My boyfriend says he loves me to death but will not marry me because he has been hurt, should i wait?
I am a young muslim women who wishes to marry while im young. I fell in love with a great man and he is so perfect, the only proble is he was hurt/cheated, lied to and his heart was murdered by his crazy ex wife. He tells me to find someone to marry while im young and he will help me but he confessed he doesnt want to see me with someone else but he wants me to be happy. I know he needs a lot of time, will he ever recover? he swears he trust me and loves me like he never loved before. we split up because of this, i do not know if to tell him to look for counceling, leave him to scare him and make him fight for me or move on to someone new. I love this man!!! i am willing to do anything to make it work. i do not know what to do :(
What would you do if an astrologer said, "If you marry this girl you love she'll die somehow, so the horoscope says." Both the girl and you feel like you were made for each other, what will you do?
Well I was told that things would go horribly wrong if I marry the girl i loved (who is now my wife) because she was badly manglik.Well I am a Physics person and I love to experiment.During my childhood days my mother would extract truth from me by saying “meri kasam kha ke bol. agar jhooth bola to main mar jaungi” (Take an oath on me and speak out. If you lie i will die). I would blurt out the truth out of the fear of losing her and she would eventually thrash me after knowing the things. I was so frustrated out of this entire stuff that one day i decided to lie under oath. And viola!!! she is still alive. I have spoken hundreds of thousands of lies under oath just to see if it effects her. Nope. Nothing. Nada.Buddy same goes with astrology. Listen to the astrologers but with a pinch of salt. What seems good for your life, take it and throw the rest in a gutter.And as for these manglik things are concerned it is what i call as EKTA KAPOOR effect. Its pure bullshit. I simply dont believe it. and i am a living example of IT SIMPLY DOESN’T WORK.So go ahead and live your life based on the effect of KARMA. Not on what some astrologer has to say.
Marrying dead husband's brother?
Its not wrong. Its been 5 years. While I'm sure she is not trying to replace her husband, is it so surprising that her deceased husband's brother would have many of the same positive characteristics that attracted her to her husband? Perhaps similar morals, values, experiences? I'm sure she dosn't view him as a substitiute, she'd know both of them better then anyone in the world, and I'm sure the subtle differances between them are very obvious to her. But on broad, critical things, she might find the same things. As for the child, I imagine that it might actually be easier for this man to raise the child, since he was allready the child's uncle. Furthermore, they both shared the loss of someone they both loved, and that probable impacts both of them in ways that others may find hard to understand. It is probably comfortable that they can talk about the first husband/brother without it wierding out the other person, if you know what I mean? I'm sure some things will be wierd for them at first, but at least I guess it will be wierd for both of them together, and they'll get through it together. They've both suffered, and I hope they can find love and joy together for many years. EDIT: Interesting how many people have known for this to happen in their extended families. Perhaps it is quite common? A family suffers a loss, the siblings of the deceased spend a great deal of time helping the widow and the niece/nephews, they have now shared a common experience, become involved in each other's day to day lives, and as I noted, probably share many of the same characteristics that brought the original couple together. Human beings are built to fall in love! When there are shared values, shared experiences, open emotions, and opportunity, it is not so odd for love to spring up.