How do i stop? caring?
tricky one. It really is about you and how you feel about yourself. Unfortunatly she is part of his package in respect to the kids. It is unnessary for her to message all the time unless it is relevant to the kids. It is also up to him to do something about that, because thats his side to sort out. I would look at building your self up as far as self esteem and make sure you still have a great life outside him and his kids. If you feel good about yourself, then things sometimes dont seem that bad. Good luck
How to stop caring about an ex?
The reason many people are addicted to the idea of love is because its effect on the brain is hardly any different than some drugs, Relationships are like drugs you get all these high feelings the thought of them makes you happy and excited to get some more of them, brain feel good chemicals are high but once their gone your brain is still seeking that thrill sometimes they return to the ex, sometimes run to someone else.. we know this is true we see it all the time, and you get the same withdraws as if you were quitting prescription oxycodone, the only way you can cure that is going cold turkey, in which I mean cutting off all communication with him change your number etc, ex's like messaging you out of the blue guys will do this.. hearing from him or looking at photos is just gonna strike things up in your mind because you never completed to mental separation sequence, and im pretty sure the reason you haven't got over him is because maybe photos of him and definantly messages from were just that extra part you had to get rid off, so yeah, go cold turkey, get a new phone new number block his facebook or whatever. Whenever I've broken up with someone, i give my farwell or tell them to go jump and literally remove all forms of contact they possibly have of making communication with me thats way you know theres no point of caring about them since its now pretty much impossible for them to be part of your life. And from what you tell me your busy with your life and friends anyway.. your all set, some chicks got nothing happening in their life but new boyfriends and don't move mentally not even one bit over years, im glad that isn't you haha. And don't listn to those people who say you will always have a soft spot, that a young person thing, were only young, by the time your 26 or earlier or have a husband and screaming kids or found the one they wont exist to have any matter in your mind whatsoever, go ask you rmum and her friends if they care about any ex's from when they were 21, they probably wont remember the name lol.
How can I stop caring for my bf?
100% yes. Its called loving yourself and putting yourself at the top of your priorities list. Its called having goals, and a life plan. You need to have other interests besides your boyfriend. If your boyfriend is your whole life, then he has a lot of control over your emotions. But, if you love yourself and invest in yourself and get out and live in a world that includes a lot more than just your boyfriend - you will find there is a lot more to life than just some jerk who is probably using you. You need to set up dating rules too. If a guy hurts you, that should be a sign that you are not demanding that he treat you with respect. What are your dating rules? Do you have any? A guy that really loves you should call you, plan dates for you, do nice things for you, treat you with respect, be dependable, pick you up on time, be there for you when you need him, listen to you, care about your goals and dreams, respect your friends and family, be reliable, if he hurts you he should be willing to make it up to you. You should also notice a pattern of his behavior. Because its easy to forget that last fight you had. He could be repeating the same mistakes over and over and because you let him, he thinks its OK. So, start keeping track of the fights and what he is doing to hurt you. A pattern should be revealed. Keep track of his good actions as well as his bad actions. I dated a guy for a long time that started fights on purpose so he could go out with the guys without me. Then, after he had his fun, he would do the dirty work of winning me back. Only to start a fight again when he wanted to go out and party. His friend finally told me that he did that. After his friend told me he was starting fights on purpose, I could see the pattern of his bad treatment of me. I broke up with him and he was devastated. So, learn from my mistake. You need dating rules. Teach a guy that it is NOT OK to break a dating rule. Ditch him if he continues to break your dating rules. And MOST DEFINITELY find other things in life that bring you happiness. You need to see that other things can bring you joy, not just your boyfriend. Get out and live! Do good at work or school. Have a hobby or a talent. It can be as simple as knowing how to bake homemade bread to learning how to fly a plane. The point is, get good at something, enjoy something besides just your boyfriend.
How do i stop caring too much about people?
Dear good friend of ours within the bounds of this great cyberspace, a higher percentage of the total care that you can muster in your life in way of help should be reserved unto yourself. You might try and think that you always come first in the vicissitudes of your own life. You might decide that from now on you will have to care about yourself before you can care about others. When you do care all too much about others, when you do give too much of your good attention to others for free, it can be all too much of the good that you can give, too much of a good thing. Others might acquaint to that, they might end up taking it for granted that you should care for them; they might even get tired of it or start ignoring it. About people, about family, lover, colleague, friend and or good stranger you might try and make your presence more rare and more precious. Not in the sense of being haughty and egoistic, but in the sense of dedicating more of your time and resources to the good care of yourself, to the dreams of glowing own self-realization that you may have. In this most often dangerous world of unfair rivals, of foes, of detractors or of impostors or of prowling perverts, you might try and adopt more the cunning style of the proverbial fierce astute good old fox for hopefully your own better survival. In this world of necessary hopefully good and fair interactions with others, you are the braver co-pilot of your own life, you are the fiercer daring higher-flying co-pilot unto your own destiny. Thus, in whatever you are doing and loving to do or are supposed to do, on your own or in hopefully good creative interactions with others, you are ever more diligently working at building up, or more ardently adding up to, some great events and some good perhaps wonderful memories for a future, your own future. Thus also you might try and do. Remember, while you are facing the events and the difficult challenges in your life, it must be you coming first; it is your own good life that is most precious for you. Do now have chances of lots of great merry laughs in loving company or more sublimely all on your own.