Ramadan: Should I marry a Muslim woman?
Im a Muslim guy from Saudi Arabia who doesnt find local women very attractive. i want a Western blonde girl. Please dont judge me. The problem is that most blondes are not Muslims... so should I go for it?
Love marriage VS Arranged marriage?
Khitbah is what Islam recommends - it allows two people to get to know each other, and even fall in love with one another's character, BUT in the presence of a Mahram/chaperon [and therefore, no haram things can take place]. The two people can then marry after knowing each other properly, this way. :) This is what an 'Islamic arranged marriage' is BTW ! Islamic arranged marriage is NOT like cultural arranged marriages [where the girl and boy don't know each other at all and just marry!]. Islam allows the two to get to know each other through chaperoned/supervised meeting prior to marriage! :) Salam alaykum!~
Love and marriage and behavior?
and all that pondering has done what? nothing. love can change a lot of people's behavior, but it won't always change that person inside. a person who wants the love of a person will be nice and do things for that person. it doesn't mean that person has changed inside. marrying someone to change their behavior? nonsense. a failed relationship can do many things. but blaming criminal or antisocial behavior on a failed marriage is pathetic and juvenile. being an adult means good or bad, one has to live the life one has made for oneself.
The concept of romantic love as a reason for marriage became widespread in Western society in the?
The concept of romantic love as reason for marriage appeared in correlation to industrialism (1800s). Before industrialism, marriage was a commercial act, planned by parents for their children in order to benefit the whole family. An example was that a daughter of a wheat farmer would mary the son of a goat hoarder then both family would share their product. Other example are political marriage or marriage inside caste (a judge son with a doctor daughter). During industrialism, marriage for commercial interest disappeared because every essential products would become more easily available in the markets, also, family of industrial labour had many children and did not possess any land. Also, at the same time prostitution was flourishing and that encouraged exchange of love affair between caste. That is my summary. It is called romantic because the love is passionate like the stories from the Romans, full of excessive passion, treachery, etc.
Is it acceptable to convert to Islam for the sake of marriage?
There are many facets to this question, and no single answer would do.First, it is not uncommon for a man to take the shahadah, shortly before or even at the marriage ceremony. For Muslims living in the west, this has become commonplace. When a person is repeating the words after you, it is not possible to look inside his heart and see what the words mean to him- on that issue things were no different 1400 years ago. In any case, ultimately it would be up to the couple, as it is in other religions.A general statement concerning the Shahadah:One converts to Islam by taking the "shahadah". Shahadah goes like this, "I bear witness that there is no god by Allah, Subhana wa Ta'alah; and I bear witness that (Prophet) Mohammad was Allah's servant and His Messenger to mankind".Now, what do those words say! What does it mean when someone says, "I bear witness..." In a court of law, a declaration that begins with those words means something? Testimony concerning one's belief in Allah and His Messenger, should be with an expression/indication of sincerity. Marriage ceremony is a solemn occasion - every promise made, whether spoken or unspoken, must come from one's heart and soul. Every word spoken must mean something. Belief is paramount, practice often takes time as long as the person keeps making an effort.I do realize that there are all kinds of Muslims in the world; including those who have never stood in prayer in years, even decades. I also believe that a Muslim is one who declares him/herself to be a Muslim. Nobody can look inside a person's heart and measure the strength of belief therein. When a person raises one's hand and takes the shahadah, that person becomes a Muslim, must be treated as a Muslim, and it is not up to anyone to doubt his/her sincerity. Islam is between a person and his God.What might be problematic is when someone declares or even indicates beforehand that he/she will utter the words - but he/she does not fully subscribe to the teaching. When it comes to following those teachings - a lot of Muslims appear to be struggling with that.
Why is sex not allowed during Ramadan?
My significant other is Muslim, while I am not (and I have never before dated a Muslim), and recently explained to me that during Ramadan, Muslims are not supposed to become aroused/engage in any sexual activity, and I would just like to know what reasons there are for this. Thanks!
If man and wife have sex during ramadan , and they do not shower till morning but clean after. is this ok?
i am married to a muslim man and this is my first fasting. and my husband said that during this month there will be no sexual contact and this month is gods month as i was find with this till the other night then we had sex and then in the morning he said he had broke it so we could not continue with ramadan because we did not shower right after . can any one please answer if this is right or not . i would like to know as soon as anyone read this
Would you change your religion to marry someone? I am a Hindu, and I have fallen in love with a Muslim woman, but she cannot accept my faith. What is your advice?
No. Faith has to come from the heart. You cannot accept a religion unless you believe it to be your truth. Hinduism is your truth, Islam is hers.For any relationship to work, it needs you both to put in 50/50. My personal belief is that to truly love someone, we must accept them as they are. I would want my future husband to be authentic.It’s difficult when families are involved. They want to preserve their religious/cultural identity, their concern would be on how you raised any future children. Her parents would also feel pressure within their community, and amongst their relatives. No parent wants to see their children unhappy, depending upon how religious they are, they may accept you if you don't convert, or they would not allow their daughter to marry you. She may even choose you over her family, but don't judge her if she doesn’t, it’s extremely difficult to be in her position, and her love for you shouldn't be doubted. As you're aware, family is core in South Asian cultures, and children are expected to obey their parents.If you love each other should it matter which religions you practice? Gandhi (my hero) believed that Hindus & Muslims were equals and could coexist:“The various religions are like different roads converging on the same point. What difference does it make if we follow different routes, provided we arrive at the same destination?”I totally understand his logic, many won’t, that's life! I’m spiritual but not religious. If my future husband was religious and expected me to convert, no matter how much I loved him, I wouldn’t, because I don’t want to be fake, and believe in something that I don’t. Similarly, I would never tell a future husband that was religious, he would have to give up his faith for me. I would always want him to be happy.This is how you have an interfaith relationship. Respect each other, without trying to change each other.In the end, it's up to you, follow your heart is the best advice I can give. You can certainly try to change her parents minds, or tell your girlfriend, you respect her religion and will marry her eventhough she's a Muslim, but she must respect that you’re a Hindu (that’s part of your identity).You have to take that gamble, will she choose you, or forsake her own happiness for that of her family? If she doesn't come back, then with a heavy heart, you must tearfully accept you would have never won the battle anyway…
Question. My Potential Husband Tells Me That I Must Kiss His Feet?
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah First of all, as a new Muslimah the LAST thing you should be thinking about is getting married. You have not had enough time as a Muslimah to know your rights and responsibilities, as is obvious from this question. RUN, RUN from any pigheaded, chauvanistic man who makes such a ridiculous demand. No where in the Qur'an or Sunnah (authentic traditions) of Islam do we find evidence that Prophet Muhammad, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him, requested or required that any woman kiss his feet. This is only a sign of his will to dominate you and humiliate you. You are a strong Muslim woman. You are 100% as good as any Muslim man, and subjugating yourself to some ignorant fool who does not know his religion would be a huge mistake. My sincere advice to you is to put marriage on the back burner. Work, enjoy yourself, attend classes on Islam, get to know your sisters. Don't rush to marry until you are more knowledgeable and confident. Allah will help you to find an appropriate husband if you do your duty to learn your Islam. And if you do find a brother soon who seems too good to pass up, let me know and my husband can talk to him, inshAllah, to see if he is as he seems. Marriage can complete your Deen (religion) if you find the right person, but it can be hell if you are stuck with the wrong person. Just because a man says "la ilaha il Allah", wears a beard, and prays five times a day, that does not mean he will make you a good husband. It is ESPECIALLY important that you, as a convert, find a man who is religious AND compassionate, who understands that Muslimah converts have a greater streak of independence and are used to taking care of themselves and not asking others for permission. A man who will allow you to be yourself and not expect you to change your personality and become a little submissive doormat he can walk on. This will take time, a lot of prayer, and it will require you to confidently believe you are WORTH waiting for. May Allah increase you in knowledge and help you to complete your Deen. Ameen. Fi Aman Allah, Nancy Umm Abdel Hamid