Should I just say #### it and come out over Facebook?
Hello there, im 17 gay and depressed as can be. I'm sick of pretending to be straight, feeling so lonely when all my friends around me are happily dating. I feel as though im dying from the inside and wonder why shouldn't i just say #### it and make a post over facebook. I would come out in person but every time I try I get an anxiety attack and back out. I'm not even sure why I'm scared anymore, my mom, bestfriend, and 1 of my sisters already know. Im sure not many people would even care, but for some reason, I still get anxious over talking about something I've kept to myself for so long. I'm tired of feeling so hollow to the core. I don't even care if I'm gay anymore. I just want someone I can hold and be happy with. I've stopped caring for school anymore because I can't sleep at night. I don't even enjoy running anymore. Don't mean to sound so depressing but this is how I truly feel. I just need to get my thoughts out there. So what do you all think? Should I just say #### it and come out over Facebook? Feel free to share any personal experiences if you wish.
She said " I dont know what to say". should I just wait? Did I screw up?
OP, that's odd. You both dated for several months, yet she got all shocked when you told her you liked her and wanted to be more serious?Are you sure she *knew* you both were dating romantically...and that you both weren't just 'hanging out' casually as friends?Her reaction seems to suggest that she apparently did not see you in a romantic light, and obviously she had not given any thought to where this relationship was going. I don't think you screwed up, but somehow you both miscommunicated or you both just never got on the same page, despite all these 'dates.'It seems that she and you are on completely different pages...to the point of being in two totally different books. Your book is titled "Dating, Romance, and Love" and hers seems to be titled "Just Having Fun with a Friend, Nothing More."You *could* wait a week or two...and then bring it up again. See how she reacts. If she continues to show anxiety or indecision, then it's not a good sign. You may have to let her go, especially if it becomes obvious that she only thought of you as a platonic friend.EDIT: I just read one of your comments where you said that you asked her to marry you, which changes things entirely. I now understand her reaction. Naturally I would be shocked too, if a guy wanted to marry me after just a couple of months' dating. Marriage is a big step for anyone, even after a couple of months of dating. You may have brought up the M-word too soon. You could try telling her that the subject of marriage is off the table and you both don't have to think or worry about it and that you're willing to take your time. But be prepared: she may feel uncomfortable continuing to date you, knowing that you feel this way. Then again...who knows.
Should I just say I'm a lesbian?
nicely, you of course have not met me and my lady buddy ;) i think of you're in simple terms specializing in butch lesbians who are not defined or recognized as particularly - and you're actually not branching out and thinking that the gorgeous lady jogging next to you on the line must be gay. Get exterior of that lesbian butch container and comprehend that any you would be gay. I the line to looking your existence better half is complicated for each individual. I recommend, valuable, people locate them quicker in existence and then some later so the time is diverse, however the line is a similar in my view. at some point, all of a sudden, somebody will arise and you will sense it. you will comprehend. you may on no account be valuable of whilst. I met my lady buddy (i won't be ready to stand the notice better half) by my former roommate who truthfully had a weigh down on her first. She had long brown hair, brown eyes, tanned skin, great hands and a butt on her. It grew to become into each and every little thing i grew to become into searching for bodily and as quickly as I regarded into her eyes it grew to become into each and every little thing i grew to become into searching for emotionally. I had a woman buddy on the time who I wasn't so into and approximately 2 weeks later I went after the girl I knew I might desire to be with. it particularly is been a 300 and sixty 5 days now and my determination grew to become into the ideal one among my existence so a great way! good success on your seek. persistence is best.
Should I just say hi to him? Is that really all it takes?
Hey, I'm 14 too so I so know how you feel.. have similar situation i worked out.. okay maybe i can explain this by explaining my own. i liked this guy so much but i didnnt know him. so, i kinda started hanging out w/ his friends tht were girls tht i liked more, and then did like casual convos w/ him for awhile. that was september. now, im his best friend =) and im expecting more will come soon.. so to answer ur question, i think yes u should talk to him. broach the subject on the topicws u know he likes, or find out more abt the stuff he likes and talk to him abt it. tell him u like it, etc... but w/out him knowing u kow he does too. dont tell him how u feel RIGHT away cuz that might freak him out. but, do talk to him, make friends or aquaintances at least. =] peacee
I think I hate my wife. Should I just say screw it and go for a divorce?
Oh please PLEASE DO! Because if you truly do hate her you will eventually make her life a living hell. You will become resentful, she will become a victim of your hatred. Please, do this now, leave, leave now. Believe me when I say your wife already knows how you feel. And you will be doing a favor for yourself as well. Nobody wants to live with someone they hate. And no one wants to live with someone who hates them. The kindest thing that you can do right now is to put an end to the marriage before someone is hurt seriously, physically or otherwise.I can’t tell you what is right for your relationship but I can tell you the best thing I ever did was listen to these two: Save My Marriage TodayI would first ask her what she thinks of you. Depending on the answer, yes, or perhaps listen to the advice she gives you as an opportunity to grow. Just be honest in the way you depart. Because without integrity, nothing works.You leave a lot out here. I have been married 30 years to the same woman. Yes sometimes that feeling is not there for me, but marriage is more, I committed myself to love, honor and cherish her, bailing over a fleeting feeling is stupid. You owe it to both of you to sit down and work out what’s really going on, then fix it.
Should I just say that I'm gay because I'm mostly attracted to guys?
This is one of those things where all of us sexual people need to realize that the asexuals figured out a lot of shit that is actually relevant to us. Namely, they came up with a sexuality model that I believe is called the split-attraction model.Basically, the model is that there’s lots of ways of being attracted to somebody: romantic attraction, sexual attraction, aesthetic attraction, etc. Just because you’re attracted to someone in one way (say, romantically) doesn’t necessarily mean you’re attracted to them the other ways (sexually, aesthetically, etc.)So, for example, if you’re romantically interested in women but not sexually (which I’m not sure if that’s what you mean), you could identify as something like: biromantic homosexual.You can read more about this here: When Sex and Romance Do Not Mix: A Post on Mixed Orientation SexualityYou seem to be trying to simplify your label, not lengthen it, but I thought there might be a grain of knowledge in this idea that might help you understand yourself.You can, of course, refer to yourself as gay, if you want to. No one is stopping you. As I’m sure you know, identifying as bisexual in the gay realm doesn’t make you super popular. Lots of other bisexual and biromantic people have identified as “gays and lesbians” in order to avoid bigoted questions or to be seen as more desirable or to just not rock the boat. That’s okay to do. Gay people have been doing it in straight society forever, why not take their tactics?But I hope that you can find people that you can be open with about all the parts of your identity, even the ones that aren’t desirable in gay circles.
Should I reply to emails just to say thanks?
Yes when knowing that their email helped you and you are grateful is likely to be useful to the recipient.My PhD advisor tends to reply just “Thanks!” almost all the time (he has excessively good manners…). It’s useful when I need a confirmation that he read my email and finds it helpful. It’s weird, even annoying when I don’t think anything in my email deserved thanking, or when my emails accumulated so he sends me 3–4 thanks briefly one after the other. And it makes me worry when I don’t receive a thanks (for something I think deserves it) from him for an unusually long time. In any case it’s still better than overusing sorry, which he also tends to do (though notably less than he used to… he’s learning).
Should I just say thank you to professor's reply?
Should I just say thank you to professor's reply? Hi, I contacted a professor about the possibility to work with him and the details of the project work. He replied me with the details of the project. Now, how should I reply him? Should I just say, "thank you for the response"? What is the proper way to reply to professor's email in this situation? Thank you
Should i write a love letter or just say it to her in person?
being a Muslim doesn't mean that your not allowed to date and go out and "stuff." Thats completely wrong. Nowhere in Islam (being a Muslim) does it say that you can't date or have a boyfriend. What you are getting mixed up with is culture and religion. Perhaps in her culture it is looked down upon when you have relationships that do not led to direct marriage. It really depends on her and her family. So your wrong to think that just because she's Muslim she can't date you. Plenty of Muslim girls go clubbing and have a good time with guys so don't create false ideals. It matters on her. As far as the letter or in person goes, the in person attempt is great if you have a clue that she likes you back. If not, be ready for some awkwardness because she won't know what to say to you. Its awesome that you want to do this for her even though you think that she won't go for you (which may not be true), but anyway, go for a letter if you feel that way. If you write a letter ( it does not look chicken because its takes guts for a guy to write a letter) then do it. But if you think she likes you back you should confront her.