you a more accurate answer. Based on the given facts provided by your question, I can only provide you with a general answer.
My 'friend' lies all the time just to get attention?
Me and my group of friends are all 15. I have 4 close friends. Two of them are the closest. (emily and becca) One of my friends emily is an attention seeking liar. She lies and says she has a new boyfriend every week, which she doesn't cause she is always with her girl friends so she never sees or goes out with any boys. And apparently she has had sex with 16 guys, which i know is a lie. And then she said that she was pregnant. Then 4 weeks later she had a 'miscarriage'. 3 weeks later she said she had a new boyfriend, then a week after that she said she was pregnant again. soon after, she had a 'miscarriage'. She has told us 7 times already that she has been pregnant, and 7 times she's had a miscarriage. A week later she came into school and said she had cancer. One of my friends walked out of school in the middle of class crying about it. Then 10 minutes later, emily apparently had a phone call from the doctor saying she didn't have cancer, and that the test results were wrong. She told me that she spent two years of her life (when she was 9) in hospital battling anorexia, yet she told another friend that when she was 8 she spent 3 years in a room as she had 'anger issues'. The amount of lies she has told is endless. Her closest friend believes every single lie. But me and another friend don't believe anything. We don't want to say anything to hurt their feelings but we're sick of going into school every day to sit and listen to more and more lies. Every conversation has GOT to be about her, cause if it isn't she runs off, Knowing that someone will go after her to make sure she's okay. And she constantly talks about how she hates the way she looks, but she absolutetely loves herself, and everyone knows it. I need advice about this.
What should I say to my friend when she lies for attention? She says she has depression and she is the happiest person I know, she says she has anxiety and she is super calm all the time. There is so much more.
If she’s telling the truth, you don’t want to be that person who spreads rumors, or treats her like a manipulator. You’ll only make her more unhappy, give her more to sift through.She may be depressed and anxious and have very good coping mechanisms. She could be on her way out of thise problems, but find that they still linger even though she gets on and lives her life. Including friends and social interactions like talking and laughing, work and hobbies. Someone can have a healthy life and still harbor lingering traumas. Which is called PTSD.Honestly, lying by saying ‘I’m depressed’ is a poor way to get attention or manipulate anyone. I know from experience when I had severe anxiety, I would mention it to people sometimes and it hardly changed the way they saw me. She has nothing to gain by saying this. The ‘I’m sorrys’ last less than a minute. No one gives you a pass on anything. What could she have to gain by making herself seem like an unhappy person? If she’s just saying it calmly and matter of factly, she’s probably just informing you so you know. That’s what I used to do, from time to time. I was very calm when I had severe anxiety.
How can I deal with people who crave attention?
All you can do is model self-respect by telling the truth yourself, even if it causes you to say things which might be embarrassing. For someone who is so insecure he has to constantly inflate his own accomplishments, the most reassuring thing is to see someone else embrace his shortcomings. If you are willing to say, "wow, I really suck at this game!" he sees it is not necessary to be best at everything to have social success and then he may become more honest about himself.There are several reasons why people could constantly need attention. Some liars are pathological. They suffer from Narcissistic Personality disorder or some other condition which drives their behavior. These people can be dangerous friends. They don't have normal boundaries nor do they necessarily abide by normal standards of social behavior when crossed. Be cautious about people who lie too much--sometimes it is a symptom of a serious mental problem that could hurt you one day. Other liars are just insecure and immature. They want attention, and they don't know how to ask for it in more acceptable ways. They are afraid that if people saw them the way they see themselves, they wouldn't have any friends. In either case, neither type has much control over their behavior nor can they accept a logical argument for changing their ways. Try to feel empathy for how pathetic that person is on the inside. At the same time, you do not have to pretend to believe them, or silently humor them or indulge their behavior in any other way. Accept their behavior as a mild annoyance. If you need to say something about a lie, say it with a smile. For example, if you hear your lying pal bragging about how he won some game that in fact he lost to you, laugh out loud and say, "in your dreams buddy!" Lastly, find yourself some friends who are more mature and can relate to you without lying all the time.
Whats that disorder called where you make up things for attention?
Munchausen Syndrome is the same as Munchausen by Proxy except instead of making people believe that theyre child is sick, they make people believe that they themselves are sick. Hypochondria is where they are overly afraid of diseases and fear that they have every type of illness possible.. None of these are what im thinking of lol. Maybe what i'm thinking of isn't really a disorder but just part of the person's personality