Should I forgive my dad for hitting me
My dad woke me up at 9 and asked me to do a favor. I said no, and I went back to sleep. He came back in a minute and I was still asleep so he went crazy. He picked up my pillows and kept pounding me from my head to my stomach so I started screaming and crying for help. My sister came and covered my body while my dad started beating her. I yelled "Get the f*ck out of my room" And he yelled I didnt even know what that meant and called me a b*tch. He left the room for a minute and I was shaking and crying and my sister shut and locked the room. He tried to come in again and started slamming the door but soon left. He hasn't been home all day except to get some food for my mom. He cut me fruit and offered it to me but I got up and left and cried. He's been really stressed because he's out of work and my mom says it's my fault for provoking him and that he needed to let out his anger. He's never hit me before but he slaps around my sister sometimes when she misses her curfew. Should I be more understanding or should I ignore him forever? Idk. Before this we were really really close.
How do I forgive my mom for cheating on my dad?
My mom was my best friend up until about 8 months ago. She changed into a different person. I found out my mom cheated on my dad this weekend. She has been cheating on him for 2 months. Every time i see her I get angry and I feel like she betrayed my family. Should I forgive her? And if so how do I do that when I can't stand to be around her? My dad hasn't decided if he is divorcing her or not yet.
Should I forgive my dad for cheating on my mom?
It happened when I was 7, I am now 18 years old. I just realized this today though. This is how the story goes: My dad got with a girl from a bar or whatever YEARS ago and refused to break up with her. <-- this story was delivered to my mother on the phone from supposedly this girl's older brother. I am not sure if it is 100% true but my mother believes so. I have a gut feeling that this is true also. My mother & father are still married but live separately because he works in Korea. There's a higher chance for his success in korea than here so that's the way it's been since I was a little girl.. life is still the same when he visits any chance he gets. About 8 times a year, but would stay for several weeks. My mom has gradually moved on and only cares about me & my brother's life and future. But I have no idea what to make of my DAD right now.... I just feel so heartbroken. I've always thought guys were the same because of my past boyfriends but thought my father was different. I guess not? Oh & just to make the story brighter, this whole cheating incident happened when my beloved mother was pregnant with my baby brother in her stomach.
Should I forgive my dad for molesting me?
So when I was younger my father molested me multiple times. I told my mom last year. Police got involved. And a bunch of things happened. Anyways I became suicidal after struggling with cutting for 5 years. I'm 15 now. But it really hard to get over it in general. I cant stop thinking about it. Everyone tells me I need to forgive him. But.. I don't think I want to. My mom was raped when she was a teen. She said she never forgave The guy who did that to her...But she wants me to forgive My dad...Why do I have to forgive him.. Just Because he's my dad? It's hard living with the person that did something that traumatizing to you. I just want an opinion on if how I'm feeling is normal? Should I forgive him? I don't know what to do.
How do I forgive my dad for cheating on my mom?
It isn't your place to forgive your dad. This is not about your marriage. It is about your parents’ marriage.Having a cheating parent is awful. I know from experience. I also know it has nothing to do with the children from the marriage. There really is nothing you can do to prevent your father from cheating. As you now know, your knowledge of his affair hasn't changed his behavior at all. That's because his cheating has nothing to do with you. All you can do is tell him how much you disapprove of his behavior. That won't change his behavior either, but at least you know you told him how you feel about it. You might add that letting his daughter find out about the infidelity was very stupid. He should at least have his shit together enough to keep it secret from you too. If he is this careless, he should expect your mother to figure it out too, if she hasn't already.Marital infidelity is an issue between the marriage partners. Nobody but them knows the truth of their marriage, not even their kids. It's best to let them work it out for themselves. I know you are worried for your mother, but you can't do anything for her but be understanding when your dad blows it badly enough that she finds out too.My sincere advice to you is this: start living your own life. Try not to let your parents’ drama suck up all the oxygen from your existence. You are 18 and have your whole life ahead of you, to gain experience of your own. Love your parents and help them if you can by being sympathetic to their pain. Don't let either one of them drag you into their troubles. You can't fix them, but they can certainly side track your emotions from your concerns to theirs. Take care of yourself!
Should I forgive my absent father?
OMG.I had to read it twice to make sure it wasn’t me who wrote this question. When I reach the end where it says ‘I’m a guy from Indonesia’, I was thinking for a while, “are you my brother?”Honestly, I don’t have answer for you.. Its been 15 years and still I’m painfully triggered if I think too much about my father. My dad is cunning, manipulative and he has had several affair and abandoning us with the excuse of, “so the children become independent.” (includes my mom, lol?)People would tell me, “it happened many years ago. Just get over it.. bla, bla bla…. *insert famous people quote here*”. They don’t know what and how it feels. They don’t know, and never will.Many people in my family and relatives say that me and my brother are rude, harsh and bad whenever we say the fact about our dad. Some even say, “yeah, he has a mistress and a daughter with that girl, so what?” or, “come on, he’s your own dad.” Love and respect goes both ways, but forgiveness come from within.Now I am living somewhere 15,000KM away, but still I can't cut with them emotionally. I am mentally healthier though. I used to be suicidal, did self harm, and took medications. Now I can survive without those aids.I guess we should just take our time, and focus on other beautiful stuff :)
Should I forgive my abusive father now that I am an adult?
I had a very abusive father as well. Emotionally and physically abused by him and almost a sexual abused.i have all the reasons to hate him and not to forgive him and no one can blamed me for that.I even prayed for his early death because I can't stand seeing him and living with him everyday.no one can understand pain I am feeling inside bcoz I am physically and emotionally drained.I ask God “why you gave me this kinda such father?I was too young and innocent to bare this pain?”then I decided to go live alone.i went very far from to find myself.but what I found was piece of mind.i didn't force myself to forgive him but God helps me to forgive what he did and what he had done to me.God did not let me carry my burdens aloneHealing your wounds will help you to forgive him.and only time can heal you from your suffering just trust and have faith in GodGod is always with you if you open your heart and let him in.