How do you forgive your mother?
Yes! I don’t know anything about your mother and I’m not saying she’s a good person or a bad person or whether or not what she did to you or didn’t do for you was okay. I can’t know those things. What I do know is that if you harbor a grudge against your mother, or mistreat her, YOU may very likely ultimately suffer for it with a world of guilt and regret. If your mother’s behaviors toward you are unhealthy or harmful you may need to set strong boundaries and if she doesn’t respect those you may need take steps to enforce them, but do these things with as much kindness, or at least lack of cruelty, as possible. Also, consider what your mother is really guilty of. Is it maybe just being human? Not being great at being a mother? Not living up to your expectations? Ask yourself if you hold your father (including an absent father if that’s the case) to the same standard. Mothers are people, full of human foibles, just like everyone else. People often hold their mothers to unreasonable standards. They are people. Give her room for that. Chances are that whatever her faults, and much as she might not love you the way you’d prefer to be loved, she loves you more than anyone else ever will. That’s not a small thing, even if that love feels like a burden to you now. So do what you need to do to protect yourself if she is really a problem, but don’t be cruel. If you are a good person and you are cruel to your mother, you will ache over it when she is gone. Good luck with this. I know it’s a hard problem.
How can I get my mom to forgive me?
I guess.. If you are truly sincere and show that you are truly sorry, and your life shows that you are not the same person who offended ie you changed, then before long she will notice the difference… and will get around to forgiving you.Sometimes people DO truly get very VERY angry and, even though it probably is a bit overdone, they may be justified.Many consider it their “right” to be angry, and others say they simply can't help it.. But Whichever it is .. They Both have to get over their anger just as the offender needs to forgive. The thing is also that sometimes people just are so angry that they need a little more time to get over it.They may may need some time to think things over and may even need to be separated temporarily from the person who has made them angry.. which then make the offender feel he is carrying all the gall of the situation.Have you actually asked your mother to forgive you? Many people don't actually realize that that's necessary.Sometimes it's an idea to say “Mom.. I see that I made you real angry when I said…….., but I just want to say that I am really sorry. Please will you forgive me”. As a mother myself I can't see how a loving mother could turn down a sincere request like that when you have freely and sincerely humbled yourself and are truly sorry.Just one thing more. Many people think that if they just say some words or shed a few tears, then they are sorry, but that isn't always so and sorry isn't sorry at all if there is no sign of turning over a new leaf. False tears are deceptive. They're crocodile tears. They will only result in more trouble and increasing distrust, which won't bode well in the future.
Should I forgive my mother?
I don't know if this is where I put a description, I'm new to this site, so I apologize. So ever since I was a kid, my mother has always been my biggest problem. She was physically abusive, but mostly she was emotionally abusive. She would scream at me every day, she would find any excuse to be angry about something. I learned to not talk to her, to be afraid of her, to hate her and that I can't have a normal relationship with her.I'm 25 now and since then she has calmed down, although she's still passive aggressive, and she acts bipolar, she's very impatient still and easily gets frustrated. With all that being said, I remember it being very bad when I was a child, and I'm still afraid of her, I can't seem to talk when I'm around her. I dread when me and her go somewhere [Like a doctor's appointment] and I don't want to deal with her or want her in my life. The only way I can make the voices stop and I won't have to hear her screaming in my head is if I cut ties with her, even though she hasn't screamed at anyone for a couple of years now.I'm on the fence. My mother has caused me so many problems and she's better, but she's still not good. She had dragged me through years of therapy never realizing that she needed it herself, and she might have been the problem. So should I forgive her? Should I forgive myself? I need closure so I can move on with my life and move forward completely.
Can my mother forgive me even i said bad things?
my mom and i always fight,like every day.but last night it was different....and i belive its all my fault.i said bad things, i even insulted her and said that i wish she`s not my mother.....and then i threw the remote controle on her, and the wrestling match started there i have bruises and scars in my face...but i pulled my mothers hair. i know its all my fault.but can she forgive me? i said im sory but it ended up me saying again that i hate her and wish that she`s not my mother......... i don`t know if she`s still gonna forgive me.......
How do I forgive my mother for abandoning me and my siblings?
Why do you think you have to forgive your mother? Don’t let other people bully you into forgiving. It’s neither their call nor business, only your’s. Forgiveness is in order when the wrongdoer is truly and deeply remorseful and will never do wrong again. And still then it is you and only you who may grant that generous favour if you can find it in your heart. Because it is a favour and not a right. And your mother doesn’t seem to repent any of her wrongdoings.Your mother has not only abandonded you and you sibling(s?), she also neglected and put you in danger before she left. There is nothing you could have done to prevent that and it is not your fault. It is understandable you think so because most children who are abused in one way or another think it’s their fault somehow. It has nothing to do with you. You have probably tried to be the best child in the world and that still wasn’t enough. It is very, very sad that you have the bad luck of having such an extremely selfish person for a mother. It’s heartbreaking but it happens.Remember: it is not your fault, there is nothing you could have done to make her be a loving and responsible mother and you don’t have to guilt yourself into forgiving her. She doesn’t deserve it.I wish you all the strength you need. Be well.
How can I forgive my mother for abandoning me?
I feel for you, I really do. Plain and simple, your mother is a ***** and both of your parents should be ashamed. I say you save up and move a couple states away. You are 21 after all. Only keep in touch with your friends and sister. I mean, it sounds a little harsh but for real, they really haven't been there for you it seems like. Or, just get an apartment and get your sister to move in with you because if you have been through this much, I am sure she has been too. Starting over seems to be a reasonable thing to do doesn't it? I REALLY wish you the best of luck and please, stay strong! Don't let them get to you. I am sure you are a beautiful human being and you deserve much more than you have right now.
Should I forgive my dad for cheating on my mom?
It happened when I was 7, I am now 18 years old. I just realized this today though. This is how the story goes: My dad got with a girl from a bar or whatever YEARS ago and refused to break up with her. <-- this story was delivered to my mother on the phone from supposedly this girl's older brother. I am not sure if it is 100% true but my mother believes so. I have a gut feeling that this is true also. My mother & father are still married but live separately because he works in Korea. There's a higher chance for his success in korea than here so that's the way it's been since I was a little girl.. life is still the same when he visits any chance he gets. About 8 times a year, but would stay for several weeks. My mom has gradually moved on and only cares about me & my brother's life and future. But I have no idea what to make of my DAD right now.... I just feel so heartbroken. I've always thought guys were the same because of my past boyfriends but thought my father was different. I guess not? Oh & just to make the story brighter, this whole cheating incident happened when my beloved mother was pregnant with my baby brother in her stomach.
How do I forgive my mom for cheating on my dad?
My mom was my best friend up until about 8 months ago. She changed into a different person. I found out my mom cheated on my dad this weekend. She has been cheating on him for 2 months. Every time i see her I get angry and I feel like she betrayed my family. Should I forgive her? And if so how do I do that when I can't stand to be around her? My dad hasn't decided if he is divorcing her or not yet.