Should I Stick By My Wife Who Is In Jail What Are The Advantages Of Allowing My Daughter To Visit

Should I let my 18-year-old daughter sleep over at her boyfriend's house?

First, she's reached the age of sexual majority in the US. It is her decision and not yours now.Second, is SHE Catholic? If not, then again, it's her decision and not yours.Third, in YOUR home, you can make any (legally permissible) rules you wish to make and enforce them. This includes disallowing sex between non-married people, period. She can remedy this by being elsewhere, which she soon will be anyway, at Uni.Fourth, you have no legal right to forbid her to do anything legal outside of the home, whether it's sex, playing the lottery or smoking tobacco.If you want her to abstain, clearly that ship sailed LONG ago and is presumed lost at sea. You cannot undo what has already transpired.You are at a crossroads: You may choose to hold onto your attachment to your practices and attempt all sorts of ways to manipulate her into adhering to them or you can let go of them, reducing your stress, and permit her to make her own decisions... and mistakes as needed. Be available to answer questions or soothe the hurts, but you had your 18 years chance. Time to let go and trust her to watch out for herself.Otherwise, you risk losing her altogether and creating a resentment that could take decades, if ever, to overcome.Look at the big picture, let go of your attachments and trust in all your prior years of effort. Every person has a different path through life and sometimes you just have to watch the bruises as they occur and stand ready with the arnica gel to soothe them.Good luck.

How do weaker inmates survive in prison?

Prison does not have to be hard. Regardless of your physical or mental stature, there are a few rules that you must follow in order to expect to survive prison unscathed. Bear in mind that these rules have nothing to do with the rules of whatever facility you're incarcerated in. These rules are convict rules, and are standard for every prison yard in the US.Do not tell on anybody, for any reason.Do not fraternize with convicts of another race than your own. If you do, understand that you are putting your life or your health at risk.Mind your own business at all times, and use 100% of your common sense at all times.There will be seating arrangements divided by race in the chow hall. Learn this and remember it.Wash your hands before exiting the bathroom every time you use it. And maintain good hygiene in general. I have seen people beaten severely for not showering daily.Defer to, and show respect to the older convicts. You do not get to survive prison to old age by accident.There may be times when you are directly challenged by another convict. If this happens, you must be prepared to respond physically. Do not hesitate. Even if you are beaten, it is okay because you fought. (This is what is known as being “stand up.”) If you try to talk your way out of it or refuse to fight, your suffering will be legendary afterward.Do not gamble, borrow, or use drugs that you get “up front” with the promise that you'll pay later without knowing beyond doubt that you'll be able to pay.If you “PC up” (ask a guard to place you in protective custody) bear in mind that anywhere you go from that point forward, somebody will be there who remembers that you PC’d up. This will get you severely beaten or killed, eventually. Don't do it.Following those rules will ensure that you make it to the other end of your sentence intact. Combined with a good exercise routine, and a lot of reading, you'll be a better person when you are released than you were when you got there. Everyone is “weaker” than someone else, at some point. Don't worry about it, just follow those rules, and you'll be okay.Edit: These guidelines are indicative of prisons in the Western / Southwestern US in the late 1990s and early 2000s. I welcome all comments from convicts who were released more recently than 2006 who have information that runs contrary to what I’ve written above. My goal here is to be right, more so than to seem right.