Sad To See Parents Aging

Why do I feel sad watching my parents age?

I am glad to see that I am not the only one who feels sad about this. For me, I think it is because when they get older it reminds me that they won’t live forever and that makes me very sad. The other reason is because as people age, they experience limitations in their physical abilities. My parents have always been so active and done whatever they want. It makes me sad to see that there are things they cannot do anymore. It is sort of like my parents were always “invincible” and this reminds me that they aren’t.

What should I do to overcome sadness of ageing parents?

Spend quality time with them and also help they in any way you can. Don’t procrastinate why thing you might regret later as you should have done while they were alive. Also aging is a fact of life.Aging is in unsatisfactory for everyone. This relates to the 1st Noble Truth in the 4 Noble Truths. The way out of misery is the Noble 8 Fold Path. 1st try do see get over your sadness through this technique and also help you parents become established in the paths which would be a great service to them. Following is more information on how to find a course:Vipassana MeditationInternational Meditation Centres | HomeWorld Buddhist Directory

I feel sad and scared because my parents are getting old. What can I do to help myself?

I have been starting to get this feeling myself! The crazy part is that my parents aren’t anywhere near where I should be starting to fear this.However, because it was bothering me quite a bit, I wanted to get ahead of my own fears. I talked about it with my parents. Was it a strange conversation? Yes. It was a bit awkward at times, but I think that both my parents and myself came out if it with a little more confidence about how we would handle the end of their lives.We all know that our parents dying is inevitable. We know that it will be terrible, and we know that we will miss them quite a bit. It’s normal to feel sad when you start to sense your parents’ mortality.One thing that put my mind at ease was talking to my parents about what they wanted. I know that my parents don’t want to be put into a home under any circumstances. Luckily, they’ve provided for themselves well enough that I know I won’t have to go back on that promise. The reason I know that is because we had a frank discussion about what their retirement income would be and how they would handle unexpected expenses.I know the current state of my parents’ health. I know what concerns their doctors have for the future, and I know how my parents want me to help them handle it.I know what my parents expect of me in case of medical emergencies as they age. I will know how to handle questions from doctors and how to handle their wishes best.I know what my parents want to happen after they die as well, and I am prepared to take all of the steps they’ve asked me to take.Talking with your parents about the end of their lives will be a strange and slightly sad conversation. Its also an opportunity to make sure you know what their final wishes will be, and how you can best honor them before and after they pass.Make a plan with your parents. Make sure that it is realistic, and make sure you know what they hope to achieve with their retirement and twilight years. Then the best you can do is help them, support them and love them.Once you’ve made a plan, acknowledged that the loss will be devastating and that you’ll know how to handle all of it, you should relax about it a bit. It will still be sad, and you will still worry about them. However, having complete knowledge of the situation and a plan in place that they have already approved of will take a lot of the stress out of it.

How do I accept my parents’ old age?

My mom passed a few years ago, after battling for fifteen years with the aftermath of a stroke and eventual COPD.Here’s what helped me.We don’t get to decide how long anyone stays on planet earth. My mom was ill, and I knew ahead of time she was going to die. And there was nothing I could do that would meaningfully stop or even slow that from happening.So I concentrated on what I could change.I tried to make sure she received good medical care. I visited her as often as I could, and called her nearly every other day even after she entered a nursing home. I brought her strawberry pancakes and flowers. I told her stories about what was going on with my life, and her grandchildren and great grandchildren.I was well prepared.And yet, I was also in denial. I had scheduled another flight to see here on July 20th. I got a call on July 8th that she had passed. I was just leaving one of my favorite burger joints, after enjoying a nice burger and beer after a trying day at work.I’m not a superstitious guy, but I can’t bring myself to park in that parking spot again.A certain amount of pain is inevitable. There will be a last time you talk to someone. But living every day with that in the front of your head doesn’t help anyone. Your parents don’t want you to suffer. So try not to. Do the best you can. Live your life, and share it as much as you can with them.They won’t last forever. Nobody does. That’s not your fault, and there isn’t anything you can do about it.I’m now at an age where my wife might not be with me 20 years from now, and that’s hard to deal with too. Or maybe it’s me that will go first, and she’ll be by herself.You do your best. And don’t let future misery be the source of misery today.Give your dad a hug if you can, and a call if you can’t, and hang in.