How can I stop being jealous of people more successful than me?
Jealousy is am unproductive emotion to have but it's natural and it can happen any time. However, I always felt the first decade after HS was the worse time for jealousy; as it's the first time all one's peers are going in all different directions, and the former student and his/her parents are probably still in touch with some of your former classmates, and then there is the big 10 yr anniversary party. Once one gets past that first decade, there are still co-workers, friends and others a person can be jealous of, since we usually didn't start out together in the same place as our current friends and co-workers, we sometimes don't compare as much as we do old school chums and classmates' parents our parents keep in touch with. And that's just it, comparing yourself against anyone else is pointless. Just because you hear that Mary-Sue got married and Bobby finished his master's degree, and Peggy and John are having twins and Fred is running for Congress, doesn't mean YOU should be doing any of that or that you are missing out or are behind the curve. You also probably didn't hear about the bad stuff that is going on in each of these people's lives, Mary-Sue's Mom just died of cancer at the age of 54, after a long illness. Bobby couldn't find a job when he graduated with his bachelor's degree, so he went back to school to hopefully get a job once he graduates. Peggy and John's twins have special needs, and Fred is getting divorced due to a scandal with a mistress. People have good and bad happen in their lives and often they only talk about the good, although there are some people who only complain about the bad too. What you can do about this and preventing jealousy is not compare yourself to others, just compare yourself to yourself in the past. Get off Facebook, it will really bring you down and make you feel jealousy as you view friends posting status and pictures, it's very hard not to compare yourself to them. Just focus on yourself, your goals, your life, and the people important to you. Set yourself some future goals, it could be anything but it needs to be self improvement, and work forward to those goals. Then make some more and so on. You'll find that even just baby steps will get you going. You don't say how you want to be more successful, you should sit down and figure out what you do want and what you are willing to do to obtain that, then make a plan and implement it.
Brainstorming session please to help a person age 36 find a suitable job who suffers from Aspergers syndrome?
Take my advice with the biggest pinch of salt you can. Because I have no experience whatsoever with people who suffer from autism or Aspergers syndrome. But your question really touched me, so I did a bit of digging. First, remember that many people with Aspergers go on to gain sustainable and successful employment. It is estimated that there are about 332,600 people of working age in the UK with an autistic spectrum disorder (ASD), and of this number an estimated 259,506 are thought to be of average or above average intelligence. A good starting point is to support the individual to find out as much as possible about the job they want to do prior to making applications. If for example, the person has expressed an interest in becoming a hairdresser, encourage them to observe a hairdresser at work and make notes about all the tasks that they are expected to perform. It’s not unusual for the individual to ‘discover’ very quickly that there are aspects of the job that they could never do. This can be a painful process and having to abandon a career option will almost certainly cause distress to the individual. In addition to making enquiries with the Disability Employment Advisor, it is worth doing your own research to find out if other organisations, like local charities and colleges run employment courses. I wish you and your friend the very best of luck.
Is it wrong I'm ashamed of my parents age?
Alright,well to start off hello my name is Tiara,I'm 14..anyway,I am truly ashamed of my parents age because my mother is 28 years old and my father is 29..it honestly makes me feel uncomfortable knowing that my mother had a child at my age,I understand that I should be proud of my mom for keeping me and raising me to the person I am today ,but all of my friends parents are older,more like 30-55 and here I am with a mother who could be my sister and a father who could be my brother..and what the worst is I'm in high school and whenever we do activities my guy friends flirt with my mom! Would it be wrong to move with my grandparents?
Should I be ashamed that I am 36 and not married.?
Don't be ashamed. I know plenty of people who have waited to marry. My uncle waited until he was 45, and has a wonderful marriage and three beautiful little girls. Get involved in a hobby you enjoy and join groups, or volunteer your time with a cause you believe in. You'll be more likely to meet like-minded people that way. Even if you don't meet "the one" through one of these groups/organizations, you'll make some great friends who might introduce you to some of their single friends. Above all, don't be in a rush. You'll find the right person when you least expect it.
How can I not be jealous of friends' success?
I feel ashamed to even admit that I am because I know I should feel nothing but happiness for friends when good things happen for them. Basically, I'm 24 and graduated from college a couple years ago. I've been struggling to get a career going and it feels like everyone I know is having an easier time of it. I have friends around my age who are buying houses, new cars, etc., and it's hard sometimes to not feel like a failure by comparison. A good friend's husband recently landed a job that pays over 50k a year and he's only 25, and while I'm happy for them I also feel bitter since I'm struggling to find a job that pays even 30k a year. This is a hard age, I think, because the friends who were so recently broke college students just like me are rising up in the world and I'm being left behind, and I don't know how to deal with it in a healthy way. Anyone else deal with feelings like this, or have any advice on how to deal with it?