My 19 year old son ruined christmas?
my 19 yr old college son ruined christmas. we bought him a 650.00 laptop and he is saying that he wanted a mac notebook. i can not afford a mac notebook. he would not even be around the family yesterday. i am so fed up with his crap! this is the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. we are not wealthy but usually spend about 500-600 dollars on each of our kids for xmas. he says that I ruined christmas. i am at a complete loss. he was diagnosed with crohns disease when he was 14. his medication was changed about a year ago and he started to feel better.before that he just hung out at home. a year ago while being a senior in high school he started to smoke pot and hang around questionable kids. he did graduate barely and went off to college. we have gotten parent loans to help him in college. i have tried to give my children the opportunities that i never had. he does not appreciate anything i do. i know that i have babied him because of his illness. i do not know what to do. i am ready to kick his butt out. i want to return the gifts, but i am afraid that i may loose him forever. i am a mother that needs some help on how to deal with an ungrateful 19 year old. HELP
Opinion: Kids found Christmas presents...what would you do?
Ok I hid the presents and told the kids not to be snooping around. Especially because I didn't have time to wrap them until after finals week. My husband asked the kids what they were getting for xmas and they relayed everything that was in the hidden bags!!! I understand that kids will be kids, and they are under 10 years old, BUT this is the second year they have gone snooping for them. Last year it was my fault, I had them out where they could see them, this year though they were locked in my closet. I am a frustrated parent, I want to reward my kids for overall being great throughout the year (I'm not bragging, I had a lady that actually came up to me at dinner last night and tell me how good they were). However, I don't want to reward their current actions. What would you do?
Christmas gift for boyfriend's parents?
Okay, so I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months and I've gotten to know his family very well. I want to get everyone in his family a nice gift for Christmas and I already know what to get his sisters and brother but I want another opinion for his parents gift. I had a few ideas for his mom. She isn't hard to buy for but I wasn't sure what to get for his dad. So I was thinking getting them a $50 gift card to Olive Garden might be a good idea. That way they can have a nice night out and a good dinner together since they don't get to go out much and need a night out. I was thinking Olive Garden because its a nice enough restaurant without breaking the bank and I think $50 should cover Dinner, some drinks and desert (I looked at the menu and figure up about $45 so $50 to be on the safe side). So would a gift card to Olive Garden be a good gift? I know gift cards can be impersonal sometimes but if its so they can have a date night I think it would be personal enough and they do like Italian food. His mom is a vegetarian and they have some nice veggie options so she'll have good variety. Any thoughts?
What would you think of someone who doesn't celebrate Christmas at all and doesn't buy gifts or receive gifts?
Christmas is just what it says, Christian. Not everyone is Christian, and we honor all people and their religious beliefs, because we love them and respect them for all that they are and all that they wish to be.For others, Christmas might be a sad time, remembering past years with long lost family and friends. Now alone, the holidays can be a long and lonely time for some people.During this season, remember the neighbors or friends who are alone, and invite them to join us in celebration.Pack a meal and include a small gift just to let them know you care.For the family who has little, provide a dinner with a few treats added, so they know that they are loved.Christmas celebrated by some, is still a season for all. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Quanza, or simply, I love you.
My parents won't get me what I want for Christmas?
I'm 15 years old, and this christmas theres this game I want, and I've waned it for a long time. It's called skyrim. However, when my parents found out I wanted a game they said no. My mom said that I have too many games already, but with most of the games I play now; I've used my own money to buy. I don't want to sound like a spoiled kid or some ungrateful person, because I know theres people who don't even get gifts; but how can I find a way to convince my parents or really let them know that I want the game? I don't want to go to them and start complaining about it because that'll make me sound and look like a spoiled ungrateful person. I suspect that my parents are getting me a tuxedo because of a few hints I noticed, or atleast some time of nice looking clothes. But I know I'll be getting clothes from my other family members/relatives. So if you have any ideas on how I can let my parents know that this is what I want for christmas, please share those ideas!
Is giving money for Christmas kind of thoughtless?
Well you are thinking about the person in the mere fact that you are wanting to give them something. I would then think it is not thoughtless. However money is really impersonal in my opinion. Unless they are saving for something big then perhaps say that this is to go towards there purchase of "XXXXXX". If this is the standard in your family it just really shows that you really don't know each other and don't take the time. Christmas to me is about family and friends and touching peoples hearts. The exchange of gifts is to show someone you care about them and are thinking about them. If you are giving money it does make a statement of "I didn't make the time to think about you....I don't know you that well to shop for you" I do think it's funny the exchange of money that has occured in your family. That would be so weird but I have different expectations with my family. It's like your sister made $5 on Christmas (lol) If you dont' know what to get them. Make the effort to find out by talking to the closest people or go with a generic gift like movie tickets. Better yet tell them that you are taking them to a movie of their choice complete with popcorn. Gift cards are like money but in some cases for an experience gift that is what you have to do. Tickets for a game, movie, concert or dinner out! There is nothing better then buying someone a gift that you know they are going to love! It makes a connection with a person. I have a knack of listening to people and what they like. It's not usually what you spend but the thought. I once heard my brother in law say he would love to read this book. I wrote it down and when his birthday came I bought it for him. When he opened the gift up he was so happy and was also shocked (as well as my sister) at the same time. He lives in a different country so we don't see each other that often that I would really know his likes or dislikes. It just shows that you listen to a person when they speak and you care about them. Just be a good listener and you will know what to get someone. Good luck with that one.
My parents say we dont have enough money for christmas presents?
sooo about a month ago we got a brand new dish washer. my step sister just moved into a new house so she needs furniture so were giving her our old fridge and buying us a new one..well we already ordered it like last week. also we just bought a brand new compter&monitor for my mom. i know we spent alot of money on all that and i dont think we even needed it...and now my mom says we dont have any money for christmas presents (for me)) and last night my other step sis calls us and asks my step dad to order something for her on the internet (cause she lives infrance and i guess they dont have it there??) and im just like, wtf. everyone gets something but not me? (i didnt actually say that) but its not fair at all! and it makes me very sad. and i know chritmas is about Jesus Christ and im gonna celebrate His birthday but still.....what are your opinions?? btw im 14 if that helps..