Should I go to his house?
This guy and I have been good friends for a year. He used to live about 2 minutes away from me, now he moved, and it takes about 20 minutes. Should I go visit him? We have a past of fooling around with each other, but we never had sex, and I am unsure if that is the only reason he wants me to come over. I want to see him, cause we've been good friends for a year. Also, would it look desperate of me if I went to his house that's out of my way? So, should I go or not? What should I say if I don't end up going? I'd feel bad if I didn't go, since I haven't seen him for a couple weeks. Any advice? Thanks. (Don't suggest anything else we can do; I want to know specifically if I should go to his house). **I DO pick a best answer!**
Should I go to my boyfriends house?
Listen to your friends. You are too young to have sex right now, especially with someone that you haven't been dating for very long. No man with honorable intentions would invite you over if his mother is not at home! He is not respecting you ... he's trying to use you. You sound sweet, but vulnerable. Don't go. Just tell him maybe someday you'd like to come over if his mother is at home, and then if you are still a couple when you are a few years older, maybe private time together can happen then. But not now. Period. If he doesn't like it, then he's not worth having. There will be other nice men out there for you if you keep yourself out of sexual trouble now!
Only you can decide this by weighing the pros and cons as well as listing your reasons for doing so.Why do you want to move to your dad's home?Are you angry or upset with your mother?Will this put you at odds with your parents, or your parents with one another?Will you still be in close proximity to your friends, school and job?Are you moving simply to have more freedom?Will you have plenty of privacy at your dad's?How will this affect both parents?Do you get along better with your dad?Will you live with other people at your dad's?If you change your mind, will your mom take you back?You can probably come up with more questions and thoughts. Hopefully these will give uoj something to think about.
It depends on how long-term you see this relationship being. Are you going to marry this boy? When you marry someone, you marry their family, too.Which means, if you can’t stand being around this woman, a really difficult decision lies ahead.You may decide a relationship with this man is impossible and incompatible.Alternatively, he may choose to “reject” or “disown” (at least emotionally) his mother in order to be with you. If you are minors this may not be possible right now, but something to consider for the future.The above two options are undesirable outcomes, but the third option is the hardest of all: The two of you are just going to need to sort it out and work out how to get along. It may be that your boyfriend needs to confront his mother and make her aware how her comments make you feel and how she is potentially ruining his relationship with you. Or you need to stand up for yourself. Or maybe you just need a heart-to-heart to better understand each other, until you and her learn to show love to each other. This really depends on what the social dynamics in this family is like.You could do none of the above and just “endure” bad treatment from your boyfriend’s mother, possible future mother-in-law if marriage is in the future.I would like to stress that none of the above options are wrong options. I think the third option is the hardest to accomplish but also the one with potentially the most desirable outcome, but it may not depend on you, and it really has to do with how much you are willing to invest in the relationship. Ultimately it may end up being her decision, not yours. He’ll also need to agree to support you in this.I believe that a great relationship with one’s in-laws can potentially be one of the most valuable relationships in a person’s adult life, and a destructive relationship can be devestating. I think it’s a shame when a person’s parents fail to be uplifting and supportive of their child’s choice, because it can be one of the final gifts they can give to their child as they leave childhood, and it has been my experience that this relationship is primarily in the parent’s control, as I’ve never met a single soul who wanted a bad relationship with their chosen partner’s parents.The exception is when there are serious objections to that person’s character, such as when that person is abusive or cruel. However, I am assuming that you’re not that kind of person and that she has no real reason to be hurtful towards you.
Boyfriend won't let me go to his house?
It sounds like he feels awkward/uncomfortable when y'all hang out together around his parents. It has absolutely nothing to do with you personally, so don't take this the wrong way. Your probably his first serious gf, so this is the first time he would hang out with a gf around his parents. He is either an only child, only child thats a male, or youngest in the family. Any one (or combination) of these would make it hard for his parents to accept that their son is growing up. As a result, his parents would (unintentionally) make it very awkward for him when he starts bringing a gf around. When he hangs out with you he wants to be in a comfortable environment, like your house. He just says his room is messy because he feels like he would hurt your feelings if he told you he feels uncomfortable. Its a tricky thing to explain without making a girl feel bad.
Should I go to my mother in law house or not?
Ok, first of all thank you for helping. Need advice. Background, I had enough of my sister in law and one day she went to my room and started yelling at me and my husband. She said so many things, and I got really MAD, I turned into a person that I didn't even know I could be. Anyway I got up and hit her in the face and pulled her hair until my husband got me away from her. I had never fought in my life before, but this is how mad she made me. I yelled at her "Get out of my house, right now you bla bla bla bla, But start walking now cause I want to see you out of my house Right NOW!" So she left, this happened a month ago. I talked to my mother in law and I apologized to her and she understood why I reacted that way (she knows her daughter). Now of course she doesn't go to my house, which makes me happy, but I am not sure if I should go to my mother in law's house or not? My sister in law lives there, and I don't want to talk to her for a few months maybe a couple of years. If I go, I don't want her to think that she can come to my house too, and also what if she kicks me out of her house, well it's not her house it's her moms. Or if I don't go than i will have to skip every family get together. I love my husband and I don't want to get him away from his family. As for his sister, yeah at some point I loved her, but she insisted in making my life miserable everytime she was at our house. O yeah by the way I am 22 and she is 20. Please if you can give me a good advice I will really appreciate it. Thank you!
Hi!Depends upon your relationships I mean if you go well with In laws then go and spend some good time with his parents, If not then go to your parents house, if you can’t go to any of this go to (his/yours)siblings…If not your friends.If not then take your CV and find any job for your survival like hotel or school, grab newspaper and get any job even as nanny a temp job.If not go to Temple/ Mosque/Sikh Temple or Church…”GOD House”, some God house needs people to work and in few God houses they need people for food preparation, flower beads preparation…Finally nothing works don’t worry instead of falling for prey or ruining your life away it’s better to die, so give your life away!I am just sharing my opinions and my feelings and I hope it should be taken in good faith.We all have our principles in life so choice accordingly some might compromise and some won’t so what you feel is best in that situation even for that matter R.I.P go for it.If you don’t want to be a burden on anyone and you don’t wont help or favours then let lord help you.Hope I answered/ help.
If it causes you great mental anguish, stay at home with Dad. You can send her a card that expressed your love for her and tell her it is just too soon and your emotional about her decisions. Or, you could get her and newbie a gift and go to dinner, and try to be as understanding as possible.
Neither. Go shopping with her, buy the house, and put it in a trust that pays for all maintenance, improvements, insurance, and taxes. This will do three things for you:First, it protects her in case she ever needs to accept public funds. No state can force her to sell a house that isn’t hers.Second, it protects you when she dies. You don’t have to pay inheritance taxes on a house that’s already yours, and your siblings or her new husband/boyfriend/informal life partner cannot claim a piece of the property.Third, it gives you time with your Mom. Personally, I would never want one of my sons to just buy me a house sight-unseen. I would want a home that will allow me to age gracefully, is in a safe neighborhood, isn’t in the flight path of an airport, has decent public transportation, is reasonably close to a major medical center, has no stairs, and a whole host of other features and amenities that really aren’t that important at 63, but will become critical to my health and safety in - say - 25 years when I have trouble walking, seeing, and hearing.I do have to say this: What a wonderful son you are! Bless you for caring for your mother with such generosity!
Possibilities include:Misses you and hopes to see you outside or through a window.Wants to see if there is a new car there all the time, possibly belonging to a new love.Keeps wanting to stop by and see you but keeps losing the nerve to knock on your door.Wants to break in when you’re not home but you’re always home when they drive by.Has a new friend or date who lives near you so has to drive down your street.Wants to confront a new lover if he sees him outside.Wants to confront you if he sees you outside.Wants to do you harm and waiting for the right opportunity when no one else is around.Has a favorite business he frequents in your neighborhood. Broke up with you but not with that business.Is used to driving that way out of habit and hasn’t changed his habits.