Ugh I'm so mad, cousin ditched me for friends?
Ok so I'm at my cousins house for the weekend for st patricks day and her family had a party for our whole extended family but her friends came over and they are really weird and anti social and completly leave me out, I've tried to talk to them but they ignore me so I just gave up and I'm sitting In the living room now and I have no one else to hangout with because Im not from around here and she is just with her friends and is ignoring me now I'm just so mad/hurt we had plans tonight! :( What do I do? Do I just ignore her? And i'm scared to try to hangout because she will make me look/feel stupid infront of them because there are guys and she will think she's cool help:( what do I do?
My girl ditched me last night. Should I be mad?
So I've been talking to this girl for about a month and we had one date which went great. She wanted to go out again. However our work schedules make that difficult. Last night I went to the bar where she works at and had a couple drinks with her. She wanted to go out after so I didn't leave. Then when the bar is about to close she tells me that she has to drive her drunk friend home bc she was there for her last week. She also told me she will call me after she drops her off which she never did. I didn't believe she would call anyways. Then she says we should go out for lunch tomorrow if I don't see you tonight. I said ok but I don't believe you. So she promised she would call and never did and i doubt she will do lunch today. however i know she is into me bc of the way she acts around me. She was even disappointed that she couldn't kiss me while she was working. Do I have a right to be mad at her?
What do you do when your only friend ditches you?
Thanks for the A2A. I'd like to first state that if you've constantly told her that she's your only friend and you have no one else and you trust her explicitly, she'll be intimidated. It's a huge pressure to carry someone's expectations. It's one thing to tell her this after you both have been through stuff together, quite another to put her on a pedestal.So here's what you will end up doing since she's left - Cry - You'll probably feel like sobbing your heart out. She's your best friend. She gave up on you. You think you're worthless. That no one will love you again. Which will lead to;Despair - That period of time where all you can think of is how everyone comes and leaves and no one invests in you because you're not worth it. You keep up the despair for sometime. It keeps eating at you. Which leads to;Anger - Why is everyone leaving you? What fallacy have you committed? You didn't make any mistakes, you just trusted and loved someone and they didn't seem to love you back (platonic). So now it'll make you feel;Indifferent - It doesn't matter if anyone leaves. You are enough for you. It's time to let the past be. She was one person and you have a long life ahead. Let's start living it. And so;Self-Confidence - Hey look! So many new hobbies. That person is reading the exact same book you like. Maybe you will go talk to them. An aunt is sitting next to you, morose. Maybe you can distract her and make her feel better.The point is, everyone has someone who has left. Life doesn't stop. It might feel like the end of the world, it isn't. Go through these stages, but feel healthy again.If she comes back, listen to her reasoning. While you have written about how important she is to you and how she's your best friend, I have no idea about how she feels about you. Maybe you never listened to her problems. Maybe she felt she was acting as a crutch for both of you and that's why she left.Ask her why she left. If these are the reasons, learn to forgive her and give her space. We all make mistakes and the most grievous ones are made when we care for someone. If she left because she didn't love you, you don't need to be with such a person. We only need people who love us. If they don't, they should walk away (if they are decent enough).Indulge in yourself. Once you enjoy your own company, you'll find people attracted to that contentment and enjoying yours.
Should I be upset when being ditched over video games? - Gamers, please help!?
Yea you got the right to be upset. I think EVERY gamer has gone thru this... we all had to make time for our girlfriends... if this sunofa. gets away with playing games over paying attention to you... well then... It's not fair! He's breaking the rules we all had to follow! :P joking a bit.. but serious!