Low self-esteem and low confidence?
I have such a low opinion of myself.. I've pretty much got nothing left for me.. i'm 26 years old, currently single.. I've never actually had a girlfriend. I have a really hard time talking to people.. I've asked women out before.. but I usually get a "i'm busy" response from them.. seems to be the only response I get.. and since I do, my self-confidence and self-esteem have hit rock bottom.. I just have the will to try anymore.. but on the other hand.. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life.. I want the whole thing.. marriage, kids, love.. but doesn't seem that is in the cards for me.. I need a way to rebuild myself.. I wish I had a delete button, and could erase everything. and be happy again.. but its never that simple.. I need help.. i don't know what to do anymore.. gotten to the point, of "whats the point"...
I have absolutely no confidence or self esteem?
I know exactly how you feel. I try my best to have empathy to others problems and that's why I manage to maintain a social life while in a position like yours. Never think you were an unwanted accident, I was an accident yet my mother (divorced) still loves me even though I'm an avid slacker in school. I also have yellow teeth and acne which is a horrible penance in life as both are near impossible to rid yourself of. I've got braces right now though so treatment isn't very easy for the teeth. Acne is an easy solution which can be combined with getting active. I was the laziest piece of crap on the face of my couch for the past couple years but decided that I'm sick of it and started running recently. Ever since starting, I've been much happier, my acne is almost gone completely, and my diet has improved drastically as my body no longer craves unhealthy foods (I'm naturally skinny though so I can't lose weight). I'm truly glad you aren't suicidal as this would be terrible, I'm sick of fellow american teens thinking this will help when they're the luckiest pieces of **** on the face of the earth. Also, don't worry what others think about you, I walk around listening to my metal that others judge me for and I'm glad that they think that because they're jerks and I know who my real friends are, don't think that not kissing a girl is a penance, don't think you have to be athletic, and when it comes to teasing, just tell the guys to lay off a bit and that the fat jokes are insulting. Most of them will lay off and respect your wishes just you probably play along so they think its fine. I hope that you continue onto a path to happiness and always remember to find a great inspiration for life, I enjoy music but you may like games, sports, art, sewing, architecture, anything that makes you happy even if you think its weird and so do others, just don't tell them. Lastly, never go on a diet restricting all of your food or an anti-depressant as these never work. Just eat a few less carbs and more fruits and veggies, these go a long way like more water.
Self-Esteem: My looks are spoiling my self confidence. What should I do?
Alright, here's how I tried to live my life. Slightly different than what you're aiming for.Now, I've felt rejected plenty of times based on what I presumed were my looks. It stung, sure, as I wanted to be like those handsome guys on tv and around me in class for whom all girls had eyes.Then I changed. I started looking at this "handicap" positively. I wanted to look ugly. Why? Because as much as looks do matter, there is certainly someone out there who likes me for my looks. Or who at least doesn't find me ugly (we're working in a hypothetical scenario here). I enjoyed it every time I felt rejected for my looks, because that person just wasn't for me. I knew that I'd find someone eventually. And that someone would like me mostly for my character than my looks, which is really what I want.What that attitude has done is let me distance myself from fretting over looks. It only inhibits you from developing personally in the way you want. My looks aren't going to change. Neither are yours. Both of us will grow up and be considered worse looking because of age. Heck, how much difference in looks do you find between two 80 year old women as compared to two women in their 20s? It can be hard to wait, and to feel rejected, but at least for me, this attitude has helped. I know I'm not hideous, neither are you. Beauty is relative. It matters but it is relative (Picasso vs. Michelangelo for example). Right now, I'm confident in that I'm "ugly" and I meet people constantly. Those that stick with me then must like me for my character no?Make sure of one thing though. Don't let yourself become depressed because of how you perceive your looks. What's less appealing than an unattractive person is an unattractive person who brings you down. I'd take an unattractive person with a happy attitude anytime over an attractive person with a sombre attitude that brings me down. Again, looks matter. So I wouldn't immediately say I'd date her. Thinking of looks can hold back your personality. And it's your personality that you want to focus on! As cliché as it ay soundedit: final two paragraphs using more fitting sentence construction and language.
Does self-confidence mean anything?
That is hypicreitcal, but being self confident does have somthing. Think about it would you want to date a guy whos like "umm i want to... well. im not sure actually, mabey we should go to dine... actually what do you think? am i pushy? do you really like me? did you just say yes because you feel bad" im not saying you DO that because i actually dont know you :-) but think about it. You should find somthing you like in yourself, at least act like you do. it works for me ;-) lol. hope this helps!
How to build self confidence?
Without turning into a total *****?(I'm a girl btw.) It seems like most of my issues are caused by my lack of confidence and self esteem.It's true now that I think about it. I've always been bullied and since I'm a passive,open-hearted,and try to please everybody type person,the words people say about me hit me hard. I've also have lived a not very good life due to tons of family issues and friend issues and I have had depression before. I want to be confident,not shy,out-going and have a self-esteem high enough to be a easy going person but not enough to turn into a *****. Please help?