How do I quit my band?
At your next practice session, say: "Hey y'all, I've really enjoyed playing with you for the last (months, years,) but I don't think I can continue. Because of (this reason), I need to stop playing music with you."If you would be leaving them in the lurch (ie, upcoming gigs,) say "Of course, I'll stick around until you've auditioned a new person to fill the spot, let's say another month?"If your bandmates are reasonable people, they'll understand. If they are also friends with you outside of playing music, make sure to go to their shows. Even if you're not, it's probably good karma to go to at least the next one or two shows after you've quit.Edit:Okay, you have some new information, and I can see why this is harder for you. Personally, I've only ever been in bands with my friends, never in bands with people I met because I was looking for bandmates. So I can understand how difficult your situation is.You don't need to tell them the part about not really digging the music. Phrase your reasoning in a way that compliments them - you could say "Hey guys, the band has been getting a lot tighter and more serious recently - I think it's amazing, but to be honest, I'm not as serious about it as you are, and I don't want to hold you back. When we started, it was just for fun - and that's all I wanted. It's really cool that you guys are serious about it, but I just don't think my singing is up to snuff - let me help you audition for a new singer, who is on the same level as you guys."Of course, band practice is a huge bonding and hangout time, and you will lose that. But you don't want to lose your friends - that's great. Just make sure, in the weeks following, that you make an effort to hang out with them all one on one and in a group. Maintain interest in the band. Go to the shows, be their biggest fan. Actions speak louder than words. Good luck!
How do I get the guts to quit my band?
Being in a band is a significant commitment of your time, your energy and your emotions. It’s got to be worth it. If you’re not getting paid for it, it had better be something you enjoy doing and at the moment, it doesn’t sound like you do.A band that doesn’t practice regularly will not be successful. Whoever you are and whatever sort of music you’re playing, practice is absolutely vital to putting together the good sound your audience deserves and - more importantly - you deserve. If anyone in the band is not willing to put in the commitment to practice regularly, they are being disrespectful to your audience and they’re being disrespectful to the rest of the band. Either they need to change their attitude, they need to leave the band or you need to leave the band.From the way you asked your question, it sounds like you’ve tried to change things from within but not been listened to. Sometimes that happens - the only thing you can do is brush the dust off your sandals and move on. You already know the right answer. There will always be another opportunity, another band.
Should I quit Band Class?
Okay, I'm a freshman percussionist and I have been in band for 3 years now. I didn't like it my first year, but my 2nd and 3rd year of band were both great! But, then I went into high school band. We have a new instructor, who is okay as long as you don't get on his bad side, and new people. I have new people since I made it into the advanced band class which is mostly composed of juniors and seniors. I'm really grateful that I made it in, don't get me wrong, and I realize how dumb it is to through a dumb oppurtunity like this away. But, I really don't enjoy band. I almost dread it because it's no longer fun anymore. I wanted to quit after the first month, but my parents told me to try it 'till at least the 1st semester is over, and then for my other semester I can decide if I want to keep it or not. Even though I'm really lucky to make it into the advanced band class, I don't like it. So should I quit and take another class like current issues, which would really help out, or bear through it to make my school record look better? Pros of staying in band: -I've made a few non-close friends from it that I talk to from time to time. -It looks good on college records -The trips are fun -I wouldn't make my admitably scary band director so angry. Cons of staying in Band -I will most likely continue dreading band class everyday. -Practice has gotten 10 times harder for me -I'm treated as unimportant mostly since I'm the worst in the percussionist section right now -If i quit band, then I can get into current issues and I would love a class like that -My stress level would be alot lower, and I would be happier -Less money would be spent as current issues is alot cheaper than band. -Probably the biggest con, is that I don't enjoy playing percussion anymore. It's not enjoyable for me. Thank you :)
Should I quit the school band?
No, don't quit... high school band will be quite different then middle school band. You will get SO many new friends in high school, which is a good thing, because in high school it's so big and those friends can help you get used to the transition. Also, being in band is great, because it's good for college applications and also you get a nice amount of credits from band class... what you put in class, you get out of it. Even after you get your fine arts and PE credits, it should go to your elective credits.....that's what happens in the high school I am going to next year. Band is very rewarding, despite all the effort. Plus, from all that exercise from marching, you'll get arm muscles... big plus! If you don't like practicing or playing, then it just becomes a whole new dimension with marching... everyone appreciates a marching band! =] It's been researched that music makes you smarter... since you always count in music, that helps with your spacial reasoning in math. Music is a science that involves timbre... playing an instrument helps hand eye coordination, which is good. So just try it out for a little bit...see if you like it! But then if you just absolutely can't live with band, then quit after getting your credits =[ If your music seems to hard for you, then try subdividing the notes and rhythms, it really helps... for example, if you have a dotted quarter note and don't get the rhythm, then play it as three 8th notes and then eventually just count those three 8th notes in your head. Being in band teaches you teamwork, discipline, responsibility, effort, and a lot more... If you have any more questions, feel free to email me.
How can I get the courage to quit my band?
It sounds to me like the problem is not being in a band. The problem is that you don't have the courage to follow your instincts and create your own life. Bands are like relationships. They succeed (making a living AND being happy) only because the people in them want to be there. Otherwise, the resentment makes everyone unhappy. Even if you could actually make a living at it, if you're miserable it's not a success. Just like a relationship, your work should fulfill you, not empty you out.At 17, I'm sure that to your friends it seems like the whole world is coming to an end if their band falls apart. It isn't. There will be plenty of other musicians and chances at building another band. Just like the couples that get married out of high school without ever dating anyone else, you won't know what you want until you get out and try more things. Maybe what you have is good, though I suspect not if you're miserable, but chances are what else you will find will be even better.I grew up in a very religious community where you were expected to conform to a certain set of behaviors. I lived the life that I thought I was supposed to until about 10 years ago. That was when I said, "Fuck this!" and began to really live. I partied, I was in a band that didn't stay together, (and it was for the better!), I've been a DJ, tried starting my own solo jazz career, picked up the cello, met all sorts of interesting people, tried all kinds of interesting things, worked on a few tech startups, and found love...in short, since I stopped doing what everyone else thought I should, my life has been pretty great. Your's will be too.
Should I quit band my senior year?
I'm debating whether to quit band or not. I really want to take AP Studio Art next year since art is something I'm more so into. However, I have been playing trumpet since the end of 5th grade. I'm in the highest band as 1st-2nd part (4th chair) shifting, and I'm in the highest jazz band as 3rd part (4th chair). I have a job, though, and I don't have time for both. I should also note I'm taking 3 AP classes (AP Calculus, AP Biology 2, and AP Psycology), along with Robotics and other extras. I'm also in NHS and work 3-4 days a week. Over the years, band has become something I've dreaded most days. At this point, I'm hanging onto the few good days to keep me motivated to go, and even that's running short. I'd much rather play other instruments on my own time, anyhow. I already figured some pros and cons out Pros of quitting: - more free time - less stress - get to take class I want Cons of quitting: - look bad on colleges?? - missing few band friends - can't do jazz band (I have to be in band in order to do jazz band) If I were to quit band, I'd take the opportunity to join Key Club, so all my time wouldn't be lost. I'd also probably end up joining my city''s community band to keep active. Band is just too overwhelming and time consuming for me, and I don't know if that's worth it my last year of school. What should I do?? (As an added note, I'm not looking to major or minor in music, but if at all possible, join a college band)
Should I quit marching band?
I am a freshman in high school, soon to be sophomore, and I was debating whether or not to quit. Here are my reasons for wanting to stay/quit STAY- 1- I love music 2- I love playing flute 3- I wish to pursue music in college so marching band would look good 4- I want to become Drum Major and change the band for the better. Because I love conducting and feel I can lead the band WHY TO QUIT 1) My dream of being Drum Major will probably not come true as this one girl who is my band directors favorite is already lined up.. 2) The same girl bullies me by telling me my marching's horrible and attempting to boss me around (shes also a freshman) This makes my time HORRIBLE 3) My band director doesn't appreciate me 4) I feel like an outsider... I know my love of music should be enough to keep me in but.. The girl makes my marching experience torture. And I cannot report it to y band director because, as he said before, he doesn't care. I would still be in concert band but not marching. My friends and family say this girl bullies me because shes jealous (I got most outstanding freshman and best new musician) but Idk. What do you think I should do?
Should I quit high school band?
I am a flute player and have been playing since fourth grade. I've just started my freshman year of high school and the music programs here are very good. However, the band is not a marching band, it's mainly a concert band only (there are jazz bands and stuff like that, but nothing else really for flutes). I just started private lessons last year in eighth grade, so I'm a bit behind all the other flutes. We have to audition so the band teacher knows how good we are, which I'm nervous for, as I'm not very good. I enjoy playing flute and have a lot of really great friends in band class (I'm proud to be a band geek!) but now we have to play with all four grades. There's no way I can keep up with seniors if I can barely do so with people in my own grade. I also am taking art as my other elective, which means I don't have a free period like everyone else in my school. Art has homework too, so I don't want to be swamped with work from art, practicing from band, sports, and homework from academic classes as well. I also come from a very musical family, so I don't want to let them down. My parents aren't the type to force me to do anything though. They only persuade me. I can get credit for taking flute lessons outside of school even if I quit band and get a free period everyday. I like the flute and playing the final result, but I hate practicing (I'm busy and when I finally have a second at ten at night, the last thing I want to do is pick up my flute!) There are so many pros and cons here... Please help me!!
Should I quit high school band ?
I've been in band since 5th grade & now I'm a sophmore. I'm in the Pipestone Area Arrow Band, and we are usually the best 2A marching band in the state of Minnesota so it is a big comitment. I play tuba but I'm also a bass trombone in our jazz band. I never go to lessons because I hate them, and I'm 1st chair and get to go to honor bands. But the other tubas in our school suck and I've never been challeged or had to really work to get 1st chair (which I think is a disadvantage). Our band is only about 90 members in marching band but about 1/4 or 1/3 is 7th and 8th graders. I hate concert band, it used to be fun but all the people who made it worth while graduated. And I am concidered to be the most into it because I'm a big DCI fan and love looking up old shows and writing drill. But Ive already a 4 year vet and idk if I can last 2 more years. I'm thinking about quitting jazz band because my winters are already busy. In my future I want to manage a guitar center. Should I just try quitting jazz band or quit altogther. By the way, my director is cool some times, but he is a trumpet so he naturually hates low brass and he is usually is a hypocritical dick.