Should I even bother reaching out to the narcissist with whom I have a relationship with if I went silent on him for something that he did (he knows what he did)? It has been a day and I want to reconcile.
Narcs don’t argue with YOU, they argue with themselves, you are merely a passenger on their soliloquy drama train to hell.They thrive in an atmosphere of drama so they don’t have to be alone with themselves.Their “ supply” comes from their victims’ negation of their ridiculous assertions. Your going“silent” on Him just adds drama and excitement as he plans the hell he is going to put you through when YOU “ reconcile.” You will be apologizing to him and he will go silent on YOU, leaving you feeling foolish and off- balance, thinking, “ wtf just happened?”Do not FEED his supply. This whole time you went “ silent” on him, he was with another supply, feeding off her.Confirm to yourself the problem is not you, it is his abusive behavior. Do not let arguments escalate- get out! He is never going to apologize- he can’t.
How come my family doesn't reach out to me?
i feel like I can't live anymore. I'm not allowed to see or speak to my blood family because I'm a bother. I'm always getting in people's way. I can't leave my house because I don't have a life. I'm isolated it's been this way since January. I can't link up with my friends cause I'm going to look like I'm lonely. I haven't left my house in since Christmas. I'm a good person but I just had to go on hiatus. I'm ussually family oriented but now that they have bigger priorities I have to leave. But lately I've had dark thoughts. I've been thinking of cutting off all contact with my family members because they have other priorities, there's no bad blood or anything but I've over stayed my welcome. My nephews birthday is tomorow but I don't think It be right of me to go, I'm also not going to my cousins wedding or my nieces wedding. Again there's no beef but that would be overstepping boundaries. I'm almost 18 & still don't have kids of my own, I'm a giant let down. I only leave my house for school. I reach out to everybody wishing them a nice day but they either tell me to **** off or just don't reply. I'm not going to off myself but I'm never showing up to anything ever again. I'm done with being sweet, I'm about to disappear like Judas.
Should I reach out to my boyfriend after a fight?
I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and yesterday I got emotional about all the things that have been bothering me with the relationship and told him on the phone. 3 major things have been bother me. 1) I'm normal weight,but he constantly asks if I'm eating healthy and losing weight. He also says he won't go to a water park till we can both fit into bathing suits nicely. He says all this in a motivating way and not a jerk way but it still makes me feel like he thinks i'm ugly... He replied that I'm taking it way too seriously and that he doesn't think im fat even though i feel it's implied. 2) he keeps shopping around for investment houses to rent out but several times now he has said he is thinking of just moving there....all these houses are 1.5 hours away from where i live. I asked how can he think of moving without discussing how it'll affect us. He called me crazy and said that he was never looking for anything besides to rent out. That's a lie, but he won't admit it and says i heard wrong - i didn't! 3) I asked why after a year of dating he has yet to say "I love you" He replied that he's shy in that way but that i'm crazy if i can't see it in the way he spends all his free time with me, holds me, looks at me etc... i agreed, but said it still hurts he hasn't directly said "i love you" He seemed really mad and said i was making big deals out of nothing and starting drama. I talked cool and collectively and told him that it has just been on my mind. He is especially mad that i still seem to think he doesn't take me serious. we haven't talked since yesterday evening and i'm wondering if i should reach out to him with a call or text. Or if i should let things settle for a few days?
Why do people never reach out to me?
Are you of no importance to them?!! Maybe. Are you of no importance to yourself? Hell no.There is this one piece of lesson I have learnt the hard way is, eventually everybody leaves . Leaving doesn't mean that they go somewhere or die. It means they leave the present time frame of your life. This doesn't mean that they haven't realised your value. It is just that life has gotten in the way, and they are busy straightening up theirs. Everyone on the planet is consumed by their sense of purpose. They try to figure out why and to achieve what ,were they born. And in this race to create a niche, they tend to forget that the prime destiny might actually be to enjoy and socialise with fellow beings. You must brace yourself up. Their presence (or rather absence ) from your life must not make you feel low. It is a good thing that you know that the people you have been with till now don't go out of their way to be with you. This brings you to a point where you can let go of the sadness attached to this fact, and keep looking for the people who would do anything to be with you. By letting go, I don't mean you should stop calling them up. I just mean you should stop feeling bad if they don't do the same. Go hunt for soulmates. And by soulmates , I mean best friends. 7 billion people out there. It would in fact help you discover yourself and you would be the perfect being with so much yet to experience.
Would you reach out to someone who was annoyed with you, or let them reach out?
Feeling attracted to someone has a powerful influence upon our decision making process. For many of us love is developed somewhere along the dating or friendship journey and is a powerful force that we often feel helpless to guide or steer. We can and should guide this powerful force especially at the start of the journey before our sails are set and our adventure together is underway.In the early stages of developing a relationship having feelings for someone can and often does cloud our ability to see aspects of a person's character that we may normally be able to identify as warning signs.I would encourage you to be careful, to be very careful with people that do not do what they say they will do. People can and do change, yet if someone is interested in you they will make time for you just like you would for them. When evaluating a potential relationship opportunity ask yourself is this person someone i can trust?What evidence do I have to trust or distrust them?If marriage is the goal of your dating relationship here is a humorous and thought provoking TED talk by Jenna McCarthy.
I told a guy he can reach out to me again if he's single (now he's taken). He said he will and later on he blocked me. What should I do? What did I do wrong?
Two things here:First, whilst we are all aware that not all relationships are meant to last forever, by stating he can always reach to you when he will be single again, you just gave an expiration date to his couple.And one that is rather sooner than later, otherwise you wouldn't bother to wait that long to see him coming back.This is amongst the worst kinds of omen you can hear, especially when your relationship is quite recent.Secondly, you just closed the door yourself.By this offer, what you gave as a subtext, is that you're only interested in him either in a romantic context or a sexual one, and you don't bother about anything possible outside of this area, could it be friendship, or just even remaining acquaintances.I would say: this guy was very pragmatic.If you're solely concerned about my heart and my penis, they're not available.So why should we keep on talking?
If I reach out to record producers and artist on Twitter, do I have a good chance of being discovered?
For starters, I hate it when people mention YouTube and social networks. Realistically, you have a better chance of winning the lottery multiple times than you do getting signed by YouTube or your social network presents alone. There is a wrong way and a correct way to introduce yourself into the industry... And I'm going to tell you the correct way. Anyone whom is serious about a career in the music industry should consult with multiple Music/Entertainment Attorneys and find one they'd feel comfortable working with. This is not just just for Artists, but for everyone. The music industry is an industry of legalities and trust... Thus, there is no better resource for an Artist to have than that of a knowledgeable Attorney. For the most part, your Attorney will act as your Agent. They will conduct business on your behalf. They will utilize their resources to help you get to where you need to be. After all, who is a Music/Entertainment Attorney's clientele...? Music Producers, Agents, Managers, Record Labels, Recording Studios...etc. An Attorney is your connection to the industry. What does every mediocre Rapper you hear on the radio have in common? They all have legal representation. If you are serious about getting discovered by the industry, don't bother with Twitter or any social network. Invest in a good Attorney and let them connect you to the people that matter. Most Artists fail because of they do not know the importance of legal representation or they are simply too intimidated to bother. Without legal consult, don't expect to get signed if you haven't already won the lottery.