My dad doesn't take me seriously. It's really wearing at our relationship. HELP.?
I'm 14 years old, an only child, and i have lived with my dad most of my life. As i've gotten older, i've become very introverted and on my own. Basically i'm trying to find myself. (just like every other kid my age.) Whenever I try and talk to my dad about how I feel, I feel I can't be in depth with him because he just won't take me seriously. Example: when I do something wrong, i'll say: "dad, I'm sorry and I feel really bad about it." and he'll say something like: "good, you should" and then he'll smile like it's some kind of joke when in reality, all it does is put me down. I don't understand what he's trying to do, shed light on the situation? or if he really just thinks it's funny? I dont know. But it really bothers me and puts me down a lot. I just feel like he doesn't understand me and I don't know how to talk to him so he realises that what i'm saying is real and that I don't exaggerate. Can someone please explain this to me and maybe give a little advice?
My dad thinks I need a psychiatrist...?
I'm about to finish high school then I'm going to college my grades are decent. My mom and dad have been separated for about 8 years now, I live with my dad who has a girlfriend stuck in the 80's. Her children are spoiled rotten, disrespectful and bipolar one is disabled physically and mentally and needs constant supervision (the 24 yr old daughter cusses out her mother everyday..) which causes me stress and abdominal pain. My grandmother passed away 3-4 years ago, I have been sexually harassed at work by a 30 some year old boss. I did quit. I'm entering 2 months in my relationship with a fantastic person who makes me happy, should I get a psychiatrist? My dad has been persistent about it.
My father won't take me to a psychiatrist, please please help?
Lately I've been experiencing severe paranoia and very intrusive thoughts as well as very troubling emotions. I told my dad all about it but he won't take me to a psychiatrist... he won't help me, and he doesn't seem to care. I've been experiencing these problems ever since I was about 12 years old but they have been getting stronger throughout the years. Also, my mother used to have paranoid schizophrenia and borderline disorder (she died last year), my aunt (mother's sister) has paranoid schizophrenia. So I don't know if this has anything to do with what's happening to me or not. (I'm 15 years old). Please help me, what should I do? Are there any alternatives to visiting a psychiatrist? Is there some sort of online therapy or something? Because I just KNOW there is something wrong with me. My upbringing was terrible and I don't want to go into more details but there ARE reasons why I feel this messed up. I'm so sorry for all of this text but just answer this question: What on Earth am I supposed to do? Please don't tell me to try to convince him because I already did. And I don't want to tell someone else about my problems. If you read through that, thank you so much <3
My parents think I need a psychiatrist?
Woah, that's a tough response to you from your parents. Of course you don't need to see a psychiatrist for this. Maybe you weren't very switched on or maybe a bit thoughtless maybe even selfish at the worse case scenario but who needs therapy for that! If you're not a touchy feely sort of person it's almost certainly a genes inheritance and/or parenting techniques that made you that way. You're not deliberately trying to hurt dad by being thoughtless. Why didn't mum tell you sooner about the minor op?, was it due to being not too important or was it urgently carried out as an emergency? If he was on a waiting list for years and had a date for the op for weeks it's not your fault they didn't tell you that in advance so you could write the date down in the diary to check on him or send a card. I wonder if your dad thinks you may have Asperger's if you're not very warm as a person? If so they should have noticed that years ago and done something about it. Have you got friends at college and maybe some back home as well from school days that you keep in touch with? If so I don't think there is any need to worry here. Dad was hurt so he lashed out in anger to hurt you back and has obviously succeeded and it will blow over in a bit. Just remember to be nice and ask after his health and mum's every week so you can't get it wrong. If they have any medical appointments put them in your diary so you do remember to call and ask at the time. Good luck
How do I get my parents to take me to a psychiatrist? So, I'm 16...and I've been depressed since I was 11 (if not earlier)?
And a friend's mom got concerned about something and got on his phone and saw our messages and found out I'm really depressed and have substance abuse problems.....so she told my mom, and that was before last Christmas in 2015, and my mom talked to me but didn't say a friend's mom told her. She just asked me if there was anything I wanted to tell her. And I don't have a good relationship with either of my parents, so I don't talk to them about anything. So I said no, anyway I ended up texting her that I'm depressed. And she said that we were going to get help, but it's August and she's done nothing...I've talked to my parents multiple times about getting help and nothing's happened. My cousins mom even mentioned it. I want to see a psychiatrist, but I just can't talk to my parents again, when I do they never trust me, they never let me have alone time, it kills my anxiety. I have major anxiety and I hate talking to my parents, it just makes me self-harm a lot. The friends mom apparently told my mom that I cut, and my mom never said anything about it. I text my friends mom a lot because she helps me...but the other day I texted her and she said she was going to call my dad the next day and talk about it, because last time she told my mom, nothing happened. I don't know if she called him, my mom has been on the phone multiple times with my dad recently having private conversations. My dad is on vacation with two of my siblings. So, I don't know what's going on.
Hi, was I the victim of child abuse or just strict parenting? Do I need to talk to a psychiatrist?
Hi! I was a very active young kid who has aspergers syndrome. 1. When I was about 5 or 6, I asked my mom if I can wait for my dad in front of our apartment building. Well, I wondered away and my parents spent about 1 1/2 looking for me. When I get home I was spanked with a pair of slippers by my dad and had to stand in the corner for like a 1/2 our or so 2. When we moved to Canada in 1990, I started first grade and got with the wrong person. We stole marker from the teach er and she told my parents. My dad spanked me with a switch for it. 3. When I was in 3d grade I was miss-behaving and was sent into time out. While there, I wrote swear words about the teacher on the board. I lied to my dad and told him I wrote it on a piece of paper which I disposed of. The next day the teacher saw it and called the principle. I was sent home for the day and at home my dad spanked me with a folded belt like 10 times and grounded me for the rest of the day. 4. I have been spanked a few more times for miss-behaving with a slipper. 5. I have been slapped across the face by both of my parents for swearing at them on numerous occasions. 6. When my parents put food on the table with HAD to eat it, even if we did not like it. Once I threatened I would threw up and my dad told me I will eat my own omit if I through up. Thankfully that did not happen. He even once put a wooden spoon on the table and if me and my brother refused to eat he threatened to spank us with it. Well, this was a long time ago, but I feel resent towards my parents for spanking me so much. Also, I have problems associating with people and finding a girlfriend which is causing me depression. I told my parents that I think I should talk to a psychiatrist or get some professional help and they told me "don't be ridiculous" "no" etc. What to do? What is causing my problems? Do you think I need professional help? In another occasions, my mom bought chocolates for a friend and she put them out on the table. Mom told us that if we were to take any we would get spanked with a belt at home. Thankfully we never took any and we did not get spanked. At times when I get angry and think back at what happened, I fantasize about being Hitler, Eichmann, Karadzic, Mladic, fighting a war killing, beating up my parents etc.
My 32-year-old son wants my permission to die. He is severely depressed and has given up on living. I cannot let him go, but it hurts to see him in such pain. What can I do?
For the past several years, I've been increasingly depressed. I say 'increasingly' because I've been depressed to one degree or another for most of my life.Your son is lucky that you know about his condition and want to help; nobody knew how bad I was. Some people are compulsive liars; I'm a compulsive actor. Nobody ever saw me weeping in a quivering ball on the floor. Nobody ever saw me shaking uncontrollably as I tried to force myself to get my work done at the office. People saw me as the strong, competent guy I've always appeared to be. But I could only keep up that facade for so long. A month ago, I cracked. Sitting at work one day, I broke down. I wasn't suicidal, but if someone had pointed a gun at me I wouldn't have flinched. I might not have even noticed. Then I was at my doctor.Then I was at a psychiatrist.Then I was at the hospital.As I said, I'm a compulsive actor. Knowing this, I wrote out what I wanted to say to the doctor. When I got there, I just handed it to him. He read it, asked me a few questions, and set me up with the psychiatrist. The psychiatrist read it, asked me a few more questions, and sent me to the hospital.At the hospital, I was evaluated and placed on antidepressant medication. Being in a position where they could keep an eye on me, they were able to increase the dosage faster, and get me functioning well enough to discharge in only a few days. Years of pain, and a few days on medication. It's amazing. I don't like taking medications, but it's far, far preferable to the alternative. I still have a lot of work to do, but I'm alive again. Your son hasn't hidden his depression. He's asking for help in his own way. Please, get him to a doctor. He'll fight you. He'll argue with you. He won't want to go. Try.
My Father is pissed, telling me he lost a son (me) because I'm going to see a psychiatrist for depression. Is his anger rational? I don't know what to say to him.
Don't worry for now what your father is thinking. Health comes first always. And health is also mental and emotional well being.Let me describe you what just happened with me today morning . I've been getting unusual headache for about a week. So I thought of getting my BP checked. This morning, as I informed my father that I was going to a pharmacy to check my BP , he smiled and gave me an expression ( I know he thought that my headache was nothing more than surfing internet too much).Boom! My BP had lowered and my pulse is just 30 now( which should be 40). As I returned my home, I don't know whether he forgot or he didn't give any bother, he didn't ask anything about my BP.After an hour, I told him about my BP and the pulse. I could read his eyes that he felt sorry for me and how he had acted early. He smiled again but this time obviously being proud about how I detected my problem and got it checked.If you ask what attention I got after that, nothing, but I myself learned a lesson to modify my life style to lead a healthy life.So, to conclude, get an appointment asap.
My dad is a schizophrenic, and refuses to get help and causes harm to those around him verbally, including my family, what should I do?
Are you safe?I grew up in a similar situation. Not my father, a sibling. We were lucky to survive. One of the problems was the psychiatrist told my parents not to make him do anything he didn’t want to do. This advice helped create a monster.Dad finally kicked him out when he caught him having a go at Mum. Not so much over the various types of abuse my younger brother and I suffered.He returned home for a period of time about 15 years later, while his flat was being refurbished. Every day I thought the police would come knocking to say my parents had been slaughtered.After he left, he kept going to them for money and food and would threaten violence if he didn’t get what he wanted. Eventually the elder abuse people had to help. He said he was surprised he’d been allowed to get away with the behaviour so long - he’d made a choice to treat our parents like that. We live in a socialist country. He receives a benefit that would be enough if he didn't smoke and drink it away.What should you do? What can you do? What services in your country are available to help? If you are still at school, have you let them know there what is happening? Can they get social services involved?Is your family willing to move away from him, or remove him, for your own safety? Are the police involved when his behaviour is rank? Is there a way of having him committed?Take away the fact that he has schizophrenia. If his brain chemicals were ‘normal’, what would your family do?In my opinion, from bitter experience, the safety of the family is important. Trying to protect the person who is hurting the family is a false protection and a wrong decision.