Boyfriend is stressing me out. What should I do?
Grrr...I hate it when guys do that...The countless times we have to tolerate them, the times we have to put a blind eye on what is so obvious, the pain we undergo because of the love we have...God, and I really hate it when other girls contribute to these guys' "cheating arrangement"! Well, here's what I thought... You might have to let go of him. I know it would hurt a lot, but you must not tolerate what he has been doing to you. If he really loves you, then he'd find a way to settle this matter once and for all. Love yourself more. If he's beent otally a jerk lately, tell him off, and if he doesn't, then let go. Let him realize how much it was a pain for you, how much he has changed, and how much of a jerk he has been lately, and that if he doesn't straighten up, the break up might be for good. He's not worth it if he doesn't show how important you are to him. As the saying goes, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". Don't let him continue to play with your emotions girl.
I'm REALLY scared to confront my mom?!?
Jessica, if it's bothering you this bad, honey, I feel you should either have a talk with your mom, or do write her a note. IF you feel you can't talk to her, write her a note & leave it somewhere you know she'll find it when you're not around. You can't & shouldn't keep letting it upset you as it is. I know it no doubt scares you with the tho't of possibly breaking up your family. Of how it would hurt your dad. You of course love both of them & don't want anything to happen to them. Make up your mind you're going to do it once & for all just to get it out in the open & clear your mind. You must have some reason to believe it or it wouldn't be bothering you as it is. Get it out, honey, & at least that will make you feel a bit better. Just tell her you're worried & the reason, that's all you need to say. She'll then no doubt talk to you. Or put on the note "can we talk". Try to stay calm until you find out the truth...the best to you, honey...:)
My friend told my secret and im stressing out!!!?
OMG!!! That is sooo awful! I cannot even imagine going thru that. 1.But, you should tell her that you cant trust her anymore, and you probably shouldnt tell her anything anymore either. Because if she told somthing like that then she is very likely to spread more gossip. 2.Just tell him that it is no big deal (even if it really is) because letting him know how upset you are will only make the situation worse(hard to believe that it could get worse i know). But dont purposfully avoid him because he'll know that somthing's up. Just act natural...as much as you can. 3.Just try to tell yourself, that everyone will forget about it sooner or later. there is no way that you can avoid the situation now, but it will fade away. If the guy doesnt like you, then you have to get over that(difficult i know) but you do. Try to tell yourself that everything is okay. If you want to have a good day at school, you're in charge of that. You can control wether people make your day bad or not. Try not to let things get to you-that is one of the hardest things ever!!! But once you dont let people bother you, its a lot easier to get thru the day. Try to just be calm about the whole thing, and it should all blow over sooner or later. i hope i help and i really hope things are okay for you : )
My dad is cheating and my mom is stressing out?
I understand how confusing and tremendously stressful your situation must be. There are no real answers for what is going on in your life right now and nothing can fix it or take it back. First, try to recognize that your home is permanently broken from the way you have always known it. Secondly, try to focus on how you can cope, help your mom and siblings cope, and try to move on the best you can. No this is not easy and will take years and there will always be emotional scars, but those scars can lesson over time. Have your mom talk to an attorney right away and see about alimony and whatever other legal actions she can take to protect all of you financially. You may also want to consider therapy to help in this untimely, horrific event. I wish you the best of luck in life's endeavors and your moral decisions.
Would you walk away from your spouse and confront them at a later point in the day if they were being over stressed?
It is pretty rare but if either of us is having a bad day or under a lot of stress, we will strait up tell the other something like “I am in a shitty mood today. Sorry. It isn’t you.” or “I’m really stressed out right now, I would just like to relax and watch a movie tonight.” Being honest and forward is much better than pretending to be feeling normal, getting snippy with one another, arguing over a little thing because of something outside of your marriage or not understanding why your partner just “had to go for a drive.” No one can read minds. Let each other know. Offer to be an ear if they want to talk about it. If they don’t, let it go. If they stay around you, all they want is companionable silence. Nothing wrong with wanting to be around you even if they don’t want to talk.You are married 24/7. Life happens and we can’t always be at our best when we’re around our partner all the time. Don’t add to their stress.In your situation, let them know you want to talk about something but understand they are really stressed and to please come talk to you when they feel up to it.
How do I stop taking my frustrations out on my younger sister? I don't mean to, but I am just so stressed and sad right now to think properly whenever I'm triggered. I want to be an idol for her, but how?
People may idolise you - but a person shouldn’t seek to become an idol to others. That’s a mistake - in my opinion. Set a good example of effort and conduct. Strive to achieve your best results in everything you tackle. Show your sister how to balance the life benefits of planning & working/studying hard with the reward of an untroubled conscience and the deserved “peace of mind” which promotes “baby sleep” healthy relaxation. Show her how to acquire new skills, how to look after herself, inc how to get fit + stay fit. Teach her how to make something which has a “Secret Recipe”. SHARE who you are & what you have with her. Encourage her to do the same for you, eg. to offer help to you and to others when it’s needed, without having to be asked. By setting these Standards and by being supportively involved in her life without dominating her or neglecting your Big Sisterly ‘duties’, it’s very likely she’ll grow up admiring and appreciating you.If you’re struggling not to dump/impose frustrations etc on her, you need to reset your Respect Counter. She’s not there to be your punchbag - she’s your sister and she deserves for you to be the shining light leading by example person in her life - Maybe you need to get out of the house more & do some stuff that tires you out, or, spend less time online or in social chatrooms etc. and spend more time in the real world investing positively in yourself and in your closest relationships.