How accurate is the website Pink Mirror in determining someone's physical attractiveness (I'm pretty self-conscious about my appearance but scored 8.4 out of 10)?
I looked Pink Mirror up, and I can say without question that site is not a healthy solution for men or women who may have little or issues with their perceived physical appearance.First, you SHOULD NOT based your physical self-worth based on a website, any site.Second, you should not base your physical self-worth on a rating system at all. Specially one online. As a photographer I can tell you that you are literally seeding insecurities within yourself. Since you know, those photos are not the real you. Just touched up versions of photos of you and as again, as photographer, they are not very well done either. They are touching them up but I noticed they made that Asian lady’s eyes bigger. You know the one, on the frontpage, which I uploaded here.Your self worth comes from within you. Yes, cliche as heck. But it is cliche because it is true. Work on your physique and also on your mental acceptance of yourself and if you NEED to ask people about your looks, then ask people whose opinion you actually trust and not strangers online.For your own sanity. Do this.Having other people rate you like a piece of meat can be a fun, stupid and silly time waster, but obviously this is not what *you* are getting out of it. You are trying to build your physical attractiveness and self worth through fake photos. Yeah, that is never going to lead you to a mentally healthy place… at all, specially in the long run. Since all you will need is some trolls to utterly make you question yourself.Please don’t use sites like those for the reasons you are thinking.
Am I ugly because I am fat?
Only if you allow societal norms and idealization to dictate how you view beauty.In Western cultures, fat is generally viewed as “ugly,” but that’s not universal. In some cultures thin is considered less desired in women (Mauritania, for example, actually has camps to fatten women to make them more desirable).A lot of what dictates this is wealth. In Western societies being fat was - at one point - viewed as a sign of wealth, and therefore also seen as a sign of health. Now it’s the opposite. So in Africa, where famine and starvation are major problems, being fat is considered a sign of wealth and is desirable to many African cultures, particularly in Mauritania where some girls are force fed (not always willingly) in order to find them spouses.In other words, beauty is entirely arbitrary. What is beautiful in one culture isn’t in another. If you want to limit how you view beauty through a societal lens, then fat probably equals ugly (unless you live someplace like Mauritania, obviously).If you want to be open to seeing beauty in the word that extends beyond the boundaries of what society has determined is beautiful for you, then no. It doesn’t equal ugly.As an aside, I want to add that I vehemently disagree with the practice of leblouh, just as much as I disagree with girls in the US being sent to our version of fat camps, where the idea is to make them thin. The difference, however, is obvious. While emotionally insidious, the “fat camps” of the US aren’t likely to cause immediate physical danger, and the leblouh camps of Mauritania certainly do.I also want to say that I do not agree with everything written in the article I linked to, as I know fat women who bike, hike, run marathons and are extremely active, eat in a way that most would consider “healthy” and don’t suffer from health issues. That’s obviously not the norm or desired of a fat woman in Mauritania, but it is possible and does happen.On a final note, it’s interesting to hear from a woman who can’t get fat enough to be considered attractive. This is a common issue, where weight gain is difficult for some people who are more inclined to naturally be thin. It’s partly why actors/actresses can gain weight for movie roles and easily lose it after or why some women easily lose the “baby weight” after pregnancy, while others struggle and can’t. Bodies are unique and genetics plays a huge factor in weight and body composition.