My girlfriend asked me to let her go. What should I do?
Let her go. BUT, you let her know that once you do let her go, you won’t be coming back. It’s done and at her request, so there is no coming back. And do you want to know why you tell her that? Because if you don’t, she will come back……and leave. And come back, and leave. You will become a convenience. An ego-booster in between other future relationships. Set the boundaries now. If she wants you to let her go with no valid reason or explanation or even a way to fix whatever the problem might be to avoid a break-up, my opinion is let her go!Listen, it’s pretty sad when someone that you care about or are in a relationship with wants you to let them go but it’s just their cowardly way of telling you that they are no longer interested in continuing the “seriousness” of the relationship. And they want you to do what they can’t. They want you to end it so they don’t have to explain why or verbally speak the words that might hurt you or cause you pain. They don’t want to deal with the guilt if you get hurt. So if you do what she wants and leave her and you don’t tell her that you won’t be coming back, you will be receiving a phone call from her within a month, if not sooner. And if you accept the call? You will officially be starting what is commonly known as the on-again-off-again relationship that will drive you nuts for as long as you are in it.Save yourself the heartache ok? Please. If you don’t believe me, maybe she’s different, then try it. Let her go and don’t tell her you won’t be coming back. Just say ok, wave goodbye and wait. What are you going to do if she calls you, though? Because unless you are serious about leaving her, she will call because you won’t change your number. Whatever you choose to do, the minute you get that gut-feeling in your stomach or red flag in your mind (that you will try to ignore) or the light bulb over your head, stop. And remember this, too. No one is going to admit what they’re doing or that they’re playing you, ok? I only wish it was that easy. I just hate to see good people go blind and get hurt. Ok? I really do hope that you don’t.
Should I contact her or let her go?
This woman was a game changer in my life. I could even go as far as to say that meeting her was like a defining point in my life where things were never the same after. Our contact and interest was short lived but we shared more with each other than most people share after years of dating. I always knew I had feelings for her but wondered if her feelings for me were real or if she was just caught in the moment and liked the attention I was giving her. So I kept my feelings to myself. She ended up telling me that she had feelings for me and she told me in such a way that I knew she was serious. I have had some brutal heartbreaks in the past and I didn't feel ready to take on the chance of another one so I told her the feelings weren't mutual but that she was a great friend. She blocked me and never contacted me again and that was 9 months ago. I think I made a huge mistake. Should I contact her and let her know how I really feel or should I let her go?
Why can't I just let her go?
Oh dear dear dear! I've so been there before, I'm sorry to say :( especially doing anything and everything for someone. First of all, you need to somehow figure out if she does like you back (I'm not sure if you already know this, but if so, skip this part). If she DOES like you back but her mom is in the way, than you should probably be a little understanding. Depending on how old you are, parents opinions can matter a lot. At the same time, maybe you could keep the relationship secert, which isn't such a great idea, but I am such an advocate for being with someone if you love them and they love you. If she DOES like you but is confused, than be there to help her sort out her feelings. Being gay can be tough, from experience I know, so having someone there to sort feelings out with is a huge help. If she doesn't like you, she shouldn't be telling you not to let go. That's slefish of her! I know that doing things fro her makes you feel good, but it's eventually going to take a bad toll on you. It's very very hard, but you cannot let people take advantage of you like that. She may just want to feel loved even though she can't love you back, ya know? If it comes to being her friend just won't work, then do what's best for you. Make YOU your first priority. If you think it would help you get over her to not talk to her, then don't talk to her. Letting go is hard and usually unneccesary.
Should i let my girlfriend go to a party?
Should i let my girlfriend go to a party? we've been going out for about 8 monthes now, she a freshman in highschool, and im a junior in a another highschool, but i live like 10-15 minutes away from her. But she wants to go to this party this weekend, were she told me that shes going to be drinking and theres going to be other older guys there. I told her she could go, as long as i could come also, but she doesnt want me to come with her. She says im controlling her life and she just wants to hang out with her freinds some times. i think that shes just overreacting though, becuz she hangs out with her freinds during the week, but me and her hang out on the weekend, and i told her she could go as long as i can come, becuase i dont know if I trust her when shes drunk. I wouldnt mind her hanging out with her freinds at all, i just hate that she has to go get drunk, and not want me to come, and shes really mad at me know for not wanting her to go.....what should i do?
My 16 year old daughter keeps sneaking out her bedroom window?
I was a wild child when I was younger. So the advice I give you is because I've been where your daughter is at now. I'm mature now, I'm a successful young woman in the medical field. Every child deserves love. First of all, don't beat her, it will accomplish nothing. It sounds like she's got serious emotional problems that she's not resolving in a constructive way, but that's because she's young. That's not an excuse, don't get me wrong. She doesn't know how to deal with things. I'm almost 150% sure she's having sex, getting into drugs, stealing, whatever. But remember you are her parent. It is your responsibility to (I'm going to sound like the Dog Whisperer on the National Geographic Channel) set rules, boudaries and limitations. You say you do and you probably try, but if she's still stepping all over you, you are not doing it effectively. Get your daughter away from her peers that are influencing her. Get control. If you know she's sneaking out and doing drugs, let her. Call the cops on her and let her find out the hard way what life is like on the wrong side of the tracks. Don't bail her out. It'll hurt you, but it will be an invaluable learning tool for her. There are places that take in troubled teens and work on getting them straight. Some police stations even have workshops where teenagers live the life of a prisoner behind bars for some time and prisoners there drill them and scare them straight. Look online for places like that in your area. I don't know what else to tell you right now, I feel like I'm writing a book, but good luck.