Would this behavior concern you...or does this show the depth of his love?
My boyfriend and I have been having problems. We love each other dearly, but we attend a strict church and he is divorced. He cannot remarry int he eyes of the church unless he fills out the remarriage paperwork and the church sees him as biblically released from her. My boyfriend is 32 and I am 23. He has asked me to wait for him while this decision is being made, and if the church says we cannot marry, to wait for him until they change their mind because he is certain that this will be made right and we will be together someday. This is a difficult request for me as I am young and want a family...but he is the one and I don't ever want to be with anyone else. Lastnight I was weak and had made the decision waiting to be able to marry or be intimate with him again was too hard so I broke up with him. He is a very patient, loving, shy, self-controlled, disciplined man. His last wife left him after beating him up and being arrested for it. What my concern is, is that when I told him that I was so sorry but it was too painful and hard to wait for him, and gave him his house key back...once he realized I was planning on leaving him (after promising I'd try to stay and wait), he threw both hands in the air and banged them to the sides of his head, he hunched over and made this painful screaming noise, then went running towards the bathroom throwing his glasses at the wall on the way. He locked himself in the bathroom and curled up in the fetal position on the floor and started crying uncontrollably. It took several minutes to convince him to let me in. and when he did unlock the door, he stayed on the floor bawling, banging his fists very hard against the sides of his head and ripping at his hair saying "I'm a failure! I've failed and I didn't even know it!" and "I've made so many mistakes, I'm so sorry!" He repeated these phrases over and over. It scared me to see him like this. It broke my heart. I was wondering if what I had done was reopening the wound of his ex wife leaving him. Does this show that he really loves me and what I did was wrong...or is this abnormal emotional behavior?
Do you have concerns about the behavior of Dr Christine Ford’s attorneys? Is anyone concerned they may not be acting in Dr Ford’s best interests?
I think Dr. Ford’s attorney used her. She clearly is/was suffering from an attack. It seems there was no corrobration regarding Kavanaugh but most people acknopwledge something awful happened.What really got me angry was Dr Ford’s testimony that she wss not aware the committe would have interviewed her in CA or anywhere else. I belive the lawyers wanted the specticle of the the Senate hearing and kept it fron Dr Ford. It was harmful to Dr. Ford. I am hopeful Dr Ford get better, she truely is suffering.I hope the lawyer gets disbarred. I am so fed up with sleazy lawyers ruining other people’s lives for their own ends. I thing the other woman’s testimony about rape gangs was so rediculous it hurt Ford and helped the Republicans.At some point there will be a focus on truth rather than the sensational. It will ony be then there will be a chance to regain people’s reespect and trust. I am really fed up with screaming jerks invading public buildings, restaurants and other areas for their own selfish reasons. I was at one of thoes restaurants and it was obnoxious and I wish they would be arrested. It needs to stop.Every time there is a screaming crowd, another Independent says the Democrats are run by crazy people. JFK could not get nominatd, hell Bill Clinton could not get nominated. We have to do something before the Republicans gain more power.
Our new puppy is TOO calm!! Should I be concerned?
We went and picked up our new puppy last night (red sable mini dachshund...12 weeks old) and we noticed he was VERY calm. We asked about it and the breeder said she had checked him out and had him checked by a vet and that he was fine and he was just like that. We got him home and all he seems to want to do is chill and sleep. When our kids went to bed he played with me and my husband for about 45 minutes and seemed more perky but this morning he is back to chilling/sleeping. He is eating, drinking, peeing and pooping (he needs a little encouragement to eat and drink though). He slept through the night (in his crate in our room) and didn't have any accidents in the crate. He went outside this morning and "did his business" and was a little perky for a few minutes. Should I be concerned about this behavior? Is he just getting used to us? Will he get more perky? I feel so bad thinking he is afraid of us or something!! We named him Lebowski because he is SOOOOOO relaxed!! I won't mind if he is a relaxed dog, I just want to make sure there isn't a reason to be concerned because our last dog was a mini dachshund and he was HYPER from the minute we brought him home when he was 9 weeks old, Thanks in advance!
DO the upset employees have cause to be concerned about your behavior? ?
You're their employer? I'd say so, yes. In a legal-social-economic framework in which paid jobs are hard to find, in which working people rely on their incomes to pay off their homes while facing the prospect of losing their whole investment therein if their payments become delinquent, the employer holds the future of the worker, and usually also the welfare of the worker's spouse and children, hostage to his slightest whim. You know those "disgruntled" (what a pejorative adjective) workers who shoot their employers after being fired? While I might not approve, I do understand. Indeed I do. And why should you have such power? Generally speaking, the capitalist's contribution in the production of goods for sale is nothing except his restraint in not exercising his legal right to PREVENT production. That is, the capitalist who has legal title to the tools of production undertakes the "huge task" of staying out of the way and letting other people do their jobs. Capital is nothing but a useful residue of labor done in the past. The right to risk capital is a PRIVILEGE, and there is no special reason for why this privilege should belong to an elite class of employers. It's as if the capitalist were a someone who called himself an artist, but instead of creating anything beautiful with his own hands, he simply stood in front of the setting sun and charged people money to look west. "Why is the credit for the sunset yours, Mr. Artist?" "Because I could have built a wall between your eyes and this beauty, and I did not."
Should I be concerned about slowly getting more and more angry?
YES! This will continue to eat away at you and, no, something of this nature is not a phase.You’re young… 17, that is a particularly volatile age and your entire life could change in a flash of unconstrained anger.You have an inner upset, perhaps unknown to you. You’re very angry WITH yourself and it’s taking the form of anger at others, not just at yourself.IF you care about your future, and I think you do or you wouldn’t ask, do what is needed to find an Anger Management Specialist. National Anger Management Association (NAMA)I kid not here… I’ve just had to hospitalize a young man for behaviors that will never again allow him to have the life he may have thought he might have.Find someone you trust and discuss this with them.You have too much to offer to flame out with the misapplication of a perfectly normal emotion that ran away with you.You could be what is called a ‘hot head’… if so, use that to your advantage, not to your detriment.As an aside… while you are looking for professional help here, teach yourself an emotion-steadying technique the Navy Seals use to keep calm under ANY condition.It’s called ‘box breathing’. box breathing navy sealsIt could save your life, and future, and the life, and future of others.I’m proud of you for asking….!
Should I be concerned about my girlfriend hanging out with older male friends?
As far as I know, such behavior from a girl is not a decent behavior. If she is just friends with the other guys , there should not be a problem , needed that she should know how to maintain a required distance. Being a girl, I can say that I would have never acted like that even if I am single. If you guys are in a healthy and good relationship then she must surely stop doing this. However, if you guys are just goofing around then may be she does't feel bad behaving like thatNow coming to whether you should worry about this or not.If she is a person who can cheat on you, then no point worrying as you deserve someone loyal and more decent. If she is a person who wont cheat, then again no point worrying. So , all in all you should not worry at all.However, yes you should talk to her about you not liking her getting cozy with her male friends. Just say that you don't have problem with her friends but you want her to maintain a required distance.
Should I be concerned about a child acting out scenes of abuse and rape with dolls?
When I was in around first grade, I recall having my ken dolls rape and abuse my barbie dolls. I do not recall having been molested myself, nor do I recall witnessing domestic abuse or rape in person or on TV. Is it normal for this sort of behavior or is it possible something else is going on? Only wondering because my parents are convinced I've been molested since I am frightened to death of any kind of intimacy and touching. And sorry this is so personal.
Should I tolerate disrespectful behavior ?
I have been in a relationship with her for months and after 15 women, she is the first one to open my eyes. She is all that I have ever wanted and I need you to know that questioning my relationship with her is a big deal for me at this point. I have been with her parents and herself for two weeks and have learned a lot about her. I belong to a royal family with a strong heritage and have grown up to learn to respect my family, especially my parents. Im really surprised to see her parents ready to kill each other almost everyday and her doing the same. There is a lot of disrespectful behavior I see inside her for her parents (which I dont blame her for) and a rebellious nature but I am questioning if "my family" I build someday with her will be the same way too. All being said, I am just very concerned that I really don't want my kids to be speaking to me that way. What should I do? Please dont simply ask me to leave her because I love her to death and I will try my best to fix any imperfections.