Should I stay with my mom or move with my dad?
Okay, this is it. My parents got a divorce about two years ago. Before that...they had been together all my life. I'm 13...turning 14 on May 8th. (soon). I currently live in Washington, in the house ive grown up in (that i love) with my mom. While my dad moved to California with his *high school sweetheart* When my parents got a divorce. I go down to California to visit on major holidays...(christmas/summer/etc.) My mom has drinking/smoking problems. And really doesn't understand me..as a growing teenager. She also doesn't trust me really and treats me like a little kid. I love my mom dearly believe me. Another thing is my dad also drinks, and so does my step mom. Some more facts: My dad and step mom have more money available to help me with my needs where as my mom is barely scraping along with the bills. Me and my dad have been talking on the phone about me coming to live there. And my dad finally broke it to my mom that we have been thinking about moving me down there because of the better living situation..and way better school. (I currently live in one of the world's smallest towns :P) *about 1,000 people* And after my dad told my mom she has been crying and making me feel bad all day. Trying to make me promise that I wont "leave her". But I don't know what to decide! Plus, I don't want to hurt all of my friends..or the guy I like a lot (who also likes me back) Hes really nice...and I know that a boy shouldn't hold me back but it just makes me wonder what would happen if I stayed and I became his girlfriend? I'm more mature than most people my age...please don't say im too young to have a boyfriend thank you. This is a huge decision for me...and it would basically effect my whole life. Because the schooling down there would also help where I can go (career) in life. Please help me! This hurts me very much to chose and I just don't know what to do without hurting anyone! P.S. I'm in 8th grade and I need to know this decision before I go to high school..because I would like to start the new school as a freshman. Another thing is if I left my mom said she would sell this house that I grew up in :( and I would never get to see it again even when i come up to visit :( and I love this house! She also said she would get an apartment and she would have to get rid of or put down my puppy:( My puppy is my baby and I love her:'( Help! -Me
Should i live with my mom or dad?
You're facing a tough situation. You mentioned that you are close to your mother however, you must to choose the right environment that will be healthy for you and not cause any unnecessary stress to yourself or you mother (if you choose to go with her) because of her new boyfriend. Base your decision on which parent will give you the most structure and the healthiest environment and you wont go wrong with your decision. Follow your mind and not your heart on this one and take your time. Good luck!
Should I live with my mom or dad?
go with mom. dad's are usually the more fun ones but lack the motherly advice and motherly bullshit. plus you said she's getting a new fiance who sounds like he could fill the fun void that mothers usually lack. with your father ; from what it sounds like his spouse is gonna be getting very worked up over this special treatment that could lead to some really bad drama. with the whole college thing see if her fiance is more supportive of your dreams. he should be able to talk her down. you said that you just met your friends so it shouldn't be that bad. but that's my opinion. follow your heart
Should i stay with my mom or move in with my dad?
okay so... i am 13 my parents have been divorced since i was 2 and my mom recently just got remarried and i had to move in the middle of 7th grade the past six months have been hell my mother has been getting on my last nerves so has my step dad all that me and my mom have done these past six months is argue , but lately i have been thinking about moving in with my dad but i don"t want to leave my mom because i love her way too much . my mom has been thinking of moving to VA which is the same state my dad lives in so i could be closer to him .i just found of that out of the blue my father is trying to get custody of me because he thinks that i m not in a stable enviorment and that my mothers doesn't let me spend time with him or let him see me with is all not true but thats what he is telling his lawyer... i asked my mom what she would do if i went and lived with my dad and she said she would be sad which breaks my heart..... i really don't know what is best for me my mom does every thing for me and she provides me with so much and cares for me but the arguing has gotten out of hand . I am gonna try and stay with my dad over the summer and see what its like and if i like living there and go back with my mom during the school year and if the arguing and drama is as bad as is was last year than i will try living with him during my 9th grade year and if things work out...... i just really need some advice
Should I leave my mom's house and move in with my dad?
It’s not good for your self-esteem, or self-confidence to be in an abusive home; leave when you can.Tip: people can usually get to where they need to go, faster than they initially believe.Question: you are 18, legal; have you considered moving out on your own? Renting a room, take public transportation, keeping your expenses very low?You can still go to college, pursue an extra curricular activity, while working. Life is give and take, choices, and you create the ambiance of life that you want, once you are on your own.About your dad: you don’t live with him. You say he is an alcoholic. There is much more going on with him, and his life, than what you have ever seen so far. You will be negatively affected with your father too.Going from one bad place, to another bad place, (even if less bad), is not the thing to do.You are legally an adult, so you have every choice in the world available to you now; so plan a financial budget for the necessities of life, figure out how many hours a week you need to work at minimum, while at a lower paying job. Figure out what you need, and want out of life. Go after it.You create how you want yourself, and your life to be. Always remember that.You are capable. Work hard. Work smart.
Help me!!! my mom never believes me. should i move with my dad?my mom never gives me space and thnks the worst
Your mom cares a lot bout you. Its not always that she's fair and justified in the way she does and your concern is justified. Moving to your fathers place wont solve the problem. It might be a temporary break but there will certainly be other issues that will disturb you out there. I'd rather suggest talk it our with your mother. tell her you dont want to dissapoint her nor lie to her, at the same time you need your own space. Also make her feel that you love her and care for her. Very often we don't express what we feel. But expression is sometimes important; very important. You mom's not staying with her husband. She needs your love and support more than anyone else. Once in a while bring her a gift - a bunch of flowers, a card or something thats favourite to her. It will work wonders. And dont forget to wish her on Mother;s Day ( 13th May) you can send her a surprise greeting card or a bunch of flowers. Check out these sites for gifts and flowers - http://www.1stinflowers.com/mdarr.html http://ww21.1800flowers.com/channel.do?channel=10000&cm_cid=whc%23 Also you can check out some free e-cards at http://www.123greetings.com/events/mothers_day/
I want to move back in with my mom :(?
Ok so I have lived with my mom my whole life and always wondered whats it's like to live with my dad .. Him and his girlfriend recently bought a new house in a new area ... I told my mom I wanted to live with my dad and gave her reasons and she said ok .. She met up with my dad a few times and discussed it and they realized I SHOULD move there .. I was happy but the day it happened I didn't want to do it anymore . My mom drove me there and she cried and when she left I hid in the basement and cried I want to move back home so bad ! By the way if I stay here I have to go to a new school .. I want my friends back and I want to stay at my school and go to high school with everybody and live with my mom and my dogs also I have to cell my geckos because my dad doesn't want them here .. I told my dad I want to live back home and he said I can whatever makes me happy but my mom won't let me come back :( how do I persuade her into letting me live back home? (She doesn't want me to live back because its "best for me here"
My mom is moving, but I refuse to live with my dad. What are my options?
Honestly, the correct answer is to move with your mom.It sucks to lose your friends. But it's more important to have food and basic necessities. Unless you have another trusted adult - a grandma, teacher, your friends’ parents who can help you and take care of you, you don't have many viable options.You are almost an adult and you can always return to Minnesota if you wish. For now, talk to your mother about your concerns and see if you can work something out - perhaps you would only live with her for a couple of years and then return to go to college.Also, if you have an amazing skill or talent and can figure out how to make money online - this would make things much easier for you.
Should I move to my dad’s because he gives me more freedom and I have a bad relationship with my mom?
YesAnd then when you're by your mom make sure you let her know how good at the time you had by your dad's I mean tell her it was really good that way you put the ball in the motion you either hate each other because she gets discussed it and takes it like that or she starts to compete for your love which in turn brings maybe gifts and more freedoms but I'm not one of those type of people that pray or manipulate my parents but aren't we all lol because usually in situations like that you find yourself in the middle of stuff you didn't want to be in the middle of and that's just kind of a payment for them putting you in the middle and play in the back and forth and not taking tcare of their shit because they tookvows and now they have to deal with the consequence of breaking those vows. People need to stop getting married cuz they think they have to or that they have to buy a certain time anyone out there that reads this there's a million dating sites prostitute bars but I mean seriously it at night ten years ago when I was single there was no Tinder, not to my knowledge anyway there certainly wasn't farmersonly.com and all these other Christian mangoes and whatever I mean now there's a website for every type of person there is out there so I mean if you get sick of the people that you're usually Ben Tate you know just going to farmersonly.com if you're even if you're not a farmer
Should I move out even though my mom hates my dad?
What IS your position that you feel you are part of their issues? Is your father abusive? Is there a chance for violence? OR, are you moving in WITH your dad? (ouch!)If there is a abusive situation that could escalate, then that needs to be addressed.If you are leaving mom’s side to go live with dad? You can do that, but don’t not expect to see resentment from that choice. Why are you going to do that? Because mom is harder to get along with? You have more freedom with dad? Just as children want their parents to love them equally, parents do as well. Showing favoritism toward one parent will prove problematic in the long run. So make sure you spend equal amounts of time with your parents so no one feels cheated.