Girl wants to keep texting, but I'm asking all the questions? Girls please help! I'll answer yours?
I'm texting a girl at work who has made it VERY clear that she likes me, both at work and over text. When were texting and she seems busy, i'll say something like "hey i won't keep you since your busy. Talk to you later". She says she wants to keep texting though. The problem is i'm asking ALL the questions. she isn't asking any. She's putting a ton of smiley faces and exclamation points and other flirty things in her texts though. Why does she want to keep texting but she won't ask questions??
Should I Leave him or Stay hoping he will change?
Im only 20 and he's 24 ...two weeks into our relationship he was already talking about marriage and vacationing to islands. He always makes fun of big ppl when he's overweight himself. He stares at other women in public and when i asked him about it he lied and said.it was a military thing and that he was trained to look around and watch things since he was a marine. He also lied to me about liking a "big booty women" page on faceboook. Whenever i break up up with him he always tells me he loves me and how much he'll miss me... he gave me his grandmas wedding ring and says he want so marry me. The other night he cried and said he felt bad and that i should be treated like a queen and how he was the jealous type. He went through my Facebook and phone and questioned me for asking another guy for advice about our relationship .... the next day i found a picture another girl on his phone that he stole from her page and he swore up and down that it was his cousin..... We were watching a movie and he said he would" **** the **** " out of an actress and said that I shouldn't get mad when he says it because its someone he's never going to meet. Today i found out hes been on instagram commenting on other females pictures and he told me that i was an "insecure jealous *** female".and then he said " tell me the name of the.lovely female that i said such sweet things to" .. and now he wont stop texting me saying all men are the same and that they'll just use and cheat on me. please help..im soo hurt loved him so much.
What can you text to a narcissist before you finally have no contact with them again?
So I must say I totally agree with everyone here who states not to waste your breath telling the narcissist in your life goodbye. I think that is excellent advice - the N will not believe you regardless of what you say anyway. In my situation I did tell my ex N goodbye, it simply never occurred to me not to at that moment in time. I did not have any sort of fantastic kiss-my-ass-goodbye stinger either; typical of me I was totally sincere.Factually identifying him as a narcissist happened almost a year before I walked out. I recognized word salad and gas lighting and finally understood why he never asked me about my day. I was able to see why his previous relationships had two categories: women still around and women that never saw or spoke to him again. Why he never held down a job more than two or three years. I remembered a few of his sandbox hissy fits (just like the 3 yr old who has his toy taken by some other kid) and the dark look in his eyes the few times I blantantly disobeyed him. The lies and the triangulation and the ridiculous trail of infidelities. Finally I realized why it was he literally tried to sleep with every woman he interacted with. The more I learned the more I saw he was a textbook soma narcissist.Somewhere in all the books and blogs and forums - I am certain - was the fact that a narcissist was incapable of loving another person and devoid of empathy. I have no doubt today that I must have read that dozens of times but I guess my brain just would not let that sink in. Or maybe it was my heart that would not allow it. Maybe it was the fog he had me in. I do not know how or why those facts did not lock in and register for so long, I suppose it was unconscious self preservation. The moment of clarity was stunning. Logically I knew he was a narcissist but when my brain told my heart… when the fact he didn’t love me and never had sank in… when I faced the fact that I had been played by the love of my life it was staggeringly shocking. There in that moment I knew I was done.A few days later I simply told him I was done, that I knew his secret and it was time for us to say goodbye for good. He agreed, stating goodbye was long overdue. I understood and expected he would attempt to illicit any sort of emotional reaction from me so his comment did not surprise me. I did not flinch I just silently walked out the door without looking back.