Still never had a boyfriend, at age 20, and graduating from college in seven months!?
It always helped me to think of it this way: if I really like someone, then let them know someone, even if it's just that they are cute or have a good personality. I'd write it in a note, letter, or something creative. That way I didn't have the face-to-face interaction. I tried to realize that it wasn't necessarily for my own personal gratitude, but that I wanted that particular person to actually feel good. I think too many people are selfish and worry about whether or not they will be rejected and how they will feel... verses making the person they actually like feel good. Also, just make friends, any friends, anyone, even if you don't have other intentions. Get to know guys as friends, learn from them, but don't single them out as male, just as human. You'll learn about other guys in the meantime, and maybe even meet the right person. Don't search for the right person, because things come when you lease expect it. Just have fun and continue doing what makes you happy in the meantime. Do whatever it takes to gain confidence in yourself in all areas, because that's what turns the heads of most people. It's human nature.
I'm kinda sad because I barely have any friends?
Hang in there. I've been in your shoes...and still am. Embrace who you are a keep your head up. Years from now, it won't matter if you had friends or not because you'll have a family of your own that you can take care of and love on. When you feel alone, know that you aren't the only one. And in that sense, you aren't alone. Try to become involved in a school activity or something. Good luck honey. Keep your head up and your spirits strong...
Is it okay not to have friends?
It is absolutely OK and I’ll explain why. Definitely, I’m not a psychologist, but I can speak for my own experience as an introvert and not having any friend. Till I turned 40, I felt ashamed of not having friends, because I felt it was kind of a moral and social obligation for anyone to be considered “normal”. But then I got rid of that complex and I got convinced that I enjoyed life a lot on my own. You see, I’ve always had a very rich inner world: I love reading, going to the theater, to the movies, and above all, music is the most important part in my life, so I enjoy tremendously going to concerts two or three times a week. All these activities, I do them by myself, I don’t need anyone to share them. More than that: I don’t need to talk to anybody about what I’ve just seen.I also play the piano and write novels, and these two activities make me feel so fulfilled that I don’t have time to hang out with friends. Also I go to the gym every day because I love to live healthy. All this might sound odd or sad to a lot of people, but believe me if I tell you that I am so happy with my current life that sometimes I can hardly believe it.Just one more thing. What allowed me to get rid of that feeling of being ashamed for not having friends was a book by a spanish psychologist, Rafael Santandreu, whose motto was: People just need two things in order to be happy: food to eat and somewhere to sleep. Any other need is an artificial need. So I realized I didn’t need friends to be happy and therefore, I hadn’t to feel ashamed of that.
Should I just give up on having friends?
Whenever I make friends, they always backstab me, use me for something, lie to me, ignore me, etc. And they all end up abandoning me. Friends aren't a necessity anyway, and I hardly trust people anymore.
I rarely socialize with friends anymore?
Since i graduated high school i rarely go out and socialize with people. I live with my family and of course talk to them daily. I only go out with friends maybe 5 times a month at most. In school i was interested in other people because i was young but as i grew up i tend to like to do things by myself and rarely ever call friends only to see them once in a while. Can others relate?
I have just started college. My classmates tease me with a guy's name. He is also in my class. We are really good friends, nothing else. Should I get sad that he talks to other girls but not to me?
Just four things-He's just a friend, so don't get bothered about what people say.You have started college new. Rumors like this usually happen and they fade away soon. So focus on your studies. Ignore people, they will get bored and eventually stop talking.Why should you get sad if he talks to other girls? He's a friend right. Even if he was more than a friend he has the right to talk to other people.Now as you say he's a very good friend and still he doesn't talk to you, then probably he's not a friend. If you have to force somebody to stay with / talk to you, it's a completely flawed thing be friendship or relationship.
I'm 19 and don't have any friends or go out, would you think i'm weird?
I'm in college, i'm a girl. I'm 5' 2 and weigh 115 lbs. I have long black hair, average features, i know how to make myself look good. I'm not a virgin and I do have guys that like me here and there.. I just don't have any friends.. My mom has always been really strict so I never even tried to hang out with people cause i knew that my mom would be on my a$$ asking me who they were (she likes to MEET everyone i'm going to be hanging out with), she's just really strict. But now that i'm getting older and have a car, she's letting me do my own thing but i don't have any friends... I just can't seem to find any.. I don't want a boyfriend because that makes my mom get more strict since she's religious but I just want friend to hang out with, even just to talk and also to gout and have fun like a regular young person.. it's sad and frustrating and lonely and even depressing.. its halloween and i'm home doing NOTHING.. i'm not ugly, i could be out with a cute costume having fun but i have NO ONE to go with :( it makes me sad... what do i do? any advice? (please don't say "just make friends!" its not as easy as it sound...)