Should I stay with my mom or move with my dad?
Okay, this is it. My parents got a divorce about two years ago. Before that...they had been together all my life. I'm 13...turning 14 on May 8th. (soon). I currently live in Washington, in the house ive grown up in (that i love) with my mom. While my dad moved to California with his *high school sweetheart* When my parents got a divorce. I go down to California to visit on major holidays...(christmas/summer/etc.) My mom has drinking/smoking problems. And really doesn't understand me..as a growing teenager. She also doesn't trust me really and treats me like a little kid. I love my mom dearly believe me. Another thing is my dad also drinks, and so does my step mom. Some more facts: My dad and step mom have more money available to help me with my needs where as my mom is barely scraping along with the bills. Me and my dad have been talking on the phone about me coming to live there. And my dad finally broke it to my mom that we have been thinking about moving me down there because of the better living situation..and way better school. (I currently live in one of the world's smallest towns :P) *about 1,000 people* And after my dad told my mom she has been crying and making me feel bad all day. Trying to make me promise that I wont "leave her". But I don't know what to decide! Plus, I don't want to hurt all of my friends..or the guy I like a lot (who also likes me back) Hes really nice...and I know that a boy shouldn't hold me back but it just makes me wonder what would happen if I stayed and I became his girlfriend? I'm more mature than most people my age...please don't say im too young to have a boyfriend thank you. This is a huge decision for me...and it would basically effect my whole life. Because the schooling down there would also help where I can go (career) in life. Please help me! This hurts me very much to chose and I just don't know what to do without hurting anyone! P.S. I'm in 8th grade and I need to know this decision before I go to high school..because I would like to start the new school as a freshman. Another thing is if I left my mom said she would sell this house that I grew up in :( and I would never get to see it again even when i come up to visit :( and I love this house! She also said she would get an apartment and she would have to get rid of or put down my puppy:( My puppy is my baby and I love her:'( Help! -Me
Should i stay with my mom or move in with my dad?
okay so... i am 13 my parents have been divorced since i was 2 and my mom recently just got remarried and i had to move in the middle of 7th grade the past six months have been hell my mother has been getting on my last nerves so has my step dad all that me and my mom have done these past six months is argue , but lately i have been thinking about moving in with my dad but i don"t want to leave my mom because i love her way too much . my mom has been thinking of moving to VA which is the same state my dad lives in so i could be closer to him .i just found of that out of the blue my father is trying to get custody of me because he thinks that i m not in a stable enviorment and that my mothers doesn't let me spend time with him or let him see me with is all not true but thats what he is telling his lawyer... i asked my mom what she would do if i went and lived with my dad and she said she would be sad which breaks my heart..... i really don't know what is best for me my mom does every thing for me and she provides me with so much and cares for me but the arguing has gotten out of hand . I am gonna try and stay with my dad over the summer and see what its like and if i like living there and go back with my mom during the school year and if the arguing and drama is as bad as is was last year than i will try living with him during my 9th grade year and if things work out...... i just really need some advice
Should i move out of my dads house?
Hi Lexi, sounds like life has thrown you under the bus and I am so sorry to hear about this negligent "father". I don't understand how a dad could treat his daughter like this and for so many years. My daughter and I do everything together and that is how it should be (we are still a family tho so that makes it better too). Moving out is a really hard thing to do and the two choices you have mentioned are not going to be ideal, far from it. Living with another set of parents requires all kinds of adjustments including the fact that sexual temptation with your boyfriend will be a big challenge and his parents may not appreciate sex in their home. A foster home means living with strangers and trying to figure out all the do and don'ts and getting into a foster home for older teens is kinda hard. There is also the risk that you will be abused, but that could happen at your boyfriend's home too (and what happens if the boyfriend thing fails, then where do you go?). My advice is not to move out, but to see if you can establish a working relationship with the stepmom and her daughter, that might turn out better than you think and if she treats you respectfully, might rub off on your dad???
I'm 21 and want to move out of my dads, but I feel stuck because he a narcissist and toxic. What should I do?
You are not your father. You are you and he is what he is. You must love yourself and you should make decisions on that understanding. When you find someone you love and want to share yourself with don’t forget. You will need to be strong and sturdy and that will be because you lived and loved for yourself and made yourself strong for this new true love that you will someday meet. In doing that you can share yourself with someone worth your gift.Your fathers time has come and gone. If he were in a clear state of mind he would want you to be everything that’s good in human beings and that you deserve everything good in life becuase that’s how children should be loved.
Should I move to my dad's house?
First, let me congratulate you on looking out for youself in a difficult situation. You show maturity beyond your age.Knowing little background of what is happening, it sounds like the idea has merit, but it seems there are other things at play here…Your mother isn't starving and you have a place to live, so it doesn't seem like she is spending everything on gambling, could she be providing a base level of support for you?If your mother hasn't been able to provide for you since age 11, how come your father doesn’t have custody?I suggest you have a conversation with your father about the situation, and your desire to stay with him. There could be important practical and/or legal consequences to this action that have to be taken into account.Best of luck!
How do I make my dad move out of my house?
How we do know it is your house .you look quite younge secondly if he signed over the house to you. you are leagaly obligated to look after him for the rest of his life .on saying why are you so hell bent in getting rid of him you will have to mow the lawn fix the windows fix the gutters and clean the gutters fix the floor boards and the weather boards outside paint the house shovel the snow light the fire make the meals clean the house buy your own clothes make or grow your own food fix the car if your father is an alcoholic or a drug addict send him to rehab if he is hurting you in any way not just making normal rules like most parents do for our kids then send him for a short stay or a long one if a holiday cutesy or our majesty as the British would say jail in other words I f he has alzymers or medical problems get midic aid or contact a social worker to have them assess him but beware they may assess you as well and you may be charged and also find your self in foster care for my self I try to put limitations and keep social workers to a minimum good luck if he is beating you or your mum contact the police if he is raping punching or hitting you to need to call the police and have him removed if he has killed your animals or ripped up what is precious this to is emotional abuse contact again the police if it is alzymers they can be put into a home . if its alcoholism contact a doctor as and as nurse if he just unemployed you find him a job and you find safe housing with housing first which is an organisation which works with homelessness do you seriously want your father to die of hyperthermia on the street there must of been a time when he was nice remember the good times also have him seen by a phsychiactrist to see if he has some mitigating factors that making him unable to control please don't throw your father away because your going through issues that can be related here is something you may not know all teenagers hate their parents all children long to be left alone and want there parent to leaves and when they finally do they wish they were still with them . its human nature this is how the species of the human grows up. .
My Dad's moving away, how to cope?
My dad's moving next month, and i don't think i'm going to be able to handle it very well..i'm so close to him and he is already divorced from my mum, so i only get to see him once a week i saw him on saturday and its only wednesday and i miss him so much already :( don't know how i'm going to last 8 months...has anyone else had a closeone move away? and btw he's moving to the other side of the world, literally so it wont be easy to see him often, how do i deal with this? it's going to be so hard :(
What can I do? My dad is abusive, I'm 22, I want to move out of the house but I can't work, I have many mental disorders
Thank you for the A2A.I am so sad to read about your living situation. I understand that you can't stay in an abusive situation, but a shelter or group living situation is a bad fit too. The advice in the other answers is sound. The resources available vary greatly depending on where you live.One, rather limited source of local referrals, is the United Way switchboard available in most communities. However, they only refer to government agencies and organizations that receive United Way funds. This is likely to overlook smaller organizations or peer-led assistance. In my area, Adult Protective Services only helps disabled people if they're under conservatorship. If your father is your legal guardian, they can help you get out of that situation. If you're legally independent, merely having a disability won't qualify you for their help in California. Other states may be different, but brace yourself in case you're in the same situation I am.Edited after reading comment.It sounds like you believe (and probably correctly) that a lot of your symptoms are just a reaction to your living situation. I understand about disability payments (I'm guessing SSI) being so much less than you need to live on your own.Have you contacted your person at Social Security to see if your benefits would be higher if you lived on your own?
When is the best time to move out of my dad’s house? I’m 18 and qualified to do so, just fearful of disappointing my father. For more information, view the comment section.
My dad and I live in a one room apartment. I often sleep in the room and we take turns depending on eatchother schedule. This is my first time moving to his own place sense my mother died in 2011. I’ve lived with other caregivers until my 18 birthday (July 2017) He is on dissability and I’m working. I find it hard to live with him because he has extreme OCD and is a recovered addict of pain killers/alcoholism. He is my father I love him, but I barely know him. He’s constantly negative/ moody and lives within that apartment sitting around. I feel tension in the air and it doesn’t help not having my own space. I am glad I finally can live where I have always belonged but I am dealing with a constant urge of independence. I am starting college In the fall of this year with no money. I’m relying on fasfa and grants and I’m just hoping I can get enough. My social security hasn’t ended even though I’m 18. My previous care givers didn’t save my money. So I only have 700$ because my dad uses it for bills even though it’s in my name because he doesn’t work. I tell him that it would help if he didn’t use it so I can use it for college and have atleast 3,000$ by graduation but he insists on bills to be used for it. I recently talked to my grandma about the possibility of moving out after grad and fearful for my dads reaction sense the original plan was to go with my boyfriend but we chose as a couple to wait on that. I could stay at my dads but I can’t stand the negativity, laziness. Limited space and being controlled. He is doing it out of protection I know, but I’m a big girl and I have dreams to fulfill. My grandma and grandpa are teaching me how to drive, and letting me stay for free while I go to college so when I work… I can pay off fasfa, books and additional food. I feel it may be better but I don’t know how to fight my codependcy. Everyone makes it sound easy just t leave, but what would my dad do without this money? Or without me? I love him too much to leave, but I’m aware it is time.