Getting a girl pregnant and ditching responsibilities?
you're right he is scum! He has know values. I hate to say it but she is lucky to not have his baby because its not fair that she would have a baby with a boy who will not be a father to that baby. Its not fair that she would of had to raise that child all alone. She has her whole life ahead of her and when the time is right she can be with a person that will love and adore her and she can start a family and be happy. I'm sure it must of been really hard for her and may still and always be hard for her to get over. She needs to be strong and move on with her life and realize that she should be with someone that will take care of her love her and want to spend his life with her. If the guy has a loving family with a mother and a father more then likely he will want the same thing! The guy that got her pregnant was just a boy! He simply just still wants to play the Field and doesn't want responsibility. He probably figures if he doesn't know about it, it wont bother him. Yeah he may have offered but he didn't come when she needed him. she should of included him during the process because then it becomes real to him. but since it is over then it is over. I hope that she has you for support or someone who can help her cope with this kind of tragedie. She needs encourgment and support to move on from all of this. I hope the best for her and i hope she doesnt go back with that guy! Good luck
Why should it be the bride & grooms responsibility to hire a babysitter for their guests kids?
I'm so glad your brought up this question. I happen to agree with your 100%. I'm not a parent, but I think about what my parents did when I was younger. I never went to weddings or other adult events. I remember going to Grandma's house, spending the night with my cousins or one of my aunts coming over to watch me. My parents never made a fuss of it. They would say, "we are going to a wedding tonight and Aunt So and So is coming over to watch you." My mom would make us an early dinner, have us take our bathes and get us in your PJs. She might rent us a movie or buy us a new board game to play with our aunt. My mom never whined about us not being invited or someone else providing child care for her children. I'm guessing this idea/trend wasn't even imagined up yet and parents still thought of this as their sole responsibility. Now, as an adult, I'm against the whole babysitting thing at a wedding. I'm a teacher and it just playing into a whole trend I'm seeing with parents. It's lack of accountability. Why on EARTH would a parent ever have the nerve to believe it's someone else's duty to find/organize and pay for a sitter for THEIR children. It blows my mind. I mean, what's next? Are people going to start sending the bride and groom bills for the cost of their private and personally picked child care. If your cousin Anne doesn't want to leave her child with the babysitter who's at the reception, does she have the right to send you a bill for $100, because's that's how much the sitter she hired costed? It's just rude. You'd never ask the bride & groom to pay for the gas you used to get to the reception or your husband's new shirt and tie. So, why the child care? I understand it's expensive to have a sitter. But, it's not someone else's responsibility to pay for your child's care. If parents can't afford a sitter or wish not to leave their children with one, they have the right to decline. If they feel it's unfair they have to miss the wedding, then they are being selfish. You can't have both all the time. But, I can't even express how much I'm against this idea. It's just NOT the responsiblity of the bride & groom to pay a sitter for other people's children.
As a responsible father what are all the things should I teach my kids?
I received this in a Whatsapp message:1. Don't educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be Happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things not the price.2. "Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food"3. The One who loves you will never leave you because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he will find one reason to hold on.4. There is a lot of difference between human being and being human. A Few understand it.5.You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between You have to manage...!Nice line from Ratan Tata's Lecture: If u want to Walk Fast, Walk Alone..! But if u want to Walk Far, Walk Together..!!Six Best Doctors in the World1.Sunlight2.Rest3.Exercise4.Diet5.Self Confidence &6.FriendsMaintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy healthy lifeIf you see the moon ..... You see the beauty of God ..... If you see the Sun ..... You see the power of God ..... And .... If you see the Mirror ..... You see the best Creation of GOD .... So Believe in YOURSELF..... We all are tourists & God is our travel agent who already fixed all our Routes Reservations & Destinations So! Trust him & Enjoy the "Trip" called LIFE...
Should society assume more responsibility for pregnant teenagers and the children they bear?”?
nope....I was a pregnant teenager (pregnant 4 months before I turned 18). We have always took responsibility for our children. A month or two ago I thought the worst would happen because my husband lost his job and couldn't find another one, but luckily he did and thanks to him I can go back to school this year.
How many of you would call CPS on a friend?
I am just curious as to if any of you would call on a friend. personally I would. no matter how good of a friend it is i would feel the responsibility to protect the children. i have a friend who witnesssed a friend of hers beating her child and instead of calling CPS she just told her she didn't want to see it again.
Do you believe your parents should be your friends?
yes
Parenting: Is it responsible for my girlfriend to leave her daughter with friends so we can spend the night together?
I would say no in most situations. In my case, most "friends" aren't parents and can't comprehend what it is like to care for a child. I'm also of the belief that a mother or father that ends up without their partner should have absolutely zero focus on dating. The kid came to this world by their doing and they owe it to the kid to see him/her through until adulthood at all costs. THAT is responsible.I would give you a much longer and detailed answer if I knew more about the friends, the daughter's age and your age and the mother's age as well as socio economic status.I'm appalled at some of the answers I read by other parents, given the little amount of information about the question. If you look at most crimes and accidents that occur with children when away from parents, these happen with very trusted friends and family so how much the mother trusts someone can be utterly irrelevant. A better stance would be how capable are the people babysitting.edit:--- There's an interesting conversation going on in the comments of this answer if you want to weigh in...
Should parents be a friend to their child, or a disciplinarian?
Well, neither, if you want a well-balanced child. Parents should be friendly to their child, and respectful at all times, but not a friend. Being a friend puts you at the same level as your child and you need to be above your child in authority. But having authority over child comes with responsibility not to abuse it, which being a disciplinarian can easily be. To properly discipline your child means teaching him…right from wrong, how to deal with frustrations, people, life, the world, everything. A child needs to be given, within appropriate boundaries, the freedom to make choices and make mistakes, and to earn his own victories. Simply setting down the law and enforcing makes you the house police, not a parent because all the child will do is learn to follow rules to keep out of trouble, there will be no internalizing of responsibility. You will get desired behavior but not for the right reasons, plus you risk alienating your child. On the other hand if you are simply your kid's friend they will have no firm boundaries, which are needed for a child to feel secure in the world, and you will have little to no real authority over your child. A child will not respect you if you value their friendship over what is actually best for them. So the answer here is a very firm neither.
My best friend is 13 and pregnant, should she keep the baby?
I would suggest not having an abortion. While I don't condone having sexual relationships at such a young age, I don't believe the child should suffer. She really needs to talk to her parents about what to do because her decision will totally involve them. They need to discuss: - Are the parents willing to help her raise the child? If so, how much support are they going to give (financially, parental education, etc...)? - What steps do they take to get some financial support from the father (possibly his parents could help)? - Discuss plans for college and the living arrangement for her child if she goes to college out of the area and can not afford to rent an apartment. Basically, this is the time that she has to look seriously at where she wants to be and what she wants to do in her life. If she can't handle the major changes, I would suggest adoption like the rest of the individuals. Abortion is truly up to her and the father.