How do you tell your cousin that their father molested you?
You might want to tell that to the police first and/or to an adult that can keep you safe if you are underage. Molesting is very serious stuff, and if you tell your cousin they might tell their father and things could get complicated.If you need assistance, refer to a social worker or call the help line that is most convenient for your zone (you will find it on google).Also let me know how this went, if you feel like it :)
My cousin molested me?
im 29 now, and still comes back the memories, my cousin molested us my sister and my female cousin. now, my sister is already married and have 2 children. and my female cousin is already in canada, married and happy. I'm the only one single. I hate it when i see my cousin who molested us.one time when were in vacation, the family reunion, we had shower, me and my sister outside the comfort room that has shower, but we had are cothed on, when the rapist cousin looking on us obviously. Now that rapist cousin is alreay in dubai, married , but you know, he has no children , he's been married 5 or 6 years ago. still no children, which is very good, because the children will be rape. he molested his sister and us sibling. so the probality it will hapen again in their children right. one time, i ask the wife , if they will have children, what gender is their preference, and the wife said jason wants a girl. I got scared when i heard that answer. If she only knew what happend to us. If i dont have shame i tell them the truth. but now, i told my parents about it. For our security. I dont want to happen again. atleast before i die , my parents will know already. And you know what, that rapist , he even joined the choire in church. I just want to tell you this guys, just want a piece of advise , its hard for me to forget and forgive and move on. It brings back the memories. Thanks
How do I tell my cousin her father was a pedophile?
When my daughter was 4 I left her with my mom to go to the store. I was visiting. My mom went to bed while I was gone. It was 7 o'clock. I knocked and knocked and went to the front door. There was my stepfather with my daughter's head in his lap and his pants were unzipped. He was pushing her head down. He was rocking in a rocking chair. If I said anything I would have been victimized and thrown out of the family. I already had a lot of problems in it. I was in a custody battle. I chose to keep quiet and never leave my daughter there again. My daughter became a disturbed person. I paid the price too as she does not speak to me. I questioned her and she said nothing happened. He may have been getting ready. What I am saying is that it is a gamble as your cousin may never speak to you or she may have been molested by her father. We all have to decide. Pedophiles are often protected and the others and victims punished. I cannot believe I am telling this story but maybe I can help someone else. Life is hard. I have very little contact with my family as I was always the scapegoat or outcast. These decisions will change all.
My cousin molested me.?
my older cousin by several years used to molest me. when we used to visit every year, he used to sneak into my room and into my bed and stick his hand in my underwear. we stopped visiting for a couple years until i was 12 & he used to use get like really close, touch my butt in the pool. but i forced myself to say the pool thing was an accident--he just bumped in to me. i never told anyone because i forgot when we didn't visit. i forced it out of my head and forgot so good, that i couldn't ever figure out why i was so uncomfortable with him. i remember now that i used to tell him to stop, that i didn't like it. he was never agressive because i was a kid and i didn't know what to do besides jus lie there and accept it. the first time he did this was when i was 8. the most recent--only butt touching--was about 3 years ago when i was 12 or around there. i never told anyone, never hinted that i was bothered because i repressed the memories. but i had a dream that made me remember and now it's bothering me. i don't like people coming into my bedroom, getting too close, or touching me in anyway since that dream a few nights ago. is there anything i can do about this? i don't want to go to therapy because i've been to therapy before and they don't tell me anything i don't already know. i'm not scared of him, i'm not depressed, i know it's not my fault, i know that the people i care about won't do that to me even though i still don't want them touching me. i wanted to know if i could take like legal action or something? there's no proof that he used to do anything. it was so long ago and i'm afraid that he won't remember or something. there's also no evidence because it was so long ago and i've had sex. also, they live in vegas, i live in hawaii, and we never see them that much. hegoes to college and i don't think there's any reason anyone would believe he did wrong to me because he was such a good kid in high school and now he goes to college, etc. but i want to do something about it. like make sure he gets what he deserves. but what can i do? also, how do i tell my parents or my brothers? i've only told my best friend yesterday because she's been through the same thing, only her parents found out because it got around school and her counselor called her in old her parents, and they called cps.
What should I do if my cousin molested me?
My cousin has been molesting me since I was about 4 years old. But back then I didn't know what was going on, he always told me we were going to play princess and then would come and kiss me with his tongue and take off my pants. Although I was young, he was too, he's only 4 years older than me. One time when he was at my house, his mom made me take his phone and use it for the whole day because he was sexting. When I had the phone he had received a text from my cousin Jennifer who is 1 year older than me. She had said to him, "I can't do this anymore. I just don't like you like that." After seeing this, I was curious so I looked in his past messages and saw that he had told her that he had wanted to do stuff with her. I showed it to my parents and they just shrugged it off and yelled at him. My Aunt recently sent him to come live with us for a whole year and last night he pulled me into his room and started putting his hand down my pants. I was so scared so I didn't say anything, and eventually he took off my pants and he tried to have sec with me. I ended us kicking him and running into my room and locking my door. I was so upset I started crying and eventually went into my mom's room to tell her, but the words wouldn't come out. Just the other day, I told my best friend what he did to me on the bus and I started getting all worked up and I eventually started crying. She told me she was going to tell my parents and then I told her that Iwould never talk to her again. But I'm beginning to think it would be better if she told rather than myself. What should I do? What would help?
I was raped by my cousin when I was 5/6/7. Should I tell my father or my mother first about this experience?
I’m so glad you’ve decided to tell someone. The biggest problem with victims from when they were children that I hear over and over again is that it isn’t happening to me anymore so why bring it up? It’s the reasoning I naively held to for several years as an adult until I was presented with the evidence that it was happening to someone else. Abusers like this thrive because children rarely tell and even as they get older they think that it is over and don’t want to cause problems. These abusers get away with it because they exist in the shadows. However, the pathology of these abusers is that if they do it once, they will do it again, likely to dozens of other children. So I”m so glad you have decided to expose him.Ideally, I would tell both of them at the same time. Sit them down and tell them. If it is difficult for you to do so, write it out as a letter. Make sure there are no uncertain terms, no maybes or sort of. State that it happened.If you think one of them might resist or not be able to handle it, pick whichever one you think is more likely to believe and support you and then let them loop the other one in.Thank you for doing this and I wish you the best.
My cousin molested me when i was little?
what the f.u.c.k did i just read o_O
Cousin accused my dad of molesting her, what would you do in this situation?
5 years ago my cousin accused my dad of touching her inappropriately. She was 13 years old then and has said things like this before about 8 other men in her life. She also lies about other things. I feel bad for her because this behavior in a 12 year old probably means she actually was molested at one time. My dad says what happened was she took his hand and moved it onto her body then he quickly pulled his hand away and told her it was inappropriate. I believe my dad. He has 2 daughters and nothing like that ever happened to either of us while growing up. He also loves kids and always treats them appropriately. Legal action was not taken and her mom (my aunt) still has a good relationship with both of my parents. My cousin and aunt have stayed overnight at my parents' house since the incident without anything happening. My cousin is now 17, she still lies and it's 100 times worse now. She's a big troublemaker. She an dmy aunt are coming to town for Thanksgiving and my aunt wants my cousin to stay with my bf and I in our apartment instead of her sleeping at my parents' house. I refused because of all the trouble she has caused in the past, I don't feel like she should be my responsibility. My aunt got very offended. I'm afraid my cousin might claim my bf did something to her, or that she might run away or drink or use drugs while she is in my house and I would be responsible for it! Did I do the right thing? My cousin is 17 now
How do I ask my cousin if his mother is molesting him?
Hi, you are not helping them by enabling the abuser to continue the abuse. Just ask him! LET HIM KNOW HE IS NOT AT FAULT...HE'S NOT IN TROUBLE AND HE DID ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG. What has happened to all of you has, and will, affect portions of your life forever. If something isn't done NOW to protect them their life could be ruined. I can tell you this for two reason. I worked for many years with families, sexual abuse, all forms of abuse and , the fact that my daughter was sexually abused by her grandfather for years. I won't go into sordid detail. What I will say is her life is RUINED. She's mentally ill, cannot have meaningful relationships, has flash backs, she's suicidal....she's a MESS!!! You can prevent your cousins from going through a life where they have to live like my daughter does. Report this to DHS!!! Everything is kept strictly confidential!! You never know, he, or they, may be being abused by someone other than their Mother. Kids that are sexually abused, many times, grow up to be abusers. PLEASE!! Protect those kids if you love them so much!!! They will not be mad at you. They won't even know it was you that reported. You could even suggest that they could stay with you if the need arises and you have room. They may be left in the home with the parents having to agree to family services and counseling. What ever happens, it will be much better than staying silent and being sexually abused! Good luck!! JOSA This is in response to the details you added. There may not be enough to start an investigation because you have not gotten validation from your cousin about the abuse you suspect. Right now it is a suspicion. So, I can understnad why they said that. If you can convince your cousin to confide in you then you will have substantial information to give to them. Personally, I don't like the hotline because the people that answer the phones are not trained child abuse investigators. Once you have your information, call DHS and ask to speak to a child abuse investigator. That's where you start. If you feel so strongly about this, and I feel you should after you cousin's response, then don't give up!! Good luck!! JOSA