Help! My husband is threatening to leave me because I became a vegetarian?
My husband and I have been married three years. We are both 32 and want to start trying for a baby by the end of the year. Or at least we were. Now he doesn't want to because he says I've become too different in my views. I started yoga and jogging and eating healthy. He is a couch potato at home and eats Wendy's and Taco Bell. I don't want to drink on the weekends as much as he does anymore--I've grown out of that but he hasn't. I recently became a vegetarian, and it makes him angry and resentful. I don't push my new healthy choices on him or preach at him at all. I just don't join him in his unhealthy habits anymore. I work only part-time (I'm studying for my nursing degree), so I cook most of the meals. He enjoys the meatless food I cook, but he says he misses meat. I'm not keeping him from going out and getting chicken or beef for himself. But I won't cook it; if he wants it, he can buy it or grill it himself. I'm nice to cook almost every night anyway, and he should appreciate it. I've gotten SO much healthier in the past year (lost 20+ pounds and back into a size 6) but he doesn't compliment me, just complains that I'm too full of liberal ideas now and he says he isn't sure of the future of our marriage now. What to do?????? He is the love of my life and my best friend, but I think he's being really shallow over reconsidering our lifelong partnership potential because of my own personal choices that don't affect him.
What should I do if my husband tells me that he doesn't find me hot anymore. Not in a mean way, but in a "you're old and have put on some weight" way?
Hit the gym and get a personal trainer. Join some out doors clubs like a running club, mountain climbing club, rock climbing, biking, walking, etc. Start going out with club organizations. This will get your confidence up because you’re involved in something outside of your normal routine and your body will get more toned up. In short you’ll start looking very sexy and your man will take notice. He’ll wonder if youre seeing another man. So if he starts checking your phone or asking questions dont worry it just means its working.When you’re home dress sexy for him. Give him something to look at when he comes home. Plus go on dates with your husband. Lots of them. Life is short. Live it to the fullest. If hes at work go by his job and go out to lunch together or make a nice home made lunch for him. When his coworkers or any other guy sees you they’ll be telling him “ Man your wife is hot… Man I wish my woman made me lunch and brought it to me… Man you better be careful because you gotta good one” I know because Im a guy thats what we say because that rarely ever happens. It melts u down to jello. Do it like a full time job. And wear something thatll make him know that if he doesn’t think your hot there’s a whole host of other men that would gladly compete for your attention.Thatll wake him up before he loses a GREAT THANG. Trust me theres alot of single lonely men out here who work and come to an empty home. They would love to have a wife to come home to daily. Have an awesome day.
As an Indian husbands, what do you wish wife knew?
Dear future wife, hope you are reading this.I am sure it will be our arrange marriage and I want you first to be my best friend then a wife.I may sure you are busy in chat with your boyfriend but hope that I will NOT be the last one in your life. Cause i don’t wanna marry you in the first place if you have past relationships.Don't worry about me, I am still single and I promise you that, you will the only person in my life.I am little boring but I will be romantic as much as possible.You don’t have to cook for me & my whole family cause you are not some maid that we hired, your my lovely wife and i will always help you in everything.I am little bit less talkative, so be sure that you should talk much. I love hearing you.I know you may have a lot of expectations about my looks, but I am just of average look.And don't worry your family will be our family and same expectation from you.Sometimes I am little bit annoyed, hope you will understand. And whatever you want please directly say to me.I want to travel with you a lot.I only want respect, love and loyalty from you.If you are reading this post or not. don't worry I will show you this post when I will meet you in future.And most important, don't you dare to cheat me after marriage, I will kill you. Promise! xD. ———- from your future soulmate.NOTE: This is not plagiarism.
My boyfriend said he doesn't want me to get fat because I may not look as beautiful as before. What should I do?
It’s not impossible to live with this expectation, if it is something you each have for the other. I know some couples for whom appearance is really important.Let your boyfriend know that you like him slender and athletic and with all his hair. Make him also commit to a life of continual sacrifice to stay young and studly. Work it into conversation, say, when he wants to go out drinking beer, that it will make him fat and unattractive. If his father is balding (many men lose hair in middle age) ask him whether he’s going to do Rogaine or a weave. When he’s sitting around playing Call of Duty, remind him he needs to get some time in at the gym instead.One of several things will happen.Your beau will step up, go to the gym more and drink less beer. (Let the baldness go; it’s hard to control your genetic heritage).Your guy will think about what he’s saying, about the expectation he’s putting on you, and maybe mellow out a little.You will discover that sacrifice is fine for you but not so much for him. That hassling you about your weight is a means to manipulate you emotionally. That the only reason he is interested in you is that you are pretty, and as soon as there is something prettier in view he will be gone. This knowledge will suck, but it will suck less than finding out later.
Does your boyfriend want to dress up as a girl for halloween?
I think your boyfriend is like my husband. He likes the feel of feminine clothes. However, he knows its weird to dress in feminine clothes, and he lives within the my rules: 1. He can't use my clothes, period. 2. He can't use feminine clothes during our intimate times. 3. He can't create a female alter-ego, or pretend to be a woman. 4. He limits his crossdressing to just a few clothing items, and doesn't wear them much. However, Halloween is a different story. That's when things get crazy. I design our outfits, and dress him up. One year I was a black cat and he was a witch. Last year I was Cinderella the early years: I wore a beautiful long blond wig and a raggy dress. He was dressed in a outrageous puffy prom dress with a big petticoat. He was flat-chested, short wig, big shoes,... He was Cinderella's Ugly-Step-Sister. It was hilarious. This year will be both be wearing little girl dresses with petticoats and pinafores. We will have the same out-fits, same wigs, same everything. We will be twins... only I will be the Good Twin and he will be my Evil Twin. You can have a lot of fun with your boyfriend.
Should I charge rent from my boyfriend?
I own a house. my bf and his son moved in last year and pay $800 per month to cover rent, food, utilities, internet and also my mom helps to take care his son during all school breaks etc. last week, he gave me a notice which he will stop to pay me $800 rent and he will pay his and his son's portion of utilities only. He said he gives up to buy his own house under his name because he is paying me rent. he also feel his money toward to my house equity and my house doesn’t t has his name on. it is unfair to him. my mortgage payment is $2100 per month. our total living expense is around $3500 per month. I feel I charge my bf $800 is very reasonable amount. He make around $70k per year. He has higher salary than me. I don't want him to take advantage from me by only paying little his portion of utilities. Should I charge my bf rent? Any advise would be very appreciated!
What can I do, if my wife is getting fatter and fatter after the the wedding?
There is a lot you aren’t telling us. Did you just get married, or have you been married a while?Well, I would think you’d want to try to figure out why she’s getting fatter. I can think of a few reasons:If you are newly married, she may have taken extraordinary efforts to slim down before the wedding so that she could look good, but when she started eating normally again, she gained weight back.She might be depressed or unhappy or stressed-there are people who use food to comfort themselves.She may be enjoying having a partner to share meals with and is cooking more or going out more because of it.She might be pregnant. In that case, Mazeltov!!If she just had a child or has kids, women find it hard to stay in shape after becoming mothers-aside from the effects of being pregnant, having to care for two small children will mean she doesn’t have time to exercise, and she might be eating what the kids eat-fast food and kid food.She might have health issues, like a thyroid issue, that is making it difficult to control her weight-have her see a doctor to rule something like this out.If you’ve been married a while, then getting older will cause you to gain weight if you don’t pay attention to it and take action like changing your diet and getting more exercise.She just might not care about her weight. She’s got her man, and the pressure’s off to eat rabbit food every night and run five miles a day.Instead of saying to her, “you’ve let yourself go”, how about saying that you’d like to start an exercise program and eat better, and you’d like her to be a part of that. She knows she’s put on weight, she’s not stupid. But you can’t tell HER to do something about it while you sit around-that’s a recipe for a pissed off spouse. And I’m willing to bet you could use some tuning up in that department yourself.