Should I initiate hanging out with him anyway or should I wait for him to initiate?
There could be a variety of reasons for this. He may be a bit shy or lack some confidence. Here’s what’s important though…you like him…he likes you. This seems clear given the good time you two seem to have together.When you find someone that you connect with like that and that you want to spend time with, try not to obsess over the smaller issues along the way. Is there anything bad about you exclusively initiating your get togethers (for now)? If it is really important to you, then ask him why he doesn’t initiate and indicate in a gentle way that it would be nice if he did sometime.Since communication is the key to every successful relationship, don’t be afraid to speak up. Others are not responsible for our happiness and fulfillment…we are. Get to the bottom of what’s important to you or let it slide and shrug as to the reason he is not more willing to initiate.Chris - Constructive-Coaching
Would you be ok with your wife hanging out with her ex bf?
my wife wants to continue hanging out with her ex bf, she tells me that she is still really good friends with him and she like to hang out at his place. she tells me that they drink a few beers and watch movies and play video games i told her i think this is disrespectful to me and she should stop cuz she is now married to me not him he is your ex bf for a reason i dont visit any of my ex gf or chat with them on the phone out of respect for her. do you think she should do the same?
Is it okay if my girlfriend hangs out with a guy who has feelings for her?
Is it okay if my girlfriend hangs out with a guy who has feelings for her?This is risky behavior in my opinion.She is putting herself in a bad position. And she is putting unnecessary instability in to your relationship.I say never give someone a reason not to trust you. This is the same for any relationship that I hope to keep and enjoy.Siblings, parents, spouse, friends, employer. Never give your boss a reason to think you might be stealing money. Never give your parents a reason not to trust you.I went to coffee with a group of women after class once. My wife asked me not to do it any more, so I don’t.I don’t want to put any unnecessary stress on the relationship. And I never want her to doubt that I’m totally faithful to her.I think there are some people who can sleep around and be friends with an ex, or say they are 100% comfortable letting their wife hang out with the guy that used to ring her bell during a booty call.There are others who use words like “healthy” to describe friendships that can take a wrong turn very easily.Emotional cheating is one thing that I would never tolerate. I’ve written about this before, but a friend of mine got dumped by a girl who needed more attention than any one man could give. She had a phone full of messages from other men. She just craved the attention.She even admitted that at least 2 of them were trying to seduce her, but she said she never had feelings for them. One kept inviting her over to spend time alone at his place, and the other would try to get her involved in emotional conversations, always needing a shoulder to cry on.She claimed that she knew she would never be attracted to them, and she just enjoyed hearing their perspective, but every once in a while these guys would move the conversation to “if you were my girl”.Everyone knew she craved the attention. That’s why he had to say goodbye. It almost killed him because he had invested some really good years, all his attention, and built his life around being with her, but I’m sure it would have killed him for real when she finally crossed the line she was so precariously flirting with.Don’t risk it. It’s not worth it.
My girlfriend hangs out with her ex. Is that ok?
What’s ok or not in your relationship, is obviously up to you two. Seeing how you’re asking the question and are somewhat -if not a lot- plagued by the idea of her hanging out, the quick answer is: no, it’s not ok.It all depends on your relationship, but I don’t feel that it’s right for any exes, while in a serious monogamous relationship with someone else, to hang out together one-on-on, if at all. There are exceptions, when these exes have a child together, for example. But even then, the meetings should be weaved in such a way to avoid any unnecessary spending time together. Let me explain why.Your girlfriend and her ex were lovers are some point. They were in love, probably shared a bed, talked about deep emotional hurdles and developments, kissed and made out, and seen eachother in good and bad days. Regardless of their positions now, and assuming neither are in the possession of a time capsule, this is a past that cannot be changed. They were lovers. This also means that they, at some point, were attracted to each other. I don’t see why you would accept for your partner to spend time (especially in private) with someone that they had found attractive, been intimate with both physically and mentally, and share a literal past with. It’s like allowing a fish to swim around sharks— yes they could potentially not be eaten, but why even go through the risk and trouble?!It’s not even about questioning her loyalty, which might also be jeopardized as she could still hold her ex in high (romantic) regard, since she does want to keep hanging out with him. It’s not even about simply accepting matters because she wants to and promises you to not do anything bad. It’s sbout the respect that she should have for you, her boyfriend, to not even want to share a future with her past, but a future with you, her future. It’s about letting go of a past that didn’t work out entirely, and for accepting that the future should be without her ex. Regardless of whether she happens to share mutual friends with her ex or any other nonsense excuse on why they hang out, she should respect and value that it’s not ok to you and because of that not ok for the relationship. If she can’t do that, cut your losses or you’re in for a bonafide loooong and bad ride.
I said we can hang out but im on my period?
Why don't you try doing something that doesn't involve hooking up? Suggest a movie or food or something that will get him to actually know you instead of just your lady areas. If you do end up hooking up though, you can get away with just underwear. It sounds gross but tuck your tampon string in your lips that way it won't flap out accidentally. But if he goes for that area, just shyly push his hand or whatever away. Its okay to say no.
Why does this guy keep on asking me to hang out, then bails on me?
Sounds like he's playing with you and doesn't value you. Don't give him the chance to do either again. It's pretty clear you should move on, unless you'd like to continue the cycle.
Will you still hang out with a friend who has HIV?
YES! As a lesbian, I've had several gay male friends with HIV. I will hug them, kiss them (not in a sexual manner), have dinner with them, even let them stay in my house and use my bathroom. AIDS is a sexually transmitted disease. Most often that means that it lives only in a hot, moist environment and is not airborne -- I can't get it by living in the same house and breathing the same air.I would probably not drink out of the same glass or eat off his fork, but if we're in a restaurant and he says, "This is great! Do you want to try it?" I'd say yes, and cut off a portion with my own knife and fork from an untouched part. Even these precautions may not be necessary, but the line between rational and foolish can be very thin.Also, there's a certain amount of ignorance in your question. How do you know who has HIV? The people most likely to spread it either haven't been diagnosed or are keeping it a secret, so proper medications aren't being used and proper precautions aren't being taken. I apologize; it may be that you are the person with HIV and are afraid to tell your friends. If so, do tell them, and be prepared with medical literature that you can leave with them before they decide to let you use their toilet.
Is it weird to still hang out with your ex?
Okay so I am speaking as someone who is the girl, and I still hang out with my ex. We were extremely close friends before we went into a relationship, and though it lasted only six months, it was a beautiful time I had. We were at different places so we broke up, and even started scouting for other people, but we sub consciously kept comparing them to each other. At times, it's weird between us, whenever we are watching TV, and some romantic song comes up, or when he gets drunk and calls me in the middle of the night, because he isn't comfortable with anyone else.Our relationship as friends, has deteriorated over time, mainly due to his dual behaviour when sober and when drunk. We miss each other, and I have moved on, though he, being the one who dumped me, is still not over and things are super-awkward at times. I have stopped taking things to heart. I have stopped taking him seriously. It's the best way to stop being sad. I was all good and jolly about moving on, until he started giving out hints.So best advice: Move on in life. Exes can be friends, as long as one of them doesn't keep hinting for more.
Should I not hang out with someone who s screwed with my friends?
I have this friend who has a thing with being a complete pervert. He doesn t treat girls well, but for some reason me and him get along just fine as friends. I like his company and we have a relationship where we argue but in a fun way and we joke with each other alot. It s fun, it s like arguing with my brothers and I enjoy it. But then I hear about him texting dirty, pervy, and even scary stuff to my female friends and i dont know if i should do something like start ignoring him or just not pay attention since it s not me hes doing anything to. Maybe its not my place to have an opinion? I m just not sure, any advice?
What can I do when my boyfriend hangs out with his ex girlfriend?
You can tell him that you are not comfortable with the situation and if he respects your feelings and YOU, he won’t even think twice about what he should do.It’s difficult for the partner when their bf/gf is friends with the opposite sex from the very beginning of a relationship but it is possible for opposite sexes can be friends. And if they were friends prior to you entering the relationship then you have no right to ask him to end a friendship HOWEVER you said this is an ex… Exes don’t remain friends. Exes don’t remain friends and hang out. Exes don’t remain friends and hang out especially when one or the other has entered a relationship. UNLESS they still have feelings for each other and they are still hooking up.I recommend being blunt about your feelings and the way you feel. Ask that they no longer hang out together, same sex friends hang out but not exes! He doesn’t have any buddies to hang out with? Shoot some hoops, play video games, drink beers, talk trash, fix & tune up engines, whatever it is that men do or that he supposedly does with her?! What do they do together? Let me guess? Hang out, talk and watch movies, blah blah blah… ask what movie they watched (he shouldn’t have to stop and think of a movie), ask what they talk about! Ask if they talk about latex..Be attentive to body language because I’m betting they are having sex. Damage is more than likely already done.Ask!