Why are people so sure O.J Simpson murdered Nicole Brown and Ronald Goldman even after he was acquitted/never convicted for such crime?
There is a difference between legal guilt and factual guilt. Legal guilt requires presentation of evidence beyond a reasonable doubt. The prosecution failed to cement the case and the jury acquitted based on that.Factually speaking, Simpson had the means, ability, and quite possibly the motive to kill Nicole Brown.Shoe prints discovered matched the rare shoes that Simpson wore. There were only roughly 300 pair or so of the style and size sold in the U.S. Simpson had a lengthy record of spousal abuse against Brown. The bloody glove, also rare, was worn by Simpson, but as we know, did not fit when tried in court. There were drops of blood found in Simpson’s residence, unfortunately too small for DNA testing. Simpson himself demonstrated after the trial that if he were to kill Brown, he would (using a banana) stab her in a certain way. Simpson also had self-defense wounds on his left hand when arrested by police. A fake beard and mustache were found in Al Cowlings white Ford Explorer after the infamous LA highway chase.While individually, some of these findings could be taken as circumstantial evidence, in aggregate, they are pretty damning. The shoe print alone is highly suggestive of Simpson’s guilt. Remember, only 300 pair sold of the size and style.We may never know for certain if OJ Simpson was guilty, but the evidence speaks for itself. Further, no one else has been suspected, let alone arrested for the crime, nearly 20 years after the murder.
If you are/were with a narcissistic partner, what's the most outrageous story of gaslighting or other NPD behavior you have?
To jump-start this one, I’ll share a story from my own decade-plus marriage to a severe malignant narcissist.In classic NPD form, she blamed me for everything in her life that wasn’t working out. We had a nice, modest house in a good neighborhood in the suburbs of NYC. She had grown up very wealthy, however, and she constantly lamented how pitiful our home was. She carped about every little imperfection in our home, and even walked around humming the theme to the old TV sitcom “Sanford and Son,” implying that we lived in a junkyard.Our kitchen sink had a little strip of Formica in front of it, and water would sometimes pool there. She would complain about how there was some kind of leak and why couldn’t I provide her with a better home that didn’t have a leaking sink?I was confounded by this “problem,” despite the fact that I’d watch her and our babysitter splashing water carelessly. If I were not so completely brainwashed, I would have obviously seen this as the source of the “leak.” I even asked a good friend who’s a bit of a handyman where the leak could be coming from, and he looked at me like I was nuts. I guess I was.I find humor in this stuff now, and it helps me in my recovery from many years of narcissistic abuse. I’m out of that relationship four-plus years now, and still in my home, which I now love again - I no longer feel the overwhelming guilt of forcing my beloved wife to live in such a hovel! AND, the sink hasn’t “leaked” onto the counter since she left :)I’m also now able to laugh at this stuff, and when I think of how twisted around I was. In no way do I mean to make light of gaslighting or abuse except that I hope sharing our stories will be as therapeutic for you as it is for me.
Do people who are serial cheaters feel any remorse?
That varies on the situation.Most serial cheaters don't feel remorse until they get caught. Even then they are not truly sorry. Cheaters will always figure out a new strategy to sneak around. Although this sounds easier said than done, cheaters don't change and are selfish, manipulative, narcissistic, who are numb to others feelings. They do not have the rationale to understand how much pain and emotional turmoil they have caused.After being with a married man for 15 years he groomed me into thinking cheating was okay. His thought process was beyond warped. He was a serial cheater. He cheated 6 months into his marriage. He had several girlfriends before me, and I'm sure he's still going at it. Even when his wife found out we didn't speak for 3 months, they tried therapy, I changed my phone number, but he reached out to me. We continued on another 3 years.He was open about his home life and admitted he loved his wife. Yet our relationship was common knowledge. He was completely living a double life with no regrets.Only until the shit really hit the fan, and he had a lot of money on the line, we stopped communicating. Although at times he treated me as a 'kept woman'. He had the funds to control everyone and everything.If I knew then what I know now I would take it all back. Strangely enough I did not feel sorry for his wife because she knew and chose to stay.