Nervous about meeting my birth mom for the first time?
No one can tell you, not even the people on here, can tell you how to feel about your birth mom. You decide who she is to you. And it's not up to you to make your adoptive parents okay with all of this. They were adults when they adopted you. They knew (or should have known) what they were doing. This process is about you, not them, and not your birth mom. I met my birth mother a few months ago. It was frightening before I did so, but once we met, it felt normal. I don't know if it will for you. But just remember you are looking for information important to you. You have a right to ask these questions. Don't let anyone here discourage you. And don't let either your birth mom or your adoptive parents guilt you into anything you are uncomfortable with or put pressure on you to be someone or something you're not. Be honest with yourself and with them. That's the only thing you can do.
I am going to meet a girl first time, how should I behave with her?
If possible watch her from a distance for a couple of minutes before you actually go to her and introduce yourself. Make sure she does not see you during this time. Specially on the first date don't tell her everything about yourself. Take some time. If by any chance you two end up liking each other there will be plenty of time to talk.Avoid shopping mall or busy streets if possible. Don't take selfies.Be restraint , don't look arrogant and don't look cheesy too. Don't be a dick but give her an impression that you value yourself and then others too. Don't end up telling her your family secrets. Avoid using cuss words - she will definitely be repelled. Check how much she is being friendly with you. Don't be too bold even if she lets you. Try to be and showcase yourself a better person. Keep in mind she will be judging your every steps , every gestures on the date and later to check if you are the right person. Don't push any conversation. Pick up a spot with greenery and if needed be silent , both of you, and enjoy the beauty. Conversation will come naturallyLet her talk. Don't call her immediately after you have said bye - even if you like her like hell - give her some time - the only way she will like to be with you for a long time if you behave matured enough so that she can depend on you. Yes girls like chocolate boys but a permanent boyishness will only make them ask if you are mature enough to keep an adult relationship healthy. Last of all Be confident and keep smiling.
Meeting my biological mother for the first time after being adopted?
I was adopted at the age of 4, because my biological mother couldn't cope due to drug/ alcohol problems. At the age of 17, I wanted to meet my mother and come to terms with everything that had happened, so I decided to meet my biological mother for the first time after being seprated. She had been keeping in contact with my mother who adopted me for quite a while, sending her photo's and writing letters to her about how I was doing in my life. My biological mother would say how much she missed me, the truth was I missed her too, that's why I wanted her back into my life as she had gotten her life back on track, was married and had settled down. So, in August 2010, I met my biological mother for the first time again.. I had got to know her and was shocked at what kind of mother I actually had. I'd told her how badly I had reacted to being adopted as I got older and how hard I found it, she told me to "stop being such a drama-queen" there also came a time when, she'd send messages to my partner telling him I lie and I'm a nasty person, she'd send pictures of me to other people without asking me first, she'd swear at me and tell me how she was going to slap me, when staying over at hers trying to rekindle our relationship, she'd get angry at the fact she'd have to wash clothes, cook for me as she wasn't used to the responcibility, as her husband did everything for her, as she'd sit on her laptop all day and smoke cigerettes. She'd get angry at me, saying how she thought she felt like a mug around me because she'd have to cook and wash clothes, she said this made her feel like "my slave" she told me to "get out" of her flat and called me a *****. I'm actually heart-broken at the way she's treated me after being away from me all the years of my life, she claimed she missed me so much and when she got the chance of being my mother again, she'd throw it away again and again, until i'd had enough and decided to shut her out of my life for good, what do you think of her? why is she like this? wouldn't any biological mother be so pleased to see their son/daughter after being apart from them for half their lifes, why would a mother act this way towards her own daughter?
What should you say when you first meet a girl?
“Hi” the most common word ,bring out the first conversation with the girl.Do nothing but say it with full energy and with a sweet smile on your face this helps a lot in building your relationship.Try not to talk in a silly manner.Try it with some beautiful words that you are looking beautiful and about her likes and dislikes,continue it with some soft and lovely words that can brings a faith in her.At last say the words like I enjoy a lot with you and being with you makes me feel good.And this was the loveliest time which I spend and I’ll never forget.End up with a “BYE” and a saying by-meeting you soon again with a smile on your face.I hope it will help you a lot.
Long distance relationship, first meeting?
I've been talking, messaging and chatting to a girl for about six months and we've become really, really close to the point that we really care for each other. You could say we're unofficially in a relationship, the reason why is because we're waiting to meet to make that official, for that spark so to say. The thing is that i really have fallen her, even without meeting her i know so much about her and not just her likes or dislikes, i know her little mannerisms and pretty much everything else about her. I'm going to meet her in December for the first time, even after spending thousands of hours of our lives messaging each other and many hours talking. She really is amazing, and the impossible to find type of girl who i've found by chance! I'm actually moving to where she lives next year and well it's mostly for her. I just want some advice on what to do? I mean, i know for certain that she is the one for me and she feels the same way. We're both in college, by the way. I'm just really scared of meeting her in december, cause i've never really had a girlfriend before or been in a relationship and this is my first! So she pretty much has my heart in her hand...i'm going to be spending about nine days with her, any advice? The one thing i've been looking forward to for a while now is just embracing her when we meet at the airport! After that i don't know what to expect.