Our nanny is becoming way too attached, what to do?
I second everyone else's opinion...you need a new nanny asap! That lady is crazy. I've been nannying for years and I would NEVER tell someone else's child to call me mommy. I also wouldn't text something like that. Never. I feel for her, not being able to conceive and wanting a family. I'm in the same boat. It can be heart wrenching at times to see others blessed with such great children. But there is a huge difference between having a special bond with children you nanny (I almost always do) and being a psycho. There was one job I had, and it was live-in for a newborn and an 18 month old. The mother was an old teacher of mine (we had always been close, even when she was my teacher, more like friends) and she was going thru a very messy divorce and basically having a mental breakdown. So, needless to say, she wasn't exactly there for the kids. The older one knew his mommy of course. But the baby, over the first month or so, got to the point where he had bonded with me as if I were the mother. I was with him 24/7, a lot of the times I was the only one. It wasn't just me that noticed. The typical times when a baby wants "mommy" and will calm down for no one else, well, that was me. Had I been your nanny, I guess I would have been ecstatic about this. But, I'm a sane person and I recognized that I wasn't going to be there for this child's entire life. He needed to bond with his mother. So, when he was 4 months old and his mom had begun therapy and gotten settled in on anti-depressants that were helping, I quit. It was the hardest thing I had ever done, because I LOVED that baby more than any other, ever. But I knew it was the right thing. He needed to bond with his mother while he was still young, for his own good, and she needed that too. I wanted to continue to be "part of the family" and visit and all, but I couldn't because it was too painful for me. He's a happy and healthy 7 year old now (his mom and I are friends thru facebook). The point is, a good nanny (or person, for that matter) recognizes what's best for the kids and will do that. Concern for themselves would come second to that. So your nanny is either truly not sane or doesn't have your kid's best interest at heart. Also, I have to say this. Why were you allowing her to purchase things for your kids like diapers and formula? I guess clothes are one thing. But formula? I would have not accepted it, made her take it home. That's just not right.
Our nanny is becoming obsessive, help?
I am 27 and a mother to two girls, my youngest just turned 1 and I have a daughter who is 3. I also have two boys who are 5 and 7. I hired a part time nanny just while I go out with friends, go on vacations, run errands ect and she is 19. She's very sweet, organized, good with kids but I think she is becoming way too attached. I overheard her playing with my kids downstairs once and she told them from now on that she wants them to call her mom. I walked down and took my children upstairs and told her she needs to go home for the weekend and that I'm having my sister babysit. And then she texted my husband saying "when I grow up I am marrying a man just like you, rich, attractive..just perfect and I am having the same amount of kids as you. Hopefully I can move in with you guys and be a live in nanny. I want a family of my own so bad". Now don't get me wrong I'm not one of those over protective moms but she is getting pretty extreme. She spends all of her paychecks on baby clothes for my kids, diapers, baby formula ect. She told me she can't conceive last night so I don't know what to do. Should I keep her as our nanny or tell her we no longer need her? Because I don't want her to think that this is her family. Ryan and I want to have another child and will hopefully conceive this fall and I don't know if I want her around during my next pregnancy. Any thoughts? I would like some input from married couples with children.
Is it weird for a boy to become a nurse? What would be your reactions and "feelings" towards him?
No. Why would it be weird? Although Nursing is a female dominating profession but more and more men are joining the Nursing due to good employment chances. Boys are preferred in Critical Care area.In India many Boys are joining nursing specially from the state of Rajasthan and Uttar Pradesh. There are very Less number of people who feels embarassed in being treated by a Male Nurse. I agree when joining the Nursing It feels weird answering the question but as You start working, you start respecting your profession and start admitting in front of others that you work as a Nurse. And after a while You start to see people as “Patient” or “client” and start feeling normal or neutral towards gender but things get sometimes weird when you get a female patient your age assigned to you. You stay among other Nurses and joke about patients and other stuff, I say if someone has a anxiety disorder they will feel amazing in Nursing as they will have to communicate with lots of People on daily basis.
Why do young girls become obsessed with older men?
Not a thing for me at that age, so I can’t speak on it personally, but from observations, I’d say that a good bit of them see older men as being an authority figure and having some semblance of power that they feel attracted to. So many young men (and rightly so and age appropriate) are still trying to figure things out and their future is so uncertain. An older man with a good living and a nice house can appeal to women who think he’s got his life together, not seeing the larger picture with the mortgage, wife, children, etc…That whole thing about her applying as the nanny in order to be with him was a bit beyond though. In this case, perhaps daddy issues?
I "was" the nanny and had an affair with the father. I'm now unemployed with no direction.?
Can anyone please help me to see this from a different perspective?? I'm so lost. The story goes like this: I was a live-in nanny for 6 months. For the first 4 months, I was on call working 24/7. And every single day I would see the mother of the child I was taking care of. We had a really great relationship. We were best friends and I was the happiest I have ever been when it came to a job. The father on the other hand lived in Hong Kong and was only with us at the house in California maybe for 2 weeks straight and then he would fly back out to Hong Kong or to some other house that he had. From the first day I started work, there was an obvious chemistry between him (the father) and I. I would constantly keep my distance when ever those kind of feelings would come up while we were together because my job was much more important to me than messing around with something so messy. The first time we slept together, I had gone to the airport to pick him up and when I got out of the car to greet him, he came in and kissed me. After that we went to have lunch and were feeling pretty good after sharing a bottle of wine. Then we went back to the house and since they already had another nanny, it was obvious that she and the baby were out. So we went upstairs and had sex. I really could not believe what was happening but in this strange way, I felt like it was part of my job?? I know it sounds stupid but I'm just being honest. It then happened 2 more times and when we all got back from a trip we were on, we got back to California and the mother told me that she's tired of my "unprofessionalism" and fired me. And literally kicked me out of the house and I really had nowhere to go but to my mom who lives on the other side of the country. Any comments are greatly appreciated.
If you become extremely wealthy, is it necessary to look the part? Is there pressure for a woman to not be mistaken for the nanny or help?
I think it very much depends on the person and perhaps even some cultural differences. I have worked with many wealthy Russian families and supply them with nannies/governesses and they actually like their staff, especially their nannies to look as though they fit in with them, so they don't look like staff. They often go for ladies who dress well, have great manners etc. However, I know in some cultures this pressure is high and there is an obvious distinction between wealthy members of their family and staff.Ultimately, it comes down to what makes you happy and if how you behave towards others make you feel good.The wealthiest people can still treat their staff extremely well and I think they only gain more respect from their peers if anything else.
I'm thinking of becoming a stripper... need advice?
It depends. I have had numerous stripper friends over the years. Here are a few things I have found out. It is far easier to do in a town further away. Think about working weekends at a club in the next city. Get a hotel room and spend the weekend there. Less chance of getting caught and the income difference would probably pay for the hotel. Another thing to remember is that most of the people your parents age that you would see in a club won't recognize you. If they do, deny it is you. If that doesn't work, remember they are going to be just as nervous that you will tell on them as you are. The important thing to do is set a clear budget for the money in advance. It is very easy to develop expensive tastes when you have money rolling in. This leads to bills you can not possibly pay on a normal wage and locks you into stripping. An easier way would be webcam shows online. Controls who can see you and no lap dances. I would look into that.
Why did Nanny McPhee get prettier as the movie went on?
never saw the movie, but sounds like the better you help someone to feel about themselves, the better they look to you. that would explain why there have been women i've known that were ugly but i eventually wanted to do them.